Were you attracted to your partner or husband at first sight?

[ChipsCheeseAndGravey]

I was taking to a friend the other day who was saying how when she met her partner she was taken a back by how handsome he was (can’t say I see if I’m honest but I kept that to myself). It got me thinking - when I first saw my partner I didn’t think he was that attractive. He had and still does have a great face but he had this fucking awful haircut. He had a mullet with a rat tail I shit you not. My original plan was to leave after one drink, but about half way through the first pint I knew he was the one for me, rat tail and all. Now the haircut is a distant memory and we both laugh about it. But I want to know:

Were you attracted to your DP or DH at first sight?

If not, how long before you were physically attracted to them and what changed?

No. He wasn't my usual type, 17 years older, 5'4 in height, skinny and bald. But I have always thought personality is more important when it comes to marrying and being the future father to my children. He used to be so generous, funny and kind, and emotionally supportive, that's what drew me in. People we both knew made comments to us and our families, basically saying what am I doing with him and how they couldn't believe it. I couldn't believe how people would say this out loud!!

Oh god yes!
I spotted him across a crowded room- literally- and thought ' wow!'
Manoeuvred myself closer, got chatting and now we've been together 32 years. I can't believe it really.

He doesn't look the same now of course but he's still very attractive.

Yes and still am after 14 years!

Yes! We were introduced at an event, and I was immediately drawn to him. Tall, slim, dark wavy hair, the biggest brown eyes. Bit of a big nose and a serious face. Literally looked like someone out of a gothic romance novel/period drama. Then he opened his mouth and had the loveliest Norwegian accent, and I was hooked! 😂

Thankfully he also turned out to be very clever, witty, and gentle so all of that mooning wasn't for nothing. I still look at him and swoon now, ten years on with a few more wrinkles and more grey in his hair. He's bloody lovely!

Immediately in person! His profile pictures on the dating site weren't great, but in real life, he stepped out of the car and my heart started pounding, as my mind went into overdrive telling me not to mess this up! Looks wise, he ticked every single box (even silly little things I wouldn't mention as they seem weird!) We had a fantastic first date. It's been a year and a half now, and I've known I'd marry him from about week 2!

Absolutely blown away by how gorgeous he is. I am every day.

Yes. He was extraordinarily good-looking.

Not a boyfriend but someone I met a few weeks ago randomly at a gig.

Instantly deeply attracted to him, and still currently obsessing about him.

He is beautiful beyond words, to me.

Sadly it can't work for various reasons so he is just a nice memory, so to speak.

I would love to meet 'the one' under similar circumstances.

Snap..but it took us 6 months to get married :) we have been married 21 years now..when you know, you know!

Yes, he’s stunning, I was already very nervous for our first date, then when I saw him it made me even more nervous to the point of being barely able to speak at first. Thankfully he is incredibly patient.

Totally!

He smiled at me and my heart melted instantly.

Yep! Saw him across a bar (I was a bartender) and in all my years working there in central London, I had never had someone take my breath away like that. I told everyone he was the most beautiful man I’d ever seen and to my shock he felt the same way about me 😆

Yes. It was more like one of those moments of recognition though than phwoar type attraction.

No, I wasn't immediately attracted to DH. He is actually really good looking but he had these god awful rimless transition glasses on when we met for our first date and was really shy.

I thought he was going to be firmly in the friend zone but after getting to know him better I liked him more and more. We've been together for 12 years now and I think he's gorgeous! More importantly he is kind, a great dad and would do anything for me and for DDs. I did cheer when he got rid of those glasses though 🤣

I was already with someone when I knew of my husband's existence. We met at 17. When that crappy relationship was over and I met him for the first time socially when I was about 21, I knew straight away and I thought he was so gorgeous. Married together 20 years and 2 beautiful kids.
Still does it for me and I could never be with anyone else.
He said he always wanted to be with me and was quietly biding his time. He waited for me to be available to play his cards.
He's not that romantic but I guess our story is written down!

😂😂😂

@ThePollutedShadesOfPemberley
I'm so sorry to read this, it must be heartbreaking. I hope the time you have left (and may it be a long time) is equally special

I was always attracted to the wrong type, looked good but bastards. Married one of them who was abusive. Now married to dh who is average/pleasant looking but I am the happiest and most content I've ever been.

There has to be some attraction at first but you're left with what's inside.

Nope.

We were both in different relationships, all members of a sports and social club. A number of couples had joined the club because 'we never go anything together' and within a year we had all broken up.

Breaking up disrupted my social groups. This club gave me a group of people to do things with at times when people usually did family or couple-y things together, so I would otherwise be at a bit of a loose end.

I organised many of the group events and slowly realised that I only dver went ahead when he indicated he was up for whatever I had planned.

Took him a year or so to realised but we eventually got it together. Had thirty great years. Noe he is older, mobility problems and less keen to go out but still happy for me to keep up with friends. sigh

My first ex got paralytic drunk having never drunk in his life, just made my brain switch. Last ex started up ecigs behind my back and lying (he smokes before I met him but told him wouldn't date him if smoked in any form so he quit). Tried for about a year to come back from it unsuccessfully. Currently going through it with fiance as he's relapsed twice from alcoholism... I'm a Dr I see so much awfulness at work that it just changes my brain. I no longer feel safe/secure and a year later I'm not sure I will once again :(

Yes

He passed me going down stairs out of a bar, , just the shape of his face, just the glow as the evening sun shone onto his red hair.

I stopped and stared, he rushed on oblivious:) struck up conversation with landlady, asked her to call me if he cane in again.

3 days later had call. Raced to bar. Ignored him and waited for him to notice me:) reader, we did not marry but message each other almost daily for the last 30 years. So just friends, living a great distance apart.

A smile, the set of shoulders..

Yes, I thought he was f*cking gorgeous. I still do.

I was definitely attracted right away. We were engaged 2 months later, married 10 months after that. We celebrated our 42nd anniversary this year, have 6 grown children, 8 grandchildren. and just retired.

Yes immediately, we were at a mutual friends party and I engineered an introduction pretty quickly, we stayed up all night talking, went out for dinner the following night and all these years later I still look at him and think he’s fit!!