Help me get over being so short

[BodyHate78999]

Name changed because I'm aware how ridiculous I am.
I'm 4'11 and hate it. I mean really hate it and it's taking over my life. When I was younger I played up the 'cute' which I can't do as a 40 something. I'm otherwise healthy, solvent, succsessful.... but I can't get over the 'short'. I haven't dated in years because I worry about being such a disappointment when I turn up. I'm getting a bit obsessive about it, to the point I get to client meetings etc early so I'm already sitting down.
This isn't something I can admit in real life because I'm fully aware I'm ridiculous. I'm otherwise objectively attractive but I hide away because I'm so unhappy with my height.

I am one whole inch taller than you. 20s it was cute. In my 30s it was a problem. I resolved in my 40s by having a voice and not giving a shit. My brain still functions in my 155cm body.
In terms of dating, I've been with DH for 30 years, he is only 173cm, so we rock on as shorter folks. As icky as it seems, I think some men quite like shorter women.

I am only an inch taller than you and feel fine. Then again I've never been cute, always a bit hefty.

You're just short, it's fine.

I'm same height and age and when younger I never dreamt of leaving the house without heels now I don't own a pair lol there is nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed off just embrace it you can't change it so from one shorty to another you got this 💗

Love this 😀 I have a baby face so didn't help when all my tallers friends where going into nightclubs and we me embarrassed as anything having to get my I'd out lol but it did have it's benefits I use to get child pass on the buses 😂😂😂😂

considering being taken seriously by others, weighs so much more than your height or any personal features. Things like tone of voice, body posture, friendliness, eye contact, sincerity, matter so much more in any human interaction than your stature, weight, accent. Don’t fret the small stuff😁, focus on what makes human interactions real..

am short - maybe a whole half inch taller than you. Um I don’t really notice at all. DH is 5 10.

look at the ‘natural birth for short women’ thread - loads of short women with six foot husbands!

am nearly 50 and find that actually men pay me a lot of attention. I do think men like short women.

I think you have to own it ‘yes am short, pity about your big nose matey’

What is it you that people might think,that worries you?

Totally agree with this. Voice is very important. Measured, lower tone, breathing. I worked very hard on this with the help of a 6ft 1 female mentor who equally had her own hang ups about not being taken seriously.

am nearly 50 and find that actually men pay me a lot of attention. I do think men like short women.

Odd. I thought longer legged, so taller, women were favoured over short people.

My best friend is 5ft 0 and is the same height as her child, who she sometimes gets confused with at a distance.

Oh and I can buy children's VAT free shoes - v useful with Timberlands, not so useful for something without a unicorn motif!

Tall men do seem to like petite women. I've always seen it as an advantage.

I'm 5.6 so boringly in the middle.

It's only 1 inch shorter than perfect.

Whatever you do don't go clothes shopping in Tesco atm. I was in there earlier and would be able to clean the floor in most of their current skirts.

I'm worried about being infantilesed professionally, which tbh I used to play into. I'm also quite petite in body shape (size 6/8) so I worry about creepy men - with experience. I worry people talk about how short I am. I worry that I'm attractive in photos then a massive disappointment in real life. I worry I don't fit in and am not normal.

I will caveat this again with I also know I'm being ridiculous. But I avoid photos / mirrors, and now socialising.

I am at the other end of the scale. I'm tall and fat. I take up so much space. I am just enormous.

Honestly, I would so much rather be small. I tried on a new winter coat today and it made me look like an absolute monolith. An enormous dark green block.

Whenever I see myself in a mirror or photo I do a double take as I look so out of proportion to everyone else. Like Nanny in Count Duckula.

this is really sad to read that you feel that way about yourself

Never did Kylie any harm.

Honestly, I really doubt anyone really takes note of your height other than a mild 'oh she's smaller than i thought' or whatever. It's not like your 2 feet tall

I worked at a university once and the Vice-Chancellor must have been around that height, maybe shorter.

She had gravitas like you’d never believe though. She just took no shit, she was powerful. She did wear heels a lot, but she was still shorter than me when she did, but fuck me I was in awe of her 😂 I think because you don’t like it you are hugely over thinking it and that other people probably don’t notice.

Hahaha no @Louvainee, nobody would’ve dared. She was terrifying in a friendly but may kill you way (or at least hire someone to).

No one has ever referenced my height and I'm barely 5ft tall and in my 50's

I don't notice it, never have and my Dh is 6ft 4 inches