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Why does everyone love the queen, when she paid off Andrew’s victims?

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Lovefromjuliaxo · 17/09/2024 23:03

Just on the back of Huw Edwards sentencing, I remember he was the one to announce the passing of the queen. Cue everyone crying, saying how wonderful she was etc. But I can’t get on board with respecting a woman who basically paid to keep her son out of prison. Why does everyone still adore her? And why did Andrew’s victim take the money instead of getting him punished, even if it was just a suspended like Edwards?

**edited for spelling

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BustingBaoBun · 18/09/2024 10:11

VG brought a civil case which is different to a criminal case
I just get fed up of seeing on here "but she was 17" like it matters. No it doesn't if you have been trafficked.

He made a choice to sleep with a young girl who was only a few years older than his daughter, and his Mother paid for it all to go away. That won't happen of course

Roll on Thursday for the Prime 3 partner "A Very Royal Scandal" with Michael Sheen playing him

You can throw money at something and hope it goes away but perception and opinion you cannot pay off

BustingBaoBun · 18/09/2024 10:16

Ilovetowander · 18/09/2024 10:09

@BustingBaoBun
It is not proven that this was trafficking. My view regardless of wealth or status it is innocent until proved guilty.

Yes it was. Why was JE and GM charged with federal sex trafficking crimes then!?
GM is in prison for 20 years guilty of sexually exploiting and abusing minor girls and procurement of minors

badgerpatrol · 18/09/2024 10:39

RogueFemale · 17/09/2024 23:23

@MindfulAndDemure He slept with someone over the age of consent. It's utterly grim that he did that at the age that he did. But not illegal, just gross.

Giuffre was a victim of sex trafficking, which is illegal and why Epstein was convicted and sent to prison. In 'Prince' Andrew's case it was just a civil suit to seek damages for his actions in the context of Epstein's sex trafficking.

I consider anyone having sex with someone who is trafficked as a rapist.

Just like the French multiple rape case, those men having sex with a women who was unconscious and therefore didn't give consent as rapist.

A woman being made 'available' by a third party to have sex with does not mean the sex is consensual. It's really not complicated to understand. Grown men do understand this. They just choose to pretend they don't.

Enko · 18/09/2024 10:56

BustingBaoBun · 18/09/2024 10:16

Yes it was. Why was JE and GM charged with federal sex trafficking crimes then!?
GM is in prison for 20 years guilty of sexually exploiting and abusing minor girls and procurement of minors

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It was proven she was trafficked. By JE and GM. What had not been proven and what I think @Ilovetowander meant in this response was that Andrew knew she was trafficked.

minou123 · 18/09/2024 11:42

Ilovetowander · 18/09/2024 07:16

I firmly believe that people should be treated as innocent unless they are found guilty or admit the crime regardless of their wealth.

In the case of PA this was allegedly a 17year old which is not against the law. It was reported he was under pressure to settle out by his family - which was not an admission of guilt.

I firmly believe that people should be treated as innocent unless they are found guilty or admit the crime regardless of their wealth.

Do you really believe that?

Following that logic, would you consider Jimmy Saville as innocent?
He neither was found guilty, nor admitted his crimes. Therefore, do you treat him as innocent?

I'm not having a go. I just find this black and white view of "innocent until proven guilty" is more nuanced when applying to everyday life.

"Innocent until proven guilty" is a legal concept and one of its purposes is to ensure everyone gets a fair trial, quite rightly.
But in everyday life, we all have to make judgements and risk asses, regardless if someone has been found guilty.

4andup · 18/09/2024 11:56

2dogsandabudgie · 18/09/2024 07:59

The infamous photo was taken in London. That was the same night that VG said she had sex with PA. She was 17, so although morally questionable it is not against the law.

A young woman was trafficked in for sex that's illegal. There is all these rich celebrities getting banged up for abusing women is Andrew and exception to the rule because he's royalty?

rumblegrumble · 18/09/2024 12:02

Anyone else wondering why we're going on so much about Andrew and not about any of the other men - like those who went repeatedly to the island and raped girls far younger than 17? Is nobody else a bit confused that the only name we have is someone who slept with a girl who was most likely legal, and who quite possibly wasn't even aware that she was unwilling? Whoever was raping 13 year olds on a private island wouldn't have either defence... Does nobody else wonder why after many years of men trafficking and raping young girls, the only person in prison is a woman? I'm personally a lot more interested in the names we don't know than the name we do...

Timeforanamechange24 · 18/09/2024 12:16

@Runnerinthenight apologies I meant the queen’s cousin and Philip’s uncle.

He was well connected/protected. Its more than rumours. There has been court cases. Andrew Lownie has written/investigation about Mountbatten for years.

www.news18.com/news/world/survivor-alleges-lord-mountbatten-sexually-abused-him-when-he-was-11-was-part-of-a-paedophile-ring-6179395.html#

2dogsandabudgie · 18/09/2024 13:06

4andup · 18/09/2024 11:56

A young woman was trafficked in for sex that's illegal. There is all these rich celebrities getting banged up for abusing women is Andrew and exception to the rule because he's royalty?

That's the question isn't it? There were a lot of rich powerful men who went to the island. If Prince Andrew had to go to court would all the other names come out as well. I would imagine there are a lot of men who wanted it all kept quiet.

DramaLlamaBangBang · 18/09/2024 13:07

rumblegrumble · 18/09/2024 12:02

Anyone else wondering why we're going on so much about Andrew and not about any of the other men - like those who went repeatedly to the island and raped girls far younger than 17? Is nobody else a bit confused that the only name we have is someone who slept with a girl who was most likely legal, and who quite possibly wasn't even aware that she was unwilling? Whoever was raping 13 year olds on a private island wouldn't have either defence... Does nobody else wonder why after many years of men trafficking and raping young girls, the only person in prison is a woman? I'm personally a lot more interested in the names we don't know than the name we do...

I supect, disgusting as they are, they knew they would need to cover their tracks, and they are far more influential and savvy than arrogant, entitled, moronic Andrew, who thought that his ' defence' of ' Don't you know who I am?' and ' I was in the Falklands' would be enough. He thought and probably still thinks that he is amazing and everyone likes him. Whereas really he was just a useful idiot for so many dodgy characters.

BustingBaoBun · 18/09/2024 14:15

Whereas really he was just a useful idiot for so many dodgy characters

I so agree with this. He was dazzled by hugely wealthy people hence his endless dodgy deals with oligarchs, arms dealers and ME 'businessmen'

I doubt Epstein even liked him but what a feather in his cap to say he has British royalty coming for dinner at his NY mansion. Shove a few girls his way, massage his huge ego (and get a young girl to massage his flab) and moron Andrew was sold. Which is why Andrew refused to say he regretted the friendship in his car crash interview. He loved it

ThisHangryPinkBalonz · 18/09/2024 14:15

Lovefromjuliaxo · 17/09/2024 23:34

why is there always one who tries to make an issue out of the sexes- completely irrelevant to the question

it would be JUST as bad IMO as if a king paid off his daughters victims if she was sexually abusing someone

a mistake is giving someone Diet Coke instead of regular. She paid off a victim that her son abused.

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It's not just about sexes, why the hate for The Queen? It wasn't her who slept with a 17 year old.

What about others all linked to this like Bill Clinton etc. I don't see a thread on Hilary? How do you know they aren't supplying her with hush money.

There are plenty of people in the world that do disgusting things and their parents / spouses pay the bill - it doesn't make them acceptable for the crime. I.e. Ranjit singh Boparans (billionaire in the food industry) son, crashed his car into a family car by being reckless making a little girl severely disabled his dad funded his lawyers and other expenses but he isn't vilified on mn or anywhere else and no one boycotted his businesses.

The point being it's silly to think you are accountable for someone else's problem especially when everyone is a hypocrite in some way.

luckylavender · 18/09/2024 17:01

MindfulAndDemure · 17/09/2024 23:14

He slept with someone over the age of consent. It's utterly grim that he did that at the age that he did. But not illegal, just gross.

Virginia took the payoff. Which says a lot with regards to what she wanted from going public.

The Queen shouldn't have made the payoff imo. But I understand why she did. I'm not a royalist.

Important to say it's never been proven. However she was not over the age of consent in the State it may have happened.

luckylavender · 18/09/2024 17:14

@Runnerinthenight - www.aljazeera.com/amp/opinions/2017/8/13/the-priceless-racism-of-the-duke-of-edinburgh
Couldn't be bothered to type it all out. HTH

x2boys · 18/09/2024 17:51

I didn't love the Queen I could never understand people who did , I would be happy for the whole Royal to not exist
However I can understand why she paid off VG ,she was a very old women whoni assume knew she waa nearing the end of her life Andrew waa said ti be her favourite child,aa a mother I think she did to draw a line underneath it all

AlwaysKindaKnewYoudBeTheDeathOfMe · 18/09/2024 17:57

I didn't like or respect her at all; secretly hoarding millions for your own family while the country can't keep enough food banks running was despicable

People only started to like her when she turned into a cute little old lady. It's quite an infantilising attitude towards old people that people seem to adopt.

All this 'aw the queen, what a stalwart, sacrificed everything for her family and her subjects' bullshit is vomit inducing. If she had died at 60 or 70 the reaction would have been very different.

Lovefromjuliaxo · 18/09/2024 19:15

rumblegrumble · 18/09/2024 12:02

Anyone else wondering why we're going on so much about Andrew and not about any of the other men - like those who went repeatedly to the island and raped girls far younger than 17? Is nobody else a bit confused that the only name we have is someone who slept with a girl who was most likely legal, and who quite possibly wasn't even aware that she was unwilling? Whoever was raping 13 year olds on a private island wouldn't have either defence... Does nobody else wonder why after many years of men trafficking and raping young girls, the only person in prison is a woman? I'm personally a lot more interested in the names we don't know than the name we do...

Epstein went to prison but killed himself.

yes, other men were involved, but I mention Andrew purely as his mother was “much loved” yet organised a payoff.

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Lovefromjuliaxo · 18/09/2024 19:18

ThisHangryPinkBalonz · 18/09/2024 14:15

It's not just about sexes, why the hate for The Queen? It wasn't her who slept with a 17 year old.

What about others all linked to this like Bill Clinton etc. I don't see a thread on Hilary? How do you know they aren't supplying her with hush money.

There are plenty of people in the world that do disgusting things and their parents / spouses pay the bill - it doesn't make them acceptable for the crime. I.e. Ranjit singh Boparans (billionaire in the food industry) son, crashed his car into a family car by being reckless making a little girl severely disabled his dad funded his lawyers and other expenses but he isn't vilified on mn or anywhere else and no one boycotted his businesses.

The point being it's silly to think you are accountable for someone else's problem especially when everyone is a hypocrite in some way.

It totally wasn’t on the queen that Andrew behaved the way he did.

but I and probably others are more balking at the fact she didn’t let a grown man take responsibility for what he’d done, and paid all his legal bills as well as paying his victim off. Yet people say she is a wonderful person.

there are plenty of others, this thread is about the queen

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Runnerinthenight · 18/09/2024 20:19

WeekendOutfit · 18/09/2024 02:09

Not everyone loved her.

She was married to a man who made multiple racist and rude comments, so what does that say about her? Then she supported Andrew the nonce.

I didn't love her and couldn't care less when she died.

I don't know anyone who has much interest in any of the Royals.

Do you know anything whatsoever about Prince Philip? Yes, he made a few remarks which he only just about got away with when he made them, but wouldn't now. Which is as it should be. Times are different now. You cannot judge the past by the standards of the present. I read a biography of Philip recently and I hadn't known the half of his achievements, not least of which was supporting HMTQ during the majority of her 70 year reign!

I don't imagine she ever thought Andrew was a "nonce" because whatever the truth of the matter, that is not what he was!

I know plenty of people who are interested in the Royals. Must be the company you keep. Maybe educate yourself before you share your ill-informed opinion.

Runnerinthenight · 18/09/2024 20:20

4andup · 18/09/2024 02:11

She was under age it's 18 in America. She was trafficked and raped. Her taking the payment means nothing he still raped a child according to the law in America.

Incorrect.

Runnerinthenight · 18/09/2024 20:29

TempestTost · 18/09/2024 02:12

I don't think this is just possible, but quite likely.

But it goes along with another issue, which is that it could be rather difficult, unless you knew the history of the girls, to know what their real situation was.

This was a period when people were still doing things like going to parties at the Playboy mansion, and a surprising (to me) number of people seemed to think it was ok. Those girls were probably not being trafficked as such (or maybe some were?), but if you didn't know, it would look like an identical kind of situation. There were a lot of people who don't have Prince ANdrews reputation that went to that kind of event.

It's a lesson about why we should be careful about what is normalized. People don't intuitively understand good boundaries or what is exploitative. You'd think they should, but a lot don't.

I think a lot of the commentators here are posting completely out of context. This was the era when Rolling Stone Bill Wyman had a relationship with a 13 year old, and later married her.

Yeah, there was criticism but he didn't face any consequences!

Women were considered fair game by sleazy men to feel them up, or worse - happened to me several times.

As I say, I don't believe you can judge the past by the standards of the present, even though there was so much going on that was patently wrong.

Runnerinthenight · 18/09/2024 20:31

4andup · 18/09/2024 02:40

I believe her and it's a shame that she couldn't get justice. It would have been her word against his. I believe Andrew was her favourite son he could do no wrong in her eyes.

I can't agree. While I don't know what happened (and neither do you), she proved to be an unreliable witness.

Runnerinthenight · 18/09/2024 20:34

DramaLlamaBangBang · 18/09/2024 04:23

Yes. She would have been ruined, even if she had won if she hadn't taken the settlement. The more pertinent question, I think, is that if Andrew was innocent, why did he settle? He had an unlimited supply of his mothers money and the most to gain from taking it all the way. He can't even help the FBI with their investigations, presumably because he would incriminate himself. He is also spectacularly arrogant and stupid, even by Royal Family standards.

Clearly because of the damage dragging all of the sleaze out into the public domain would have caused to the monarchy. It was damage limitation.

How was he to prove his innocence in any case?

Runnerinthenight · 18/09/2024 20:38

Faldodiddledee · 18/09/2024 05:32

I was not happy with the coverage of the Queen's life after her death. I thought there would be a proper taking stock, good and also bad, and that things like her paying off Andrew's accusor, and some of the relationships with the Commonwealth countries and the aftermath of empire would be discussed, at least as controversies. Nope, it was just complete hero-worshipping all the way. I stopped watching. It was sad, but this 'grandma to the nation' stuff with Pooh Bear was just ridiculous, like we couldn't have any actual reckoning of her whole reign, good and bad.

Paddington FYI.

Have you ever heard of 'not speaking ill of the dead'? History will judge. I believe that history will determine that QEII was one of, if not the most, successful monarchs we've had. Too soon, when the woman had just died. Tacky and tasteless.

Runnerinthenight · 18/09/2024 20:39

Lightslice · 18/09/2024 06:14

Anyone who loves the royals in this day and age is embarrassing and pathetic imo

Luckily, not many people are interested in your opinion.

Right back at you.

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