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What is a respectable amount of money to give as a wedding gift?

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YesIJudge · 17/09/2024 18:02

All day guests, in a lovely country hotel. I haven't been to a wedding for over 5 years so I have no idea how much to gift.

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Ozanj · 17/09/2024 18:04

Indian wedding?

mynameiscalypso · 17/09/2024 18:05

We normally give £100

narns · 17/09/2024 18:05

£100

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YesIJudge · 17/09/2024 18:09

Ozanj · 17/09/2024 18:04

Indian wedding?

No it's a Scottish wedding.

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xsquared · 17/09/2024 19:08

Whatever you feel.

GoodVibesHere · 17/09/2024 19:08

£50

SauviGone · 17/09/2024 19:08

We'd give £100.

Tel12 · 17/09/2024 19:10

Depends on how close you are. At least £100

ShaunaSadeki · 17/09/2024 19:10

£100 from us too

SuziQuinto · 17/09/2024 19:12

£50.

NeverDropYourMooncup · 17/09/2024 19:12

I got completely cut off without a single explanation after my last £20 went to a bride. So maybe more than that if you have any interest in somebody whose only reason for an invitation was to make some money back from the guests.

HerkyBaby · 17/09/2024 19:14

In essence you need to cover the cost of you as a guest so at least £50 each for the main meal and if an evening buffet another £25 / per person .

Isthisreasonable · 17/09/2024 19:16

I've got a wedding coming up. The B&G gave me the equivalent of £16 in today's money when I got married. What would you suggest?

SuziQuinto · 17/09/2024 19:17

You don't "cover the cost"! You're a guest, it's not a pay to attend event! I find that very transactional.
It's a gift. It doesn't matter what they've spent.

SuziQuinto · 17/09/2024 19:17

Isthisreasonable · 17/09/2024 19:16

I've got a wedding coming up. The B&G gave me the equivalent of £16 in today's money when I got married. What would you suggest?

£25. You're far more generous.

Rubyandscarlett · 17/09/2024 19:18

Whatever you can afford to give op.
I would have hated for any of my guests to give more than they could have afforded.

Mistymorin · 17/09/2024 19:20

£100 min

Planesmistakenforstars · 17/09/2024 19:21

£50 max.

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FS90 · 17/09/2024 19:25

£100 if you’re in a couple, otherwise £50

Fundays12 · 17/09/2024 19:25

It depends on how close you are. I would say a minimum of £50

TheCentreCannotHold · 17/09/2024 19:27

Eh? Whatever you can comfortably afford without you or your children having to go without?
I don't have a set amount: in the last few years I have given cash gifts ranging from £100-£20, and one of the lower amounts was for one of my oldest friends as I was saving for private orthodontistry for a DC and really didn't have any spare cash sloshing around. If the bride and groom work and actually earn money, and especially if they earn more than you, I think it's a bit strange to expect a large amount? Wedding gifts in general are culturally odd to me; where I'm from, gifts are given to young couples who are setting up their first home together; any further expectations later on in life when you already have what you need just seems a bit excessive.

Button28384738 · 17/09/2024 19:31

£50-£100 depending how close you are and if close family or just friends

Snowdrops17 · 17/09/2024 21:02

HerkyBaby · 17/09/2024 19:14

In essence you need to cover the cost of you as a guest so at least £50 each for the main meal and if an evening buffet another £25 / per person .

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OooohAhhhh · 17/09/2024 21:10

I always only give £20, maybe I'm a cheapskate? Who knows 🤣
Seriously tho, if you had a wedding and got gifted £20 in a card from me, what would you think? Just curious.

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