In love with a streamer

[Buttercupflying]

Hi everyone im Falling for a bigo host ive been gifting and chatting 2 this person offline not just bigo and we chat 4 long hours on insta but im Starting to catch feelings we have a bit of flirt time also but nothing to deep the flirt bit happeend once out of no where. Does he like me or because i gift? Also watched a movie via because i was higher gifter but he hinted for me to get higher to win. He started the flirt bit not me we chat for ages on call one on one please am i being silly here

About 100 gullibles

I just had a quick google, and from what I have seen, it looks like you have to register, and you can choose from loads of pics of people, who you want to chat too. I think that is how it works. Whatever it is, I have no intention of delving in more. If I have any spare money, it is not going on a stranger.

It's not clear from what you have written above but are you saying that you had taken bits of clothing off for him and now you feel embarrassed?

This is not a relationship you are in, OP.

@Buttercupflying a fool and her money are soon parted.
You'd be doing more good buying a coffee for someone you know who’s struggling.

Or open an ISA and every time you have the urge to waste money put it into your bank.

I can see how 14 year-olds can be sucked into believing they have some kind of real mutual connection with some online grifter, but you are (presumably) a grown woman, OP?

Fgs - pull yourself together and stop paying a money-grabbing stranger for little scraps of attention. And whatever you do, don't involve your child in this ridiculous nonsense! I can't believe you actually budget money to waste on 'diamonds' for this guy. Unbelievable.

Ever felt really fucking old?

You budget to pay for this random strangers attention. Use that money for your son instead. He isn’t interested in you, he is interested in getting money from you (and the others that give to him). I am guessing you probably don’t have a lot going on in your life so are looking for live and attention but this isn’t the right way about it.

Oh, OP. Stop sending your money to a stranger.

I think this is one of the saddest threads I’ve read for a while.

I don’t really understand what the OP is doing - what is a streamer or a bigo? - but it seems clear to me that someone very vulnerable and very gullible is being taken advantage of financially.

OP, just step away from it all. He has absolutely no interest in you apart from in your bank account. All you are to him is an income.

I think the fact you have spotted this is unhealthy is good. Its easy for people to say "I would never..." but, when you are lonely or down its much easier to get sucked into unhealthy behaviours and convince yourself of things that aren't true. That you had the self awareness to listen to the voice in your head telling you something isn't right is actually really positive. Lots of people don't do that.

You do need to delete the app though - as with online gambling etc its one thing to KNOW you should stop, its another to stop so remove the temptation. And address the root of the problem - your loneliness, in a more healthy way. Maybe you could, at the end of this month, spend 40 pounds on a treat for yourself and your son as well - go to the cinema and buy popcorn and McDonalds etc. Or buy yourself a treat (perfume, makeup, book) that you would usually think was too expensive to justify. It will bring much more (long lasting) pleasure than sending diamonds will.

What was his gaming streamer name? You know most of them are just after the donations and don't actually care about the people donating, and some don't even care if it's making the person broke. They just don't care.

I’m sad to say, this must be one of the saddest things I’ve read. I know nothing really about SM, especially streamers/diamonds. But, it is quite clear OP is being taken for a ride.

OP, please step away. I can hear how lonely you are but there must be a better way to find friends.

Maybe you should educate yourself about the modern world, do you need a step stool to get down off your high horse?

No, I'm okay, thanks.

https://www.freedomprogramme.co.uk/online.php

Do the online freedom programme as it will help you recognise relationship red flags.

Also, remember that child abusers often target vulnerable, lonely single parents to gain access children.

You have a son who likes to game and you thought it would be nice to win a day with the fraudster so they could game together. Think about this, this has safeguarding red flags all over it.

https://learning.nspcc.org.uk/online-safety

https://www.nspcc.org.uk/keeping-children-safe/support-for-parents/

You should very lonely and vulnerable. These online interactive gambling streams target people like you. Unfortunately, this man is exploiting you for your money.

Block him and delete the app. It’s a bad habit that you’ll need to break.

Can you have your card blocked through gambling support websites?

Do you have anyone in real life who can support you to get past this?

Sweetheart please, please stop. I’m so sorry but he isn’t real, his affection for you isn’t real - it’s all a persona to make money. Don’t be embarrassed- he’s clearly very good at it, and you’re not the only one, but do stop.

You wouldn’t go to a pub and repeatedly pay a man to talk to you, would you? And you wouldn’t introduce your DC to that man would you? Well this is no different. Please seek some real life support- maybe start with your GP? Explain how lonely you are - write it down if you can’t say it. You deserve to be happy in the real world x

Grow up op you acting like a teenager.
You and how many others as he got doing the same thing.
And how many time do we need to hear the words FLIRTING.

I read the title as "I'm in love with a steamer." I was expecting a eulogy over some amazing culinary gadget. 🤷‍♀️

Look, I'm old and don't understand some of the cultural references in this thread, but it's equally naiive to think adults can't also be vulnerable.

OP, you are vulnerable here. Please listen to the advice absolutely everyone is giving you. No one is reading your posts and thinking this guy is a good option or that giving him money, or hoping to go on holiday with him or for him to play with your son are good ideas. No one thinks that.

Why are you paying to support someone you've never met?

I know I'm old but this is bloody ridiculous

What does he 'stream'?

Please please watch the catfished women who pay out thousands -

It's ALL about the money.

He knows you can't get to him, so he's ''safe''- he's milking you for money.

A man said ''It's as easy as milking a Cow'' when out came to getting money from a woman who had the hots for him.

Don't give any money - he'll soon stop talking to you.

Blimey - OP this is bonkers and you are addicted and being scammed. Get rid of the app asap.

I'm sorry, but a wise head is not what you have

Please stop and don't get involved with anyone else who costs you money

Go out there and meet real people

Stop ingratiating yourself and trying to buy this man's affection.

You need to find some self-worth and go and find a real person to fancy.