In love with a streamer

[Buttercupflying]

Hi everyone im Falling for a bigo host ive been gifting and chatting 2 this person offline not just bigo and we chat 4 long hours on insta but im Starting to catch feelings we have a bit of flirt time also but nothing to deep the flirt bit happeend once out of no where. Does he like me or because i gift? Also watched a movie via because i was higher gifter but he hinted for me to get higher to win. He started the flirt bit not me we chat for ages on call one on one please am i being silly here

Only one way to fine out (and make you see). Stop sending him diamonds. Tell him you aren't going to do that anymore but did he fancy meeting up?

I'll save you time - he doesn't. I'm so sorry but you are literally giving money to a stranger who is probably laughing behind your back at how gullible you are.

I don't know exactly how it all works but one of my dc does hosting, and they take the money and run! It's a way of supplementing their income though mainly it's a hobby they enjoy.

Maybe i will take a step back and not view his streams ad much and see if the communication and contact stops etc

Also you might find it helpful to watch catfishing shows. If you type 'catfishing Johnny depp' on YouTube I think it'll bring one up where a woman.thinks shes talking to him. That channel
Does lots of similar ones where people think they're charting with celebs.

Now I'm not saying he isn't him in this scenario but what I want you to see is that often at the end of the episodes, even though they've had sokoto much proof that this person isn't even who they thought he was - they still keep talking to the scammer! Even sending him money.

Because they want to believe.
And because they're hooked on the high of thinking this cool person likes them back.
And it's SO dangerous because they could lose everything.. and often do. Paying to feed their obsession.

A really big well done for recognising it @Buttercupflying . That must be hard to do and you should feel proud of yourself for starting to see it.

Do you think you could just step away from the platform while you allow a bit more clarity to come?

Does he have your contact details? Could you block him while you give yourself some space?

Maybe terribly lonely, or vulnerable in some way, I would have thought.

Usually this is what they do - compliment and flirt so people part with their cash. It's a talent really. Don't think anything into it until you're actually talking privately, off the streaming platform. Until that happens, you're just one of the many people he flirts with, because you give him money.

Only Instagram he's never givin me his number out or anything i think im going to take a step back maybe watch the stream on another account and see how he works with other people who don't gift and just chat without gifting him. And thank you thereiscuatardxx

I've read all of your thread now OP, this jumped out - he only interacts with people who gift. That should tell you something. He only interacts with you because you gift - and you don't know him at all. As other posters have said, he must not have any sort of access to your son. The absolute cheek of him, saying that your son will have a chance to game with a gamer... if you gift him.

I don't know an awful lot about gaming or streaming but I do know that if you have to pay (or gift) somebody to talk to you then that's not worth anything at all.

I know that you would find it hard to stop watching this stream but ultimately, that's what you're going to need to do. You're addicted to the idea that this man thinks of you, that you mean something to him. Well, the test for that is to stop gifting, tell him that you can't afford it - and see if he still chats to you then? My guess is that he won't.

Do you have real life friends to spend time with, talk to about things?

I feel as old as Methuselah reading this.

I don't actually understand where you are watching him?

Even though I genuinely don't get it I can see a giant red flag waving wildly.
@Buttercupflying I do think you need to step away!!

Be prepared for communication to actually increase in the first instance as he’ll try reel you back in to giving him money. This does not mean he has feelings for you. It means that he doesn’t want you giving him money to stop.
im using the word money as that’s what it is.

This is a world I have never heard of! 😳

ManchesterLu · we have talked privately see one on one for hours one night it got bit flirtatious but he was the one who took the first move with that and i felt but letdown that i gave him bit to much of me just to hear nothing back from that after just next day went back to normal and i feel bit embarrassed about it. I showed bit more than him feel bit letdown in myself

Go on that streaming site and search gifting is an addiction and watch some on those videos.

It is the same effect on the brain as gambling, your chasing that high.

You are literally throwing money at a huge company, 70% going to the streaming platform.

Am I right in thinking

1. There's a man online who you pay to chat with/watch his videos
2. Lots of other people do the same thing with him
3. You've started to fancy him
4. He will chat privately for a long time when you pay him
5. He's said if you (or someone else) will pay more he'll meet up with you
6. You think he might fancy you back

If those are correct I'd say that whether he fancies you or not, you need higher self esteem and a better choice of man. Surely you are worth more than this???
Give yourself a couple of weeks of meeting people in real life and see what happens.

How much is 2000 diamonds in real money?

I’m sorry, this is his job. You are how he makes money.

Its literally his job to be nice to people. He isn't exactly being manipulative/love bombing or rather he is because that is the "arrangement" that streamers have with their viewers. Its unhealthy because part of that "arrangement" is that this is never spoken of. I could write a book on how unhealthy this facet of the internet is.

If we were both men, and your "streamer" was an OF girl, then the exact same principles would apply except that we would all be telling you "she was no good", "for the streets" etc. In reality, you have no more idea what this person is really like than you know what the women on the checkout at Tesco's is like inside. Might be good, might be bad. But part of his job is finding out what you are missing in your life and reflecting this back to you. He probably isn't even doing it consciously. But that's what he is doing.

So work out what it is about him that attracts you/makes you "love" him. Because that is what you are missing in your life and that is what is making you miserable/want to talk to him. And look at real ways you can fill that gap. Because it isn't "him" you love. Its what he is reflecting back to you. Otherwise, its like giving a lonely budgie a mirror to keep it company. You are not a budgie

OP, I'm a gamer.
I know professional gamers.

Gamers don't charge random women they say they like on the internet to play against their child.
Just like all the rest, he is being nice to you in exchange for money.

You won't be the only one who is paying him to play nice.

Please, find a different stream to watch, maybe one about building up your self confidence.

You are unlikely to find love on a livestream and if you somehow did, it wouldn't come with a price tag.

You deserve more than this.
It's not real.

You budget to buy "diamonds" for a bigo (wtf?) streamer (wtf?) who you've never met? So that money goes to him rather than towards your household or being used for your son?

It's churlish to comment on your writing style - although it certainly gives a clear impression of your level of education - but this is sheer stupidity. Stop giving money to this person. He's not interested in you. Grow up and reassess your priorities. Jeez.

This thread will be gone when I check later.

You need to uninstall bigo, block him on ig and stop giving streamers money, he’s talking to you because you’re donating. Stop throwing your money away, you don’t know him, you know his on screen persona that is like that to try and facilitate donations etc

In my work (teacher) I was well aware of grooming, who did it, who was the victim etc. But like most of us just think it's adult to child. Safeguarding courses reinforced that.

Later, but a while ado, I became a Church warden and had my eyes opened. A groomer can be anyone - any age, similarly the victim. Similarly the groomer can be any sex or orientation as can the victim.

He went for old ladies as well as clergy. Sorted now.

Do you think you maybe being groomed?

Thank you ive been thinking it a while but where he's so nice been ignoring the red flags. Until today i just thought he doesn't read my messages for a whole day until it leads up to his live time in then he will ring or read messages regarding what gifts to send etc

He doesn’t interact with others only the ones who gift. That tells you absolutely everything you need to know. This is his job and you are his colleague at best. Stop wasting your money.