What is a wife supposed to do?

[Penage]

If you're a wife and you had to write a job description, what would it be?

Have lots of fun!

Have a legal document with a wonderful man who cherishes you.
Enjoy life.

Do whatever you want.
As long as it's legal and/or not cruel.

I just crack on with my life

Love your Husband as he loves you.

Be happy and in unison with her spouse 😻

Why? Are you writing an article, pondering your own difficult marriage or considering a proposal?

Be in an equal, respectful, loving partnership with her husband.

Equal doesn't mean 'identical', it can't if you have kids when you're actually pregnant and breastfeeding! But each should contributes a similar amount of effort to the family - be it paid or unpaid.

Love and support their spouse (male or female) in a mutually respectful equal life partnership.

(I realised I'd written from the pov of a heterosexual woman, the same would apply to a lesbian and her wife)

What, in your opinion, makes someone a good wife?

Be committed to the relationship for better or worse.

I think being a good spouse (not just wife) is being a haven and cheerleader for your spouse. Everything else is optional.

@Penage how long is a piece of string?
That's not a question that can be answered because everyone's values are going to be different.

@Penage why do you ask? What are your thoughts?

Huh? Being a wife is not a job. I don't understand what you're asking.

As for what makes a good wife, surely that depends on the individual relationship? My husband would be horrified if I tried to be a 'good wife', but is quite happy with my current plan of trying to be a good human!

It's not a fucking job.
And what makes a good wife is the same as a good husband.
This cannot be a real question.

There is no answer to that

I'm just waiting for the OP to announce that he doesn't think his wife is much good, probably for spurious reasons.

Love her husband/wife and be a rock solid support for them. Have their back under any and all circumstances (obvs there are a few reservations, but not many).

That’s it I think. Obvs the wife’s spouse needs to be doing the same for this to work.

I think to give your all into your marriage vows - they are your job description.
So in my case, my vows were to love, honour and (tw!!) obey. So I'd say logically, the better I do at those things, the better I am at being a wife.

@anonhop We didn't do vows when we got married.
Only said the legal words.
Am I a bad wife?
(and my husband a bad husband?)
😂😂😂

I'm interested in the details - what does loving and honouring (and obeying, occasionally) your husband actually look like in practical terms?

Why do you want to know?
Are you male or female?

Why does it matter? @TheShellBeach