What is a wife supposed to do?

[Penage]

If you're a wife and you had to write a job description, what would it be?

most 'good' qualities are universal Obviously #bekind helps, but as I said before, what does that really look like in the day to day?
When somebody says "She's a great wife to X" what do they actually mean?

@Penage I have never in my life heard someone say "She's a great wife to X".
Does anyone ever say that?

In-laws, neighbours, colleagues, friends of friends potentially @Needmorelego

I literally don’t think anyone says this, and hasn’t since about 1950.

I think my brother’s wife is awful. However, I do think she’s a good person for him to be married to, because he’s a rather anxious, depressive personality, and she’s cheerful, straightforward, practical etc. if I were to say ‘X is a good wife to my brother’, this is what I would mean — that her personality is a good complement to his.

Omg is this still carrying on on the same obtuse, annoying vein?? @Penage I think there is a prize out there for you, you're really stretching this one out. Well done dude, you win

I like that @Ardrahan.

Thanks, I guess @SlugsWon

No one says that, @Penage.

Not normal people, at least. What a bizarre Stepford Wives thing to say about someone.

@Penage in what type of conversations has that come up?
You still haven't said what YOU think a good wife is?

FFS is this idiotic thread still dragging on?

I'll tell you one thing, @Penage

You are not a good faith poster.

@TheShellBeach I think we are all desperate for the OP to actually give their own answer to the question.

Or to tell us why he's asking.

This

Looking at the official Church of England marriage vows. . .

to have and to hold
sex and affection

from this day forward;
starting immediately

for better, for worse,
through thick and thin

for richer, for poorer,
don't go off with a sugar daddy

in sickness and in health,
don't do a Lady Chatterley

to love and to cherish,
caring, protecting, helping

till death us do part,
forever

@Penage that's nice but not everyone has a C of E marriage.
I got married in a Registrar Office and didn't say any vows.

Then why are you still here??

So what are the "rules" in your marriage? @Needmorelego

@Penage it's bizarrely fascinating.
We want to know your answer to the question.
YOUR answer.
(not some vague vows said in a religious ceremony)
Go on.....tell us 😂😂😂

@Penage we don't have "rules". We just bumble along in life.
I did say "Oh for pity's sake don't wear that ridiculous hat" to my husband recently....but it's not a rule that he has to follow my fashion tips.

I am merely pondering, there is no definitive answer @Needmorelego

Why did you choose not to have vows?

@Penage I think I said there was no answer about 5 pages ago 😂
But it would be interesting to hear your pondering thoughts.

For me it’s making each other’s life better. For us that means equal loads (housework, childcare, finances). We split everything, we have no stress or resentment. Our lives are pretty easy and we fancy the pants off each other. I look forward to every day together.

@Penage I didn't have vows because I found the whole ceremony thing quite hard to do. I don't like being centre of attention in situations like that - everyone staring at me in what I felt was quite an intimate moment.
I would have been happy to get married by filling out a form 😂
To me it was just legalising a relationship we had been in for several years.

Sounds wonderful @Spomb

I know what you mean @Needmorelego