How old were you when you stopped having sex.

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I'm 57 and realised that I barely ever have sex now
Relationship issues and dh has had ED since a heart attack does have Viagra though.
I don't have much drive really tbh.
How old where you when you stopped having sex?

I'm sorry if I came across as bragging. Not intended: I just thought, "I've not stopped yet ..." was an answer to "How old were you when you stopped ...?"

-- In the same way, "When did you stop beating your children?" might appropriately elicit the response, "I never beat my children".

(Though now, very likely, I'll be interpreted as accusing people who don't have sex of being child beaters. I'm not. But so it goes.)

Absolutely! Helps if you both like each other and have a fun life generally, which we do. I'd say 8-10 times a month generally. We make time for it though.

I'm 55. About a month ago for full sex, but yesterday for fun with husband. I've got vaginal atrophy so penetration can be difficult, but there are other ways!

Hardly. Not having sex is fine. Beating your child is not. Or so I thought.

I don't remember the last time I had sex. I do know I stopped trying to initiate last November because I couldn't take any more rejection.

I hope I will have sex again because my ideal is once or twice a week but I can't see it being with my partner and I don't know how to navigate conversations about a more open relationship. I'm late 30s

I can't imagine not having sex.
Dh has a very high sex drive and wants to every night.
I'm 41, he's 37 he definitely wouldn't stick around and live a life of celibacy if my sex drive goes in the next few years.
Do these husbands in sexless marriages actually stay faithful or do you have open marriages?
They must watch a lot of porn and be quite sleazy out and about.

A note to all those dealing with vaginal atrophy, Vagifem is miraculous. It's a very low dose of oestrogen applied topically, and something that even those whom have/had hormone positive breast cancer can use. Ask your GP and/or oncologist about it. It's also available over the counter from the pharmacist.

Early forties, twenty years on still don’t miss it. Glad to have my body to myself 😊

Thank you :)

Having a bad time of it so feeling a bit sorry for myself but we will see xx

Me 48. Partner had a life changing illness 4 years ago and had ED since, we are both very gutted and it is a very sensitive subject for him, we've tried the blue pills etc, they don;'t really work for him, he is too damaged. I am not happy at all about the whole situation but it is the hand we have dealt. He is lucky he wasn't paralysed for life. I can still remember the last time we had sex and I actually get upset privately and try to put it to the back of my mind.

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Agree with this - although I understand for some it’s not bragging, more just a complete inability to answer the actual question correctly

Oh please please don't give up if this is something you want. I left my husband in my early 40s for non-sex related issues - unless you count not wanting to have sex with him because he was driving me up the wall on about 20 fronts - but I've had some really fantastic sex since. And I wouldn't have even been that interested. Until I was 😁.

I agree. It’s a shame the usual braggers have come along, particularly where people have talked about serious medical issues, being widows or being the victims of abuse as the reason for stopping.

Had an awkward drunken go at it on hols this year for the first time in a couple of years.

Both mid 50s and been together since our teens. Very happy together with grown up DCs who have left home. Makes me a bit sad that we have this empty house and no longer feel the need for sex like we did when we were younger and desperate for some child free time.

My libido dropped off a cliff during menopause and I also don’t feel very confident body wise these days.

I'm 44, yesterday was the last time and we don't go more than a few days.
We are lucky I can see that reading here, we are fortunate to have matched drives and no serious illness or accidents.
I have had a hysterectomy but it increased my drive as no risk of pregnancy and longer in pain.

What!!! LTB. Life is too short.

68 and very happily having lots of sex with DH, married 40 years. I would be very upset if this stopped.

Not stopped yet at 52 and don't want to as think it helps my relationship be healthy. Each to their own though.

Agree - the tone deafness is astounding. Go and start your own threads where you can express your sadness, disbelief and amazement that adults are not having sex.

Not sure how I ended up quoting myself! That was meant to be in response to @BoilingHotand50something

I’m 40. I had a baby a year and an half ago. Haven’t had sex since our child was conceived.

I can’t work out whether I don’t fancy my husband anymore or whether it’s my libido. I’ve just felt so let down by him in his these last couple of years.
Makes me a little sad if I’m honest, but I don’t have time or space to go there mentally at the moment.

I’m happy for you older women who have a sex life.

Wrong, it's not bragging. Its trying to squash the myth that the majority of older married couples stop having sex. OP hasn't mentioned illness or physical issues just when did you stop as if this is a normal happening for everyone when it's blatantly not. It would be awful for young married couples reading this and thinking there is no intimacy to look forward to post menopause.In many cases it's actually better.

I wasn't bragging - just responding to the post insisting it wasn't natural for women to have a libido after menopause.

51, menopause made it so painful and the changes in my body with weight gain and loss of firmness made me very self-conscious about my body. I felt so unattractive that I could not understand how he could be attracted to me. I miss affection and closeness, miss having someone cuddling me and holding my hand in the street. I have come to terms with it but if I really thought about it I could cry. Have had some incredible sex, and some really horrible sex, but that chapter of my life is over and done now