How old were you when you stopped having sex.

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I'm 57 and realised that I barely ever have sex now
Relationship issues and dh has had ED since a heart attack does have Viagra though.
I don't have much drive really tbh.
How old where you when you stopped having sex?

I really hope you are finding some time for yourself ( however impossible that seems). You are dealing with a multitude of stresses. Please take care

Lucky you. I'd say your story is rare

Not stopped yet, age 64

Testosterone did nothing for me.

Those people saying they've stopped having sex in their 30's and 40's....well, you just don't know if you'll meet someone who sparks your interest again! Excluding those with medical reasons, of course.

People in their 50's onwards, especially if they've been through menopause, I'm more likely to accept that a full sex life could be in the past. I suppose I stopped at 60 a couple of years ago. It was so uncomfortable, my desire had vanished and my DP has a bit of ED (or just general lack of attraction to me now!) so no great loss but I occasionally miss the fun and intimacy. I had early menopause and HRT was only possible for a while. I tried a few things but gave up. Life goes on.

31. Dh choice not mine. Makes me sad every day 😞

I'm sure the thread title was -

'How old were you when you stopped having sex?'

What's with all the 'I'm still shagging' brags? That wasn't what the OP was asking.

I am 61, last had sex (with my DH, who is little younger) this morning. Often not more than once a week or fortnight though, work/life/teenaged child etc get in the way. Am on HRT and we are also careful to use good lube etc. My most sexually active time was in my early 40s.

Yes

I don't feel I am bragging. Different people have different lives. For many women no longer having sex is a positive thing not a negative. No judgement.

I'm 56 and still very much enjoy sex. I would have it everyday if i could. DP is 63 and has depression and anxiety is is always too tired. It really depresses me. I have never met a man who wanted to have sex everyday. I must have picked all the wrong men.

Brilliant😀Its a myth that older married couples give up on regular sex & intimacy within their relationship.

Sadly, 38, as that's when my DH stopped wanting sex. He was 44. I'm nearly 50 now and would have it if I could.

Same. It's horrible isn't it.

47 when I stopped.

Funnily enough, I've recently begun to get a tiny bit curious, and think I might like to give it a go again. But it all seems like a sea of fetishes and kinks out there these days. I can't be arsed with pandering anymore.

There are some weird narratives pushed around older women gagging for sex post-menopause.

Me arein our 60s. Married for 40+ years and our sex life is still great. It dipped for a few years whilst we had our children but never stopped. We have lots of fun and I hope it carries on for many years to come.

I’m late 30s, single and haven’t had consensual sex in about a decade. Was never really that interested though tbh, never orgasmed or enjoyed it.

I'm 56 and due to breast cancer and subsequent treatment, then further health issues caused by the cancer treatment, I really struggle with sex and libido now. Just about managing to have oral sex (cannot manage penetrative sex), about once or twice a week. I could stop altogether quite happily. My dh treats it like a "problem to fix" and has me seeing a Gynae and women's physio privately. I have all sorts of pessaries, lotions and potions, and the physio (lovely woman) wants me to try a vibrator. All well and good but I can't help thinking who is this all for? He wants to get back to penetrative sex and would like sex 3 times a week at least. That worries me a lot.

With my ex 'D'H, about 50.
Fast forward a decade and new lover and I are still at it like knives after 3 years.

Probably 20 years ago, gave me aches and pains and was not at all enjoyable. It’s sad because I realise looking back that I was in emotionally abusive relationships in my 20s and 30’s and that has affected my willingness to be intimate

I’m 73 and still going. Last time was 2 days ago

Coo! Interesting.

66 now and have been out of a relationship for the last 18 months.

I'm not done yet, but it looks as though single women of my age may not be that bothered.

Not that fussed about sex with myself and chaps aren't my thing.

Oh, and certainly miss the intimacy.

65 and still going. DH68. We're down to 2 or 3 times a month tho.

He's a self centred herbert isn't he?

63 and over the last 2 years it has decreased greatly even with a new partner during that time.
Initially he had performance issues which put the damper on things, then I had a gyne issue which affected me for a while.
Since then it has never picked up, not helped by the fact that any orgasms are so much weaker than before, hardly worth the bother.