How old were you when you stopped having sex.

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I'm 57 and realised that I barely ever have sex now
Relationship issues and dh has had ED since a heart attack does have Viagra though.
I don't have much drive really tbh.
How old where you when you stopped having sex?

I’d you don’t mind my asking how old are you? X

True. I will need to re post in ten years.

35 and no intentions to ever have it again

Am 30, pregnant with 2nd DC and currently believe I won't ever get it again, DH hasn't seemed attracted to me since first pregnancy. Feels awful.
I know my parents (both around 70) still do it once a week!

Haven’t read the whole thread but this is refreshing and making me feel better - so much around that suggests we’re all very active well into later life and it just seems like it’s not the case.

i’m 48 and feel my desire ebbing away. Some issues in my marriage not helping but I don’t think it’s entirely the ‘fault’ of that…

In my mid 40s. Desperately miss it, not just the sex but the intimacy, the touch, the cuddles. My STB EXH never had a high libido, and once I had provided our children he lost all interest.

I managed to stay so the children could finish their (ridiculously extensive) education and called it a day three years ago, should have gone much earlier. I know I may never had that intimacy again, but to be so bloody lonely in a marriage, with literally NO physical touch, well it can’t be worse than that.

No penetrative since I gave birth 5yrs ago, at 40yrs old, it kept giving me bladder infections.

Orgasms do feel like a chore, nothing dp can do anything about, I'm in it for the cuddles

Actually 33, it's been so long I forgot 😆

39

but I’ve neither been hugged nor kissed since and I feel physically frozen. I don’t think I can have sex as I can’t have a smear.

im 56.

Not stopped yet, having sex once or twice a month. I'm 60 he's 70. Not having the energy to fo it and ED is an issue so the spontaneity has gone but we have a conversation and book an appointment with each other for it. 😊 I enjoy the connection rather than the actual sex itself because its difficult to orgasm but if I do, I can still have repeat orgasms though they are shorter lasting. God, I'm worn out just writing about it. That'll do for this month!

Late forties.

Still, and in my late seventies.

10 years ago had an affair with a then 79 year lady, it was the best sex ever. She was amazing.
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Early 50s and I’m 66 now, just through circumstances. I’d love to have sex again and am quite sad that ‘that’ man was the last man I will have been intimate with. I wish it had been someone else!

I’m 61 and last had sex about 6 years ago, pre-divorce. On the one hand I hate the idea of ever having it again but on the other hand it makes me sad to know that because of my sex (almost) phobia I can never be in another loving relationship ever again, unless I find a handsome, loving man who doesn’t have any interest in sex either! Very unlikely I know…

I'd argue the only thing this thread is confirming is that outwith illness there are couples who don't and never really did like sex. I often wonder if it's one of the reasons marriages break down. The lack of sexual intimacy within a marriage has to be mutual unless its for health reasons where it becomes more understanding.

60 yrs old and came out of a long term sexless marriage through the sad death of my partner last year.I've become reacquainted with an old boyfriend but unfortunately his health problems mean he has ed and medication hasn't really helped. I've realised that having sex again is very important to me and was shocked to dream about sex recently. How do you date in your 60's and establish if someone has ed before becoming attached to them.Its not really a question you can use at an early stage.

I’m 43 and haven’t had sex for two years. Also doing nothing to try and have sex (I’m single). My last relationship, the sex was incredible but he was an absolute shit to me in every other respect. I now can’t separate those two things and would just rather not go there anytime soon. I’m also perimenopausal and almost grateful I don’t have to share the issues that creates!! I do want a partner one day, just not now.

28 (nearly 30 now) and doubt I ever will again. Have a child so I’m okay. But I miss having someone for closeness, cuddles etc. Oh well.

I found sex unbearably painful until I discovered Vagifem. You can get it on prescription; it’s transformative. I’m 57.

Reading these, I don't feel so alone.

I'm nearly 42, I had a high sex drive and tendency to seek out sex and intimacy for validation and reassurance as well as cement my love for someone etc.

I had an accident 7.5 years ago and whilst I wanted sex, the associated motions and friction causes my spinal muscles to seize up so badly I can't move and the pain is out of this world.

It's pretty much killed that side of life for me. Because a) I've piled on a lot of weight and asides from it feeling horrid to me and hating how I look and feel, I've had comments from others highlighting what they obviously think. B) I do have a partner but he dropped it on me the other year that he got with me thinking there wouldn't be any pressure for sex because he's just not that into it (and isn't interested in going down on me either, something which I'd actually manage). C) I've now been without sex for about 5, a bit over 5 years bar one very uncomfortable and very unfulfilling attempt 2 years ago which I don't even count.

It's sad and I know I deserve better, but I rarely get any kind of twinge down there anymore. At all. And I feel what I think is prolapse, everything is uncomfortable and bulgy and feels a funny shape. I had some issues post childbirth which I didn't manage to get any GP to be interested in looking at. Between everything mentioned and the giant haemorrhoid I developed during pregnancy with my now-teenager, I don't feel sexy and think I might as well resign myself to how it is.

Seeing as it's a hell of a lot to fix when I'm not even with someone who would want to make that better.

I’m sorry you’re in that situation. It must be tough when you still have a decent libido and your partner doesn’t.

Gosh I do feel sad reading this thread, for those who have seemingly never had the joy of it. Ut hey its not the end of the world. Last had sex with a man in January, we had it usually twice a day when together which was about 20% of the time for 18 months. Passionate satisfying sex. God I miss it. Working on a replacement and keeping myself going until then. I'm 66.

Hmm, ED issue, but can use viagra. Strongly suspect porn addiction, or change of preference, who knows.
Really active upto 50.
Hoping for a lottery win, and lone house move 🙃

Last had sex 15 years ago at 45! I know I will never have sex again and will never again share my bed with anything other than my wonderful dog. Not one part of me feels sad about that!

I could have written that exactly. Firstly it was me that didn’t want it now it’s more him and I feel incredibly sad and lonely about it.