How old were you when you stopped having sex.

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I'm 57 and realised that I barely ever have sex now
Relationship issues and dh has had ED since a heart attack does have Viagra though.
I don't have much drive really tbh.
How old where you when you stopped having sex?

Fifty (50). Partner has to take a high dosage of a drug that wrecks your libido. That was 6 years ago, the menopause hasn't done much for mine either, but sometimes I do miss it. Not often enough to be arsed to do anything about it, most men my age seem fucking horrible.

I’m 43, peri and finding it a chore. I have no libido and pelvic pain. I feel very sorry for DP who is older than me but very much still interested. I honestly could happily never have sex again. Trying to get HRT in the hope it’ll change things

It is interesting people’s perspectives on libido and just growing out of it. In my experience there is no such thing as growing out of it or losing interest. Just not the right person. I’ve done years of celibacy and thought I’d lost all sex drive and didn’t care. Now at age 45, my partner (of 3 years ) and I have sex sooooo much, a couple of times a day on the weekends and once a day in the week when we are together. I thought I’d resigned myself to celibacy. But actually I just wasn’t with my right person.

I get that. Been there, got the t shirt

Still at it in mid-60s, but down to once a week. I love just snuggling up together in bed too. So does DP. We don't have much, but we do have each other.

I feel sad when people say that they are not even getting any hugs.

This is such an interesting post. I am 47 and my husband has had ED since last year due to health issues, and it’s been really getting me down how much our lives have had to change, this being part of it. But am interested to hear of others who have been in the same position and have managed without.

Some very interesting posts on here, it would seem lots of women don't like sex for whatever reason. My husband died 7 years ago and we rarely had sex for the last 15 years of his life , he was a narcissistic alcoholic but I stuck with him for over 45 years. 3 years ago I met a wonderful man who treats me with respect, is kind and thoughtful, the happiest I have been for many years and the sex is amazing. When we are together we are intimate several times a say and its so good I pinch myself. He's 49 and I'm 72....

❤️ for you.

My husband died from cancer 5 years ago. About 6 months before he died he became too physically frail for sex. I was 48 then.

I really miss the intimacy and it makes me sad to think that I might never find another person to share that kind of intimacy with.

A day...not a say 🤣

40, really can’t be arsed now, I’m mid fifties.

Have you been with your partner a long time? If you have you are very lucky girl indeed

I think I was 55. I then decided I didn’t want it or a relationship anymore. I’m 62 now and don’t miss it a bit. I liked it for a lot of years but then just didn’t want it anymore. I agree with the pp who said it’s a chore. It became a chore for me so once I was single I stopped. No reflection on the quality of sex, it was fine. I don’t know about the pp you’re responding to but I’m the opposite of sad about it.

Noticeable decline in sex drive after 32 I think. Haven't had sex at all for well over a year.

Lovely story

😂

The first part describes me, I especially love sex with my husband because we love each other. There is no-one else, just to clarify. Casual sex scratched an itch, once, but was never ever very satisfying.

Men are ok, they can go & get viagra? Woman are told it’s all in the head, that what I was told by my HRT nurse, “ use or loose it”, she said- HRT has never made any difference whatsoever 😔

@username44416 I suppose I could say that I find it sad that some people make such a big deal about sex.

You can still be in a loving relationship without it.

Each to their own

Why are you assuming the partner made it a chore?

Even with rhe best partner in the world if you’re not interested it’s a chore.

Post menopausal and no interest at all here. Turn it over if it’s on TV

( I'm a man.)My father was still "performing" in his 90s and I continued with sexual relations until major surgery when I was in my late 70s, which made it impossible for me to be fully active.

Now I am left with just some great memories.

I agree each to their own, I was just answering the question.

Viagra only causes an erection. It does not induce sexual desire.

How do you know though?

I liked it when younger. Definitely had right partners.

Cba post menopause.

Mismatched libidos here 67 and 71. I lost mine when I was about 60, kept on going for DH sake, but at 66 I told him that's it. I feel sorry for him though and our relationship isn't as good now.
He gets frustrated and moody which I just ignore, but unfortunately there's no cuddles now either. Sad

How do I know what? That some people enjoy sex? Read the thread, it full of people who love having sex.