How old were you when you stopped having sex.

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I'm 57 and realised that I barely ever have sex now
Relationship issues and dh has had ED since a heart attack does have Viagra though.
I don't have much drive really tbh.
How old where you when you stopped having sex?

60, haven't stopped yet. It's not the gymnastic performance it once was, more refined and gentle, just as rewarding.

60 ish. Both had issues and it just quietly stopped.

About now. 69 next month. Husband is dying of brain tumour and is losing many functions, speech, comprehension, memory, and physical abilities. Been together 43 years and adore each other. Still wanted it and desired each other even through the years he's been ill and having treatment. Very sad to realise it is gone now.

30. Was never much interested in it. That was the reason for the relationship breaking up. I was briefly devastated at the time but I've been happily single ever since. I'm 60 now.

I’m 75. We were quite regular a couple times a week. Last time was April, then he became ill and passed away in June. It was, for us, a wonderful way to express the deep love we had for each other, even after knowing each other for 50 plus years.

I divorced this year and have no interest in having sex with anyone right now (no trust). Before I called it a day, sex was a rare event anyway. I'm 47. It's going to take a very special man to cone anywhere near me (abusive relationship)

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Still going strong. Aged 72

This is so rude and just not even true. Yes sometimes people have a shift partner but other times it’s just Some people have high sex drives, others no interest.

if someone doesn’t like sweet food you don’t say oh your missing out how sad for you.

this is exactly what this post is about and lots of people feel like somethings wrong with them because they aren’t into it but as you can see from the responses, it’s perfectly normal to want it and equally normal not to

I have a chronic illness so we sleep in separate rooms due to snoring / taking meds /weakness etc .. last time was 5 years ago and we are 50. Both not bothered. Was a chore to me and now I’m menopausal. We still are fine together overall.

I’m 65 and lost most of my libido a few years ago now. I still have enough interest to masturbate. That takes much less effort if course. My husband is older than me and lost his libido around the same time. We’re lucky that way, but we both miss our previous high sex drives. We still talk sexy, reminisce and joke about it, so we’re not dead inside yet 🤣 Seriously though. The lack of libido really pisses us off.

I completely understand a person not wanting sex for whatever reason. What I don't understand is why you'd force yourself to have sex you really don't want. Obviously if you're in an abusive relationship, that's not your choice but given a choice, why would you?

I’m so sorry 💐

I'm so sorry this is happening to you.
I was 46 when I stopped having sex. Because my DH had been diagnosed with a Grade 4 brain tumour and soon afterwards it caused a stroke. He was 56 when he died in 2008. There has been nobody else since then. I don't miss sex but still miss my DH.

I am 64 now.

Rediscovered my sex drive at 66 after my husband passed away. No
sign of it going away 3 years later!

15 years ago when I conceived my youngest. My OH has erectile dysfunction issues which I am sure are connected to his issues with alcohol (recovering alcoholic, but regular relapses). We don't even sleep in the same bed anymore. I won't ever be intimate with him again. At the age of 54 I wonder if I will ever desire anyone ever again or be desired. I'm not sure I care really.

I have been celibate (through choice) for 15 months. I am 43. Got divorced when I was 35. Had one quick fling, 2 good relationships, then a weird situationship that I ended in May last year. When I really fancy someone, I want it all the time and cannot get enough of them. When I am single, for some reason I literally lose any desire 🤷‍♀️ I can find people attractive, but I think it’s literally a case of ‘use it, or lose it’. I don’t even ‘self satisfy’ now, as I never think of it 🤦‍♀️😂

Sick of shows making it a plot line that if a partner doesn’t want sex they’re having an affair or something nefarious.It’s like the old days where women were supposed to be robots available on demand.

Wow a lot on here sounding like they've been with the wrong partner -i and the ages 😌 so incredibly important to maintain that level of intimacy bond and if your husband isn't on board 100% what is he actually doing?

Interested to know why some find the content of this thread depressing or sad.

I'm very happy to stop doing something that was a chore that had to be endured.

6 years ago when i was 57 and wife was 54. The menopause did for her. Im always wanting it . What can i do? Went to a councellor, she suggested communication might be the problem. What a joke, i may as well talk to the moon.

Idol.
Hope to have same mindset!

Because some people love having sex and especially love having sex with someone they love. For some, it's one of life's pleasures and it's sad that some haven't experienced that.

21 long years ago 😭

Im 46 and never been fitter or slimmer (or more up for it 😁)