How old were you when you stopped having sex.

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I'm 57 and realised that I barely ever have sex now
Relationship issues and dh has had ED since a heart attack does have Viagra though.
I don't have much drive really tbh.
How old where you when you stopped having sex?

Maybe 33 I stopped completely.
I'm 54 now.
Never enjoyed it.

But it is so very sad for so many people. When illness or the side effects of life saving treatment result in you no longer being able to enjoy sex because it is beyond painful it is very sad and very depressing.
When you are young you don't even realise this is a thing, I didn't. When I did realise I thought there would be some form of treatment or medical intervention but there isn't unless you are prepared to literally risk taking something which could feed the cancer you have gone through hell to try and eradicate.

And for many it isn’t sad - I find it baffling that it’s so hard for posters on here to understand. Surely their comprehension can’t be that limited.

58, had sex with DH last week. My libido (which was v v healthy) plummeted after a hysterectomy at age 40. I miss that urge but I love my DH so like to be intimate with him as he still has a high drive.

I am baffled 😫

I hope it never stops as long as DH and I are still able. Mid and late fifties and still a few times a week!

50ish due to domestic abuse. Not met anyone else.

I am baffled!

The question clearly states 'how old were you when you stopped having sex?'

There is a large number answering a question not asked 🤔 'when did you last have sex?'

Why?

Yes I see a gynae and I'm already on a cocktail of HRT. I'm waiting for another appointment.
I think i had atrophy a while before i started with treatment

2 years ago at 47 & I’m glad I don’t have to do it anymore! I was rampant in my 20’s & 30’s but still knew then I wouldn’t want to be having sex in my 60’s/70’s. The thought of my 70 year old self having sex makes me want to vom.

Exactly.

It’s like going onto a thread asking how old you were when you had your first child and ‘I don’t have children’ or one asking how you deal with your dog barking at the postie and saying ‘my dog never barks’.

There’s nothing stopping any of those posters starting their own threads about how often they still have sex in the later half of their life, but no - for some reason they decide to post an answer to a question that wasn’t asked.

@MissyB1
Please talk to the physio about what you actually want.
You truly aren't a problem to be fixed, and you have the right never to have sex again if you don't want to.
It might be better for you if you saw a therapist to support you to respect what you actually want for yourself, rather than forcing yourself to be sexual when you don't want to. If you do want to, then I apologise for misreading. 💐

We were still having sex into our early 70s, until DH became terminally ill, and became unable to. I really missed it, and still do. DH died 6 years ago.

My libido died with the menopause last year (51). I had been having sex with my husband 2 or 3 times a week but it dwindled to once a week at best. He’s very attractive (to me anyway) and keeps himself very fit. I couldn’t really cope with the loss of libido so have now been on testosterone through the Louise Newson clinic and it’s been a game changer for me. Much more energy too and have been back to the gym after a 5 year gap. Expensive but I like sex again so very worth it!

Is this a pun @Galiana ? " and then masturbated myself back to life"

Im 59, in a relationship with a man 16 yrs my junior. We have sex daily, sometimes twice a day. Before being with him, I went without sex for 10 years.

Well sorry to those who feel they weren’t bragging and feel they are busting myths but I for one have found this thread an interesting read and, in the main, a refreshing change from the usual Mumsnet ‘how many times a week’ threads which usually result in hundreds of ‘three times a day and we are late sixties’ responses.

Women not wanting or not able to have sex is not talked about very much in a serious way in my view. And when it is talked about, it is very nearly always talked about in relation to menopause, something that needs fixing and usually by HRT. This is not the case for many.

51 following DH accident. I miss it. But will never have it again . However would rather have him and cuddles than not him and sex ..

Thank you, I actually think you are right.

i'm sorry you feel that way. I remember the feeling of relief you'd be fine at least for a night or for your period. By then I no longer loved my husband and did it out of duty and to avoid his resentment.
Until it became too much and I started feeling violated. At a certain point I told him I no longer wanted to be touched, he was free to get it elsewhere as long as he let me alone. Now 4 years ago. What a liberation that was... I'm still yo separate though but that's another matter.

It's sad really... sex can be the best thing in thr world. I preferred to have no sex rather than bad sex.

I hope things are not as nad for you. Nobody deserves this.

Brilliant although I would assume this is not most peoples' experience

Would worry me too. Important you take care of yourself, you have been through so much

This is me ... though been with Dh 30 years.
Love him more each day
Frequency reduced but sex is very important ti both of us.
It brings close , and reminds us of how much we love each other.

Ditto

Late 40s. I had very bad marriage breakup. I miss sex very much but I know I'm not ready for a new relationship at the moment and I can't imagine any kind of FWB situation.
I like hearing about the couples who are still enjoying it in their 60s. It gives me hope for the future.