What are markers that identify stangers or acquaintances as posh? Lighthearted!

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For me, it's a combination of accent, subtle, expensive haircut & highlights or that perfect shade of blonde..

This made me laugh - I defo qualify if this is the criteria!!!! In reality I come from a very large and very rough council estate. But I am often thought of as posh because I speak clearly (elocution lessons in drama school) and I have an accent difficult to pin down (as above, plus living overseas and having a good 'ear' for accents means my accent smoothed out).

Old money is very different to new.

New money doesn’t need to hide their wealth, they likely earned it through hard graft and proud of the fact. Old money hides wealth because historically it’s often came via nefarious means and the local peasants are less likely to revolt if the lord of the manor isn’t rubbing it in their faces!

Their taste in clothes and how well maintained they are (nobody has ever looked posh in a crumpled outfit!).

My experience with "old school" posh is that they'd talk politely and without judgement to me (very working class / humble background) and make me feel right at home whilst looking after me very well. Seemingly very open and welcoming.

"New money" posh are more judgemental ime.

Go out with friends for meals in the week. A few holidays a year. A costa every morning. This is lighthearted by the way just a few nice people I work with.

Totally agree with this.

not giving a fuck

Always a light tan. Never sunburnt.

This is the "old" posh i know too.. and most of them swear like troopers !

Yay- I’m posh! 😂

Accent, manner, word choice. Not hair, clothes etc particularly. It's perfectly possible to be very posh and not at all stylish (or blessed with thick hair!).

Naturally confident, never talk about money, think you are insane if you try to take shoes off at the door, casually swear constantly (never sounds offensive).Sofas covered in dog hair (rarely cats).

She definitely did in her younger days.

Cannot abide the word Posh
Accent , manners and confidence definitely not new money or posted accent

True posh is when you would still be in no doubt of their poshness even if they lost all their money!

The other end of the spectrum tends to pay more attention to their hair than proper posh people, I find.

It's just accent. I know some very posh people who are extremely scruffy. Posh people don't always wear posh clothes!

Manners in all situations. Always able to casually pivot to solve a problem. Wouldn't dream of embarrassing someone. Accommodating. At ease.

I did know a lady from an aristocratic family. Beautiful voice, hardened by smoking. So polite. She was broke, lived rent free in what had been the Dower House. Her name cropped up in history, on the fringe of great events.
Excellent with horses and dogs.

Muddy 4x4
Those pinky-red trousers for the men
Don't have any hang-ups about who they know or talk to
Sweary but may also say "golly"
Buy those individual serving packs of M&S veg
Has a horse (or more than one)

Posh means having old sofas from the 1950 that are family heirlooms.
Yes and they will refer to such a sofa as "rather good"

The visual sign is good quality footwear. In fact , good quality everything, which they keep, rather than replace for the sake of having something new.

Eloquence.

I don't think being posh necessarily means rich, lots of posh people have very little disposable income.

Genuine poshness is easy to distinguish for the fake Hyacinth Bucket type.

Not being on Mumsnet because so many on here seem to be fascinated by poshness markers so I assume they are not.

This 🙌🏻

Yes, definitely no shoes off!

So you'd be OK with a thread about how to spot a Poor Person provided it says it is "lighthearted" ?