Adultifying young kids why are people doing it?!

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I just need to stop following these friends who are letting their pre-teens wear body con dresses, acrylic nails, teensy bikinis, tonnes of make up, pouting and pulling backward V signs like it’s cool!!! Wtaf is wrong with people sexualising their young daughters and sticking it on insta? Do they not realise the perverted idiots out there who will be getting off on these pics!!

Just let kids be kids.

I say that as someone was sexually abused as a pre-teen!!!

I think the usual term is 'thick as mince'. Not much you can do about it apart from avoid their pages.

My dd's friend isn't allowed to do anything.
So she comes to our hoise, nicks my dd's make up etc and changes her clothes then goes out.
So you can ban them all you like but teenagers just rebel as we all did.

These are not teens these are kids 9-12 with make up, tik tok, their own insta accounts, teensy bikinis acrylic nails. I mean why?! What’s wrong with just letting them be kids?

Even 13 year olds - it’s just adultifying them. Then my daughter’s friend getting wrecked on her all inc holiday with her family aged 15 and drinking and getting pissed!!! I mean fgs that child’s brain cells, normalising drinking!!!

Parents are trying too hard to be like the Z list celebrities and influencer type ‘role models’ who are on love island or some other trashy tv show.

I hate stupid trends like pamper parties for young children to have facials and spa days - all to show off how cool a parent you are!

scary to even think that the next generation is going to be like!

Do you think it's their mums encouraging it? (It certainly wouldn't be their dads). Or is it because they pester their mums to buy them the stuff, as it's what they're watching on tiktok etc?

It’s like mini me this and mini me that, they’re not your mini me. They’re their own person!! Let them develop an identity!! If see another kid in a white fox jumper and crocs I’ll have to say something although i do have some very old crocs 😂

I find it not too dissimilar from those awful beauty pageants in the U.S. It's just all stemming from the parents' desire to show off.

Depends on the mum, I have one friend who wants to be the same so has her own range of white fox and crocs!!

make up, acrylics nails!! Get your kids OFF tik tok. They don’t need their own insta accounts. Just stop please.

Yeah, as if a kid a few years older would choose to dress like their parents! They wouldnt' be seen dead in stuff their parents wear when they're a teenager.

Get them into sport? Team sports if they’re girls, get them off their screens.

God, you’ve just reminded me about a birthday party my DD went to age 4. It was a pamper party, but all the girls had their hair done, and make up. My DD was plastered in blue eyeshadow and bright red lipstick! Hideous!! I could not understand the thinking of the parents. Definitely couldn’t blame the child at that age!

No cure for stupidity, sadly.

Get some new friends OP.

My 8 yo DN has an iPhone, Snapchat, Instagram, body con hot pants and crop top combos has gel or acrylic nails done, is "too old to play" and we've been told not to buy her books for birthday or Christmas, but is really behind at school and her parents don't even sit and do her homework with her. It's really sad.

Try stopping them.

Fuck off with the racism.

@CurlyhairedAssassin my DDs dad took her to the hairdressers and had the front section of her hair died purple. She's 10. He also applies fake nails for her.

It's not always the mum.

@MyOtherCarisAVauxhallZafira that’s so so sad to hear! But I’ve heard 8 year olds call their nails ‘slay’. @fufulina i’d love to stop them. It worries me as to what world we are creating for our daughters.

People need to feel strong in themselves not to follow these trends, to think about what gives them joy. What about netball, painting, hockey, piano, stuff you can’t do with acrylic nails?

It was my brother who bought his then seven year old daughter an iPhone with no parental controls and unfettered access to tiktok, Snapchat and Instagram. Without even mentioning it to SIL. Having said that it's SIL who puts tanning oil on her, gets her nails done and stopped her playing in the school football team.

What’s wrong with white fox hoodies and crocs??? They’re not revealing or sexualising??
My tweens don’t have body con dresses, nails, heels or alcohol. They don’t get posted on social media either.

These are not children who are travellers or gypsies. Their parents are in professional roles HR, marketing, nursing etc. it seems to be cool to dress kids older than their years, to take away toys from them. Let them play with their toys and board games, in the park in the garden?!

Omg she’s 7?

It's not the parents dressing their kids that way - as you say yourself the kids have their own accounts.