Adultifying young kids why are people doing it?!

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I just need to stop following these friends who are letting their pre-teens wear body con dresses, acrylic nails, teensy bikinis, tonnes of make up, pouting and pulling backward V signs like it’s cool!!! Wtaf is wrong with people sexualising their young daughters and sticking it on insta? Do they not realise the perverted idiots out there who will be getting off on these pics!!

Just let kids be kids.

I say that as someone was sexually abused as a pre-teen!!!

I remember going to a Meet Santa experience and seeing the little tot (2.5 at the most) in front getting her picture taken and her Dad going,

"Do your sexy pout for Santa, babes! C'mon Winnie, show him!"

So this tiny kid sticks her hip out, does a fish lip face, rolls her eyes and sticks out two peace signs and goes "Thooper Thexthy!" (Super sexy) in this weird voice. Some people laughed, others looked uncomfortable. Mum and Dad laughed adoringly and told her to do it again, which she did.

Winnie's Dad goes, "She can twerk too, Santa! Winnie twerk for Santa!"

So now she's pouting and twerking.

Then Dad goes, "Yeah, she's a very naughty girl, Santa, best put her on the naughty list!"

Boak.

Long story short, fast forward 2 years and my DS is invited to a 4th birthday party by a little girl called Winnie who he's been at nursery with. Yep. Same Winnie. At their house. No idea until I got there...invite was from "Winnifred".

Winnie's parents loaded. Dad around 40, Mum about 35. Professional jobs that need sense. Normal family. Winnie wearing makeup and "sexy" dancing to pop songs (Rihanna S&M!). Still doing the super sexy pout/pose/photo ops, except now she's joined by cousins and other little girls who she's taught to do the same thing. And other parents laughing hilariously at it. They think they're "cool moms and dads".

Very off and gross. We came up with excuses for future parties.

Agree OP. I think it's a mixture of parents encouraging it, peer pressure and / or YouTube, TikTok, etc.

Exactly what we think at school every mufti day.

Under 11 girls, all wearing their crop tops, acrylic nails and make up.

Why on earth parents think that’s suitable for school is anyone’s guess.

Who is buying the child's clothes, make up nails and allowing them on apps that they're too young for?

If they do everything now what is there to look foreword to when they are teens and adults.

It's such a shame.

What are white fox jumpers?

I agree it’s awful

???

Who do you think buys/pays for the clothing of 12 year old and UNDER children?

They can hardly go and earn their keep. Of course it's the parents dressing their little girls this way.

@mondaytosunday how do the kids buy it all? I don’t follow the kids, I follow the parents who tag their underage insta kids into their posts. Mocktails and pouting. These poor kids - let them just be kids. Read a bloody book child!!!! Learn to value something else other than following trends.

@Lightsonthebalcony have a google just sweatshirts but every year 6 child is walking around in an oversized one lol!

I recently saw Doves Let 10 be 10 campaign and I thoroughly agreed with it
I have a 9 year old dd. None of her classmates have phones or social media. I had 5 of them over to my house at the weekend and they spent the time on the trampoline and making clay bead bracelets.
Its all influence from social media and clever marketing thinking they need Drunk Elephant to be beautiful.

Set them free from this crap.

Who is paying for these clothes/false nails/make up then?

There's a big difference between 11 yr olds and 15 year olds. And lets be clear here, we are talking about girls not boys. It's girls who get exploited not boys.

I don't have a problem with painted nails or hair, that's just fun. It's only when it becomes a doorway to trying to be 'sexy'. They have no concept of the risks.

I have a nearly 9 year old who has no interest in fashion and loves playing with her toys still. I’m hoping it lasts. I went to her sports presentation night (the under 9s were the youngest team) and I couldn’t believe what some of the 11/12 year olds were wearing. Body con dresses that didn’t cover their knickers for most of them. My daughter seems quite young in her ways compared to some of her peers who want to go to Sephora, use skincare, wear body con and go on their phones all day.

however- I don’t see anything wrong with a white fox hoodie and crocs. Both items are comfy and not inappropriate at all

We live in a nice area. Nice kids, nice parents.

I had my kids at the park last week. Two boys came into the park with plastic shaped fruits with consumable liquid inside.

Started to try them and were laughing and clowning around. Typical boy behaviour.

Then the older of the two (around 11-12 years old) said "we should do this on TikTok live" and so the next fifteen minutes or so were spent talking into a phone instead of communicating with each other.

I appreciate that this thread is generally about girls but I was heartbroken to see this. Social media is so desperately detrimental for young people.

@Lemia Her 9 year old friends want to go to Sephora and wear body con 🙈my little girl is three years off that, it makes me feel sick with panic

Exactly! Whilst White Fox hoodies may be everywhere atm, they're comfy hoodies not body con dresses. The modern day of Global Hypercolour t-shirts

I know it’s madness. Her little 8/9 year old friends with their perfect skin- some of them have bottles and bottles of skin care. My daughter was baffled by it at a sleepover. I’m so glad she doesn’t want it yet but I feel like it won’t be long before she’s asking for the same things 😩

The 10 vs 10 campaign looks so good.

I have to say, I don't know anyone who lets their pre-teen daughters do this!

Just googled white fox hoodie. Not sure what’s inappropriate about that?

My 10 year old has makeup that she likes to play around with but she’s not allowed to wear it out of the house. Exception being the school disco, she’s allowed a little mascara and lip gloss for that. There seems to be a fine line. I want her to stay young, but at the same time she needs to keep up with what her peers are doing in order to fit in. It’s hard!

I get this @Himitsu it depends on who the peers are, if they get into sports, netball, riding, football or even music they won’t be doing all of this,

It’s the Kardashian influence, how you look is more important than anything else etc.

@Lemia Its awful!