I haven't read the full thread so this may have been said already....but the reason nuts and peanuts are taken seriously isn't spurious, it's because the chances of an anaphylatic reaction being fatal is higher with nuts/peanuts than with other foods. So if you are having an allergic reaction your 'odds' are worse if you've consumed nuts and peanuts.
52% of all fatal reactions in adults in the UK occur with nuts and peanuts. In 26% of cases the trigger is unidentified. In 22% it's other foods including dairy (5%) and fish/crustaceans (7%).
Dairy is often quoted as the most dangerous allergen for children, but that's in part to the way the figures were reported:
Dairy 26%, Peanut 14%, Tree nuts 9%, unidentified nut 12%. An unknown allergen is responsible in 29% of cases. Fish/crustaceans 6%.
That's in the context of nut allergies being taken so seriously by schools etc and, as pp have said, in general being easier to avoid vs dairy being everywhere for children especially. Thankfully children do often grow out of a dairy allergy but its risk to allergic children should never be underestimated.
All allergies should be taken very seriously and I really do agree that the general public don't realise dairy and other allergens can be as dangerous as they are. Some people don't seem to realise that they can be fatal too.
My own DC is allergic to nuts and peanuts, but also egg and it's egg that is more difficult to avoid and the one we've had to treat him for on occasion ...any by treat I mean hospital.
But there is a reason nuts and peanuts are considered dangerous. It's because they are responsible for more deaths from anaphylaxis. The risk of your allergic reaction being fatal is higher with these allergens.