I'm so mortified by what this woman said to me, I don't want to go back to the gym.

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I'm so embarrassed. I have lost 4 stone in the last year by eating more healthily and I started going to the gym about 6 months ago in a bit to become more toned and generally feel better. I'm now a size 12 and happy enough with that. I'm 57 and I haven't found it easy.

I really enjoy the gym now and go about 4/5 times a week, on my own, and do my own thing. I feel great. This evening as I was just about to start using the rowing machine, a woman (who is super fit and absolutely stunning) approached me and said 'I don't mean to be rude, but those leggings do nothing for you because you can see your cellulite through them, you might be better with joggers'. She then went back to her equally stunning friend and they seemed to have a good old giggle.

I'm so mortified. My leggings are normally Sweaty Betty ones, not 'up the bum' ones and I wear a long tee shirt too. I felt quite good when I went in tonight and now I'm back to feeling like an overweight old bag and I never want to set foot in there again. I will though, I've worked hard to feel healthier - I just understand why anyone would say something like that. I daresay she can see my cellulite, but why bring someone down like that?

I certainly wouldn’t have delivered the same message myself but some women think it’s shows a solidarity in sisterhood or something. .

She has probably noticed you by yourself gaining more confidence, probably getting more attention from people than her and she doesn’t like it.

I bet once she has washed her make up off, she’s probably an ugly fucker, it always eventually shows, Bitch!!!

Get one of the body positive T-shirts up thread. Well done you are doing amazing by the way. I was once doing the C25k and some man shouted you are too fat to run when l was running past his house, l made sure l said hello to him every time l seen him. Good luck l wish l had your determination and love of exercise.

Don't let bully's like her put you off your journey, Seriously perhaps she has seen your journey and is threatened by how much you have achieved, what other reason would she say this to you! If she approaches you again stand up to her and ask why she feels she is so 'entitled' and then report her to the manager.

What a strange and horrible thing for that woman to have done. What on earth makes anyone think they can speak to another person like that?
Go back to the gym, have a line ready incase she says anything else, let the staff know what she said (& the friend laughing) and practise your best Paddington hard stare.
Don’t let those awful words take up any more thought. You’ve done amazingly well!

There is something deeply wrong and abhorrent about her OP, this isn’t on you at all. You’ve done bloody amazing

'I don't mean to be rude....' well don't say anything then. No one asked for her opinion and it is irrelevant. What bullying behaviour, she must be really insecure. Please don't let her nasty comments stop you going there - and you wear your leggings with pride. I know she's hurt you and it wont be easy, but that's the best way to deal with bullies. Everyone here has been so supportive OP, you've got this!

How incredibly rude - and hurtful! I am gobsmacked that anyone would make such a personal and insulting remark, then go away and laugh about it with a friend. Shame on her, a grown woman too, not a school kid.

Pay no attention, you are fine, op, probably quite gorgeous too. What's more you have achieved a lot with your weight loss, you are exercising and, in time, if you do have cellulite, it will disappear.. Be proud of yourself.

Please do this OP

My go to comeback to a mean comment is 'I'm sorry your mother didn't love you enough,'. Stops them dead as usually true. And I do actually mean it.

Sorry OP, I hope you do keep going in.

What a cow! Ignore her or report her if you feel able to. Well done on your amazing progress 👏 she's probably jealous or very unhappy or both.

Please go up to her in a very public area and call her out next time. What a fucking bitch!

Don't be mortified. Be outraged.

Keep doing your thing. 👍👏🙌😊🩷

If you have cellulite or stretch marks you know you have them, you don't need it pointing out. I will never understand why some people think that it is ok to do so either! I'm like you I would never tell anyone anything, other than to compliment someone. Sisterhood my arse!

Cellulite is completely normal. It’s not a way to judge people! Tbh I would report her to the gym - the one I went to was very body positive and had a code of conduct and that kind of member would not be welcome.

What a sad remark to make. Shows she is completely obsessed with what she looks like and projects onto other people who haven't asked for her opinion. I hope you will go back to the gym, OP. Do it for you and don't give this sad person any more headspace.

Report the incident. She sounds inappropriately confident that she can interfere with other members use of the premises. The gym if it is taking its business seriously, should want to deal with that promptly. Users who take that stance will believe they have the right to interfere with others membership. You pay to use the building and its facilities with comfort, this member has now made you feel that what you wear is up for judgement. Will she be saying people who are a different size shouldn't be there/using certain equipment? Will she comment on age too - its unacceptable. Don't allow her to intimidate you or anyone else from accessing what they paid for.

What a horrible, sad, cruel person. There's a saying that your candle doesn't burn brighter by snuffing out someone else's.
well done you for your magnificent weight loss and new joy in life. Don't let a sour empty bitch spoil it 💐

OP she is a horrible, nasty piece of work. I used to call horrible women bitches until we got our female dog (known as a bitch) . She is friendly and loyal unlike this horror!
Hindsight is a great thing, I've heard a great retort to these things like "at least I can do something about it, what can you do about your horrible personality?!'

You said she looks great but it's obviously only very superficial, she is not a nice person. I would report it to a manager too.
Well done on the weight loss.

Honestly go back to the gym, wear the tightest leggings you can find and make sure to stretch right over in front of her and let out a massive fart in her direction. On a serious note, she was out of line speaking to you like that and I hope you keep attending your gym. You have done incredibly well and deserve to be proud of yourself in any outfit you please.

Believe you me, if a woman in a gym is looking at another woman and feels the need to comment on their body, it says a lot about her own lack of self-esteem.

'she's so focussed she really knows what she's doing'
it may look that way in the gym, but I bet you she's not like that in real life !

Ask yourself what is actually wrong with having cellulite??

Show me one female over the age of about 12 🙄who doesn't have cellulite

My daughters who are in their 30s have cellulite....................

Yes, we all have wobbles and insecurities about how we're not 'perfect', but this woman seems to have more insecurities than most if she felt the need to say something like that to you.

For some reason, you have made her feel threatened - and it's probably because you 'do my own thing. I feel great'

Some women feel threatened by strong women who 'do their own thing'

In fact, you should probably feel sympathy for her because she's not confident enough to be who she is and has to compare her body with other women to make her feel 'successful'

ffs! remember that we women are so much more than just cellulite!! 😆😆

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I think the obvious response is:‘I’d rather have cellulite on my arse than be one.’

She's a cunt
Fuck her to the far side of fuck.

She's just a nasty piece of work.

Don't let her put you off the gym.

Congratulations on your weight loss.

I’d complain actually. You deserve to be able to go to the gym without having members come up and insult you. I know that might be confronting, but it would be pretty confronting for her to realise other people know what a bitch she is too.

There was something a few months ago about a woman filming someone at the gym then posting how funny it was because they were overweight. When the gym found out they were banned from all their gyms, including every franchise; not so funny now.

I'd say something to the gym TBH. Just mention she came over and made you feel uncomfortable and you just wanted to find out about their policies on customer privacy and safety, see what they have in place, if nothing happens an anonymous post on their social media page. You might find they take it more seriously than you'd expect.

What a cow! You have done amazingly well and sound like you’re in a good place. Don’t let one insecure bitch get in your way!