I'm so mortified by what this woman said to me, I don't want to go back to the gym.

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I'm so embarrassed. I have lost 4 stone in the last year by eating more healthily and I started going to the gym about 6 months ago in a bit to become more toned and generally feel better. I'm now a size 12 and happy enough with that. I'm 57 and I haven't found it easy.

I really enjoy the gym now and go about 4/5 times a week, on my own, and do my own thing. I feel great. This evening as I was just about to start using the rowing machine, a woman (who is super fit and absolutely stunning) approached me and said 'I don't mean to be rude, but those leggings do nothing for you because you can see your cellulite through them, you might be better with joggers'. She then went back to her equally stunning friend and they seemed to have a good old giggle.

I'm so mortified. My leggings are normally Sweaty Betty ones, not 'up the bum' ones and I wear a long tee shirt too. I felt quite good when I went in tonight and now I'm back to feeling like an overweight old bag and I never want to set foot in there again. I will though, I've worked hard to feel healthier - I just understand why anyone would say something like that. I daresay she can see my cellulite, but why bring someone down like that?

As PPs have said, I would also complain. I’m pretty sure anyone at my gym would take someone to task for a comment like that.

I would also say something to her next time. Not some smart-arsed comment. But I would ask her why she would say something like that to me. Say it was very hurtful and uncalled for. I would do it as publicly as possible to shame her.

It is she who should be mortified, not you.

OMG this is outrageous, I know how much confidence it takes to go to the gym in the first place and well done on the weight loss, you are amazing.
Please do as others have said on here and report her, it is good you are resilient enough to not let her put you off going to the gym, the next person she says it to might not be

I bet she overheard some guy talking about what an amazing transformation you’ve had and how fucking awesome you look. Insecure harpy is obviously threatened! Why on earth else would she bother saying something like that? Keep going, lady!!! You are impressive!!!

Your cellulite is likely less noticeable than her distinct lack of class. Call her out on her rudeness if she speaks to you again. It's not on at all.

So sorry this happened to you,. Obviously don't realise that internal beauty is also something they should work on!

Well done for how far you have gotten!! 4 stones? I struggle to shift 1 lb!!!

Keep going, ignore those comments and come find your support here!

What a rude cow. I would honestly make a complaint against her. She was actively choosing to approach you and criticise your clothing and talking about your body as if it's her right to do so. It's harassment. I hope she gets banned.
Well done with your health journey. Don't listen to that rude cow. But she should be reported as the gym will lose clients if she insults people at will like that!

She's a nasty witch op. Lots of people have cellulite even before they reach adulthood, it doesn't have to be an age or size thing. You rock, be proud and screw her.

Who does that? I'll tell you who. An extremely miserable,insecure,pitiful,worthless loser. Mean girls are just that, stupid little girls who are bullies and are threatened by anyone doing their own thing and enjoying it too. No one can be happy with their lot, because they are certainly not. As stunning and fit looking she may be on the outside, what lies inside is a vile monster that only she can see and trust me she doesnt think shes stunning and fit... she had to take a hard look at you to find something to jump on top of being threatened by YOU...Take it as a compliment & Chin up.😁.You keep doing you

What the hell, she's a bitch. How old is she around? Also I am 35 and have bad cellulite which I hate and I'm 8.5 stone. If I were you I'd go in in shorts next time and do a workout and stick your arse right in her face! I know you said she's good looking but it sounds abit like jealousy, maybe she is jealous of your improvement and wants to be the only queen bee. You only live once don't ler stop you, if she says anything again just say, can I ask why are you so obsessed with me do you fancy me?

Joey Swoll is a youtuber I sometimes watch who calls out toxic gym culture. You should watch some of his videos, the gist is that the gym is there for anyone who wants to use it but it's so important to respect other users. Try think of the people that helped you and forget the nasty wagon. You've worked hard to get fit and healthy, she'd need so much more time and work to give her a decent personality.

Well done with your exercise and fitness.

You are doing something about your cellulite. She can’t do anything about her nasty personality.

Congratulations on all your hard work.

I'd take great delight in continuing to wear your outfit to show her you didn't give it toss what she thought.

Well done on the weight loss! That's a great achievement, and you should be very proud of yourself!

As her words left you affected in this way in that you even left before doing your workout, I feel you absolutely need to contact the gym manager about this. It's not ok for her to have made you feel like this. She needs to be spoken to about her behaviour, she's bang out of order.

Ignore this idiot. Focus on you. You're amazing xxx

I'm sorry you experienced this incredibly toxic behaviour. Well done on your healthy lifestyle changes and feel free to tell her to piss off next time you see the entitled bitch.

Is it a chain gym or an independent one? Me and my partner are always in the gym and if we'd overheard that we would have definitely spoke up for you, there's no need for it when we're in the middle of an obesity crisis to shame someone actually putting in the work. If it's a chain I'd reccomend looking for a smaller one, the one I attend is like a little family and there'd be no tolerance for trash like that criticising someone improving their health.
Don't let this knock your confidence OP, most people in the gym are more pissed off by people who put in enough effort pre-gym to look stunning than someone in leggings and a tshirt doing their thing. Only bitchy airheads care what other people in the gym look like.

Wow she's a cunt, isn't she. That's proper playground bullying.
As you know who she is to point out, please report her behaviour to the gym. How dare she try to ruin it for you or anyone else.
Next time you go, feel the full force of 300+ people here cheering you on during your workout. No-one here gives a shit if you have (perfectly normal) cellulite or not. So don't you dare call yourself an old bag, call yourself an awesome women who's putting some serious graft in to get healthier and who doesn't give a shit what a rude bully says.

😂😅🤣
If I had to choose between having cellulite or an appalling character I'd choose the cellulite every time! She has far more to be embarrassed about than you do. Hold your head up high and keep the moral ground. You're doing great and your weight loss is a fantastic achievement too.

Echo what everyone else has said. Well done. I am sorry . She sounds like a nasty horrible person.

Never take criticism from someone
you wouldn’t ask for advice.
She can fuck off. I’d rather 1,000 of you than one of her.

I would love to lose 4 stone, well done. Keep going and doing what you enjoy, two fingers up at her from me.

OP, firstly well done on the weight loss. I did similar a couple of years ago so l know something of how hard you’ve worked and how good it feels when you’ve reached your goal. Secondly, an exercise programme to strengthen your muscles and boost your circulation will firm the skin. It won’t remove the cellulite but it can significantly reduce the appearance. So if that bitch approaches you again tell her you’re working on improving your cellulite and suggest she does the same for her personality.

Forgetting the snarky cow for a moment, well done on your amazing weight loss!! It’s great to hear you have been enjoying the gym.

At a size 12 you cannot look too bad in your leggings and please don’t let her stop you from continuing the fantastic progress you have made.

IMHO I think there are a lot of very weight conscious women who don’t really have anything else in life to feel good about. The more soignee their figure, the more I find this to be true. They then become incredibly judgy about other women as if to validate themselves. If she has been watching your journey, I suspect you are probably being just a little too successful! I notice it on MN all the time: some women like to feel overweight people are somehow a “ lesser species”; it’s not just that they haven’t prioritised or ( or have a fuller life with more things to prioritise) but rather they just can’t manage it. I’m sure this nasty approach was just to put you in your place and reassure herself that actually you still aren’t as good as her. Sad little wrench.

Try to take no notice. This is her issue. Don’t let her derail you from your success.,Of course the ideal would be to carry on as if she doesn’t matter in the least, however, being realistic, I think you are maybe now going to feel self conscious in the same leggings? This isn’t about pandering to her but putting you in the best place to continue your success. I’d go into a sweaty Betty or similar and explain and ask them to help you select something they can reassure you looks fine. It doesn’t need to be anything too baggy, maybe just a firmer textured fabric. And then when you walk back in, imagine us cheering you on and blowing raspberries at her! Because she’s vile and a small person. Good luck op snd do update us with how it goes! We are really cheering you on!

I agree with another poster about ratting her out to a staff member. She needs to be spoken to so that she doesn't do it again. Or to others.

She's nothing but a bully. Go back, wear the same thing but with a shorter T-shirt, or get some leggings that come to mid-thigh and wear those. Show her that what she has said made no difference. And give her a piece of your mind if she starts on you again. Tell her that that nasty personality she's wearing is showing through her gym clothes.

I'm so mad on your behalf!

Please don’t let what that deeply unpleasant woman said stop you from going. She must be constantly consumed by ugly thoughts and gets her self validation from bringing other people down. I know it’s difficult but you cannot let her get to you. What she said says nothing about you and everything about her. And who cares if some cellulite shows? It’s a normal skin texture. Don’t hide yourself away.

Also, take comfort from the fact that every single person on this thread thinks she’s an absolute turd whereas only her pathetic mate thinks she’s great. We are all behind you (cheering you on, not sneering at your cellulite).