I'm so mortified by what this woman said to me, I don't want to go back to the gym.

[DeclansAFeckingDream]

I'm so embarrassed. I have lost 4 stone in the last year by eating more healthily and I started going to the gym about 6 months ago in a bit to become more toned and generally feel better. I'm now a size 12 and happy enough with that. I'm 57 and I haven't found it easy.

I really enjoy the gym now and go about 4/5 times a week, on my own, and do my own thing. I feel great. This evening as I was just about to start using the rowing machine, a woman (who is super fit and absolutely stunning) approached me and said 'I don't mean to be rude, but those leggings do nothing for you because you can see your cellulite through them, you might be better with joggers'. She then went back to her equally stunning friend and they seemed to have a good old giggle.

I'm so mortified. My leggings are normally Sweaty Betty ones, not 'up the bum' ones and I wear a long tee shirt too. I felt quite good when I went in tonight and now I'm back to feeling like an overweight old bag and I never want to set foot in there again. I will though, I've worked hard to feel healthier - I just understand why anyone would say something like that. I daresay she can see my cellulite, but why bring someone down like that?

OP, I'm 75 years old and go to 5 classes a week at the gym. I had a hip replacement in January and, despite the exercise ,have that belly flab that most of the ladies of my age seem to suffer from. I much prefer to go to classes, is this possible for you? People are much more supportive and you don't have to face the 'perfect' bodies. That woman might have a nice body but she has a nasty mind. Please don't be put off, you're doing great!

OP As a gym user YOU are the person I want to share a space with working out making yourself healthy not the arsehole who decided to piss on your day.

Id mention it to a member of staff at manager level and totally ignore her past that. Id assume she has some huge hangup and a lack of a personality.

Dont let one total imbecile ruin something you enjoy doing.

Huge congrats on the amazing weight loss.

(Failing all of the above just get shredded and use her as a weight 😂 )

As others have said, PLEASE report report report! People like that vain little bitch have no place being in a gym. A place where people are supposed to build each other up, not tear people down. She does not deserve her membership if that is how she's going to behave.

Want to also echo others by saying I am so sorry this happened to you and would like to think the vast majority of people would never dream of saying something so nasty, especially to someone who is clearly there working so hard and has achieved so much already!!
I hope she doesn't put you off going because you don't deserve that and she doesn't deserve the satisfaction. Hope you're okay OP!

She’s a hideous bastard. Fucking evil. She may look stunning but there’s nothing in the gym that will fix her ugly personality. Sounds like she’s insecure and needs a bloody good therapist. Please,next time you go,wear a pair of hot pants and when she looks at you flip up your middle finger. You’ve done brilliantly,be proud of yourself. Bollocks to her

I too get very annoyed by people referring to anyone in a derogatory way as bitch, cow etc. None of these female animals would be so rude and defamatory.

With regard to the OPs weight loss I would like to know exactly how it was done as I could do to lose a bit of excess timber and get much fitter. You are an inspiration and should be proud of what you have achieved and do not let yourself be bullied out of the gym by this sad excuse for a human being.

Her looks will soon fade and you will still be a decent human being.

Beauty is only skin deep - Ugly goes to the bone.

I never want to set foot in there again. I will though

The last part is all that matters.

Keep going, and keep wearing the leggings. Maybe wear a shorter top next time!

If she says anything to you again, suggest that you both go and speak to the manager and let him/her decide which one of you is causing more offence.

Anyone who starts a comment with “I don’t mean to be rude / harsh / gobshite-esque, but…” has nefarious intentions. You were on the rowing machine, how could she even see cellulite?

Also, who is Declan?!

OP, why didn’t you tell her to FO and her own business?

What colour were your leggings OP?

I only ask as we saw a woman jogging recently, wearing perfectly normal leggings and a shirt, but unfortunately the leggings were a perfect match to her skin colour. They gave the impression that she was naked from the waist down. It was very unfortunate. I was almost tempted to say something, but didn't want to upset her, but if it had been me, I'd rather someone told me. Is there any chance this woman was trying to be helpful?

What a weirdo.

Keep doing your thing - building your strong beautiful healthy body.

• if you are looking for a new gym song - Kendrick Lamar Humble: "I’m so fXXXin’ sick and tired of the Photoshop .... Show me somethin’ natural like ass with some stretch marks"

[ETA Meant to say that I agree with the poster I've quoted.]

Why? Because she's a horrible, jealous bitch. You have made a great deal of progress. She's never going to improve.

Had something similar when I was in my 50s. Went to an Aquarobics class. Most of us were in our 50s and 60s.

Two young women came in, fully made up. The rest of us were in the water, in the "small pool" at the leisure centre.

They were giggling and making bitchy comments to one another at the side. (I was fat then and I'm fat now. So were some of the other women.)

They saw me standing in the water up to my waist and - instead of climbing down the steps - slid in from the side. They went right under.

I'm a smidgen off 5ft 9. They weren't.

honestly i think people who wear skin coloured leggings already know this. they must do!

No. There's no chance that this woman was trying to be anything than a nasty person.

This is my go to phrase when shit like this happens. 'And what.'

Try it. Just say it. Out loud. 'And what.'

Oh that poor woman. Imagine going through life having no filter and absolutely no idea about how to behave and interact with others appropriately. I can guarantee she'll have no real friends because of it.

Feel pity for that sad, tragic woman and be the bigger person here. Don't stop going to your gym because of this inadequate person. Hold your head high and think about how much you've achieved and the emotional intelligence and social skills that come naturally to you.

Keep being amazing.

Of course she wasn't trying to be helpful, she was trying, and succeeding, in being hurtful.

This woman is clearly a thoroughly nasty piece of work with no redeeming features.

She may look good now but she is hideous inside and as the years roll by her appearance will mirror her vile character.

I think a reply when you meet her next is to say,

I know your friends won’t tell you, and once you see it, it can’t be unseen but before commenting on what people look like, I should take a good look in the mirror.

It will at the very least have her straining to see what you are talking about and make her at least for a while question what people see and aren’t telling her.

And of course if her friends say there is nothing there you can say, you did say her friends wouldn’t tell her

Sometimes a little bit of a mind fuck is called for

What an absolute fucking bitch. It’s easier said than done but completely ignore her , OP. It sounds like you have made amazing progress and some people just hate to see that in others. Keep going.

Your a better woman than me I would of punched her square in the face

Nasty little cow.

Some woman no matter how beautiful they are, are so insecure they try and rip other woman down.

Personally I would see it as a compliment she was think ' damn that woman looking good and happy and im not happy so i will rain on her parade'

Cripes OP, what an absolute cow!!

Well if you're now a size 12 just keep going and show her the door, is my advice!

Our gym has a clearly displayed policy where you can report people who have been unpleasant.
You have done so well. Don't let this airhead derail you and take away your pleasure in being in the gym. You can see from this thread how unpopular that kind of meanness is. She was on a pathetic power trip. I would grey rock her as she doesn't deserve your attention and if she tries to speak to you again, just tell her you don't want to hear anymore of her nasty comments.

That woman must be deeply unhappy with herself is all I can think. Be glad you're not her.
I am virtually the same age as you and have lost weight and got fit over the last 1.5 years too. I did it for me not for anyone else's approval but boy did I not expect some of the negative comments I've had from other women. Weird stuff. Keep going, you're doing so well 😊💪

I struggle to see how you would see even the worst case of cellulite through worn out leggings

You can get rid of cellulite but she’ll always be a nasty little cunt.

Forgive the harsh word but wow that was such a nasty awful thing said to someone minding their own business! She and her mate obviously only get validation by tearing others down. Probably the sort who obsess over Insta likes as well 🙄