Please help me decide ceremony time I'm having a complete mare

[tornbride1]

Wedding is on a Sunday in August. We wanted the ceremony at 2pm but it isn't available and we can't change the date.

Can choose between 12pm and 4pm.

Having 30 day guests and 40 evening guests. Definitely can't afford to have everyone as a day guest.

Here are the venues suggested timings and neither is ideal and it's really bothering me. Help me decide please

12pm Ceremony Timings

11am Guests to start arriving
12pm Ceremony
12:30pm Drinks Reception, Canapes & Photos
2pm Call through to Marquee / Guests take seats
2:15pm Wedding Breakfast and optional speeches before/after
7pm Evening reception / evening guests to arrive (if any)
8pm Evening food

4pm Ceremony Timings

3pm Guests to start arriving
4pm Ceremony
4:30pm Drinks Reception, Canapes & Photos
6pm Call through to Marquee / Guests take seats
6:15pm Wedding Breakfast and optional speeches before/after
8:30pm Evening reception / evening guests to arrive (if any)
10pm Evening food

Who’s lying?

That's what I'm asking.

What's the plan for informing attendees?

4pm is the best time

Means people don't have to rush to get there

It's a Sunday night! People gave all weekend to get there.

OP, you're spending a lot of money on this. Either completely redesign your wedding where you can get married on a Saturday , or go with the 12pm, because no one will stay late dancing if they have work the next day.

@BettyBardMacDonald oh change the record! It's 35-40 of our closest friends and family who have all been deliberating with us on what's best to do. It's not a secret!

We've been together for 10 years and want to make the day as special and perfect as possible with the budget we have.

Believe it or not you're actually not invited so you don't have to worry about it!

@PeriIsKickingMyButt aw that's lovely thanks for sharing!

I feel so much more excited now we have a plan that works for us. I feel like this was a really negative mental block that I just couldn't see past. I feel we have made the right choice!

That's great news! that's what we did and everyone is still speaking to us after our mockery and sham of a pretendy wedding a whole 25 years later!

Having said 12pm was too early for my preference, I'd honestly prefer 12pm as a guest and watching the actual wedding than 2pm and missing it.

It's hard to understand for some people I know but the ceremony with the celebrant is the actual wedding