NC for this but been around a long time .
I was very friendly with a woman for more than 20 years . We were each other’s bridesmaids, shared good and bad times . We were extremely close.
About 15 years ago I discovered that her husband was cheating on her . Friend had always said she would want to know if her husband cheated although she never thought he would . He knew that I knew .
Anyway , after a lot of inner turmoil, I told her . She didn’t take it well. We had met in a cafe and she simply walked out . When I phoned her later she hung up . After a couple of weeks I wrote to her but her eventual reply stayed that I was lying and that I was jealous. She stayed with her husband.
Fast forward and I have discovered that she is terminally ill . My dilemma is that I am not sure if I should reach out or just let it go . DH says let it go but a couple of friends have said we should make peace .
Thoughts ?