Tell me about the ones you miss, I miss mine too and here is a safe space.

[Cadela]

I’m having a really down day missing my dad. He died 4 years ago and I’m usually fine but today is one of those fucking hell I can’t days.

I miss him bringing random things to my house that he knew would help. My favourites being endless co2 detectors, fire extinguishers and first aid kits. Touch wood have never had to use/had alarms go off them but I’m better equipped than my local fire station. I hope he sleeps well because of that.

If you are grieving this is a safe space. Tell me about them.

I miss my dad (2014) and my mum (2019) - I keep forgetting they are gone, and saying I must tell them so and so bit of news. It's not a conscious thought, but more that sort of knowing they would want to know motion. It gets me every time.

I miss my best friend who died in 2016, and felt that my entire future life plans had dissolved with her. We had planned to retire together and do so many things.

All of that missing is nothing compared to that for my only daughter. I thought I was numb to grief, but I was very wrong. Life is entirely different. I'm totally different. Our family is broken up irreparably. I did not see her every day, we lived in different countries, but she was my constant and now she's not.

Hugs to all.

My older sister. She was like a mother figure to me. Everyone in my immediate family is still around but I've gone low/no contact with them. She was the only one who genuinely cared. My heart aches that I can't hear her voice anymore.

My Nan. She was more of a mother to me than my mum. I miss her whistling to the archers on a Sunday morning and her Sunday lunches. I miss going to her home and the smell of cooking as I went through the front door. I miss the stories she told me of the war. I miss her tarts and crumbles. I miss her hugs. I miss her.

My best friend of 46 years died 4 months ago.
I want to pick up the phone and speak to her most days, laugh with her, make plans or just chat shit. I'm not grieving yet because despite being there I don't quite believe it 😪

My mum and my lifelong best friend. I feel lost without them. They were my anchors. Both passed away in the last 3 years. I feel so bloody sad.

My husband who died last month. The world seems very quiet without him.
Sorry for all your losses.

Wow 17years old. I'm so sorry for you and your family.

Your grandad sounds wonderful!

My dsis died four Paralympics ago. She spent the summer of 2008 waiting for a transplant that never happened, instead of flying out to Beijing to compete. I miss her. I think I always will.

I miss my dad - he died 27 years ago
I miss mum who died 14 years ago
I miss my sister passed 12 years ago

Most of all I miss my husband who died 4 years ago.

People say it gets easier but I'm not sure it does. You learn to live with it, because you have to, but it's still hard. Very hard.

I'm so very sorry. She must have been young. What was her sport?

I miss my mother in law. She passed 10 months ago. Our 2 year old won’t remember her, our 6 year old won’t talk about her without getting angry she’s gone and my husband is in I talk to her every day and go to send pictures of the boys to her regularly before remembering she’s gone. She didn’t get to know that we managed to get a school for DS 6 (SEN). She doesn’t get to know how it’s all turned out or that DS2 is thriving at nursery. There’s just so much loss. I can’t say any of this at home or show my grief because I don’t want my husband to think I’m taking away from his loss which is immeasurably more than mine. It’s just such a heavy weight to bear.

I’d lost grandparents before and hadn’t found that grief as heavy for me, it was always expected and largely kinder for them in the end, in their particular circumstances. I can look back on them and our memories with love and gratitude but I can’t think of her without the huge weight of grief.

Oh gosh this thread is so painful to read but despite the pain, there is beauty in all your words.

Sending love and strength to all of you. OP, you have started a lovely thread, despite the hurt you're feeling.

🕯️

Archery.

She had an earlier transplant (1999) and went to the Transplant Games. Won the archery having only ever picked up a bow a couple of times in her life. Took it up seriously, and was picked for Team GB.

I miss my Grandad 2009
I miss my Mum 2013
They were the only two people in my family who treated me like a normal person and not someone to be abused verbally and physically. Just lately i really could do with being able to talk to them but i cant and it hurts

I miss DH. He died very suddenly nearly 3 years ago. There’s so much he has missed with our DC, both good things and bad, that I so wish I could share with him. I miss having someone to share all the ups and downs of life with and someone to give me a hug and tell me it will be ok. He had so much life left to live and so many plans. We are on holiday somewhere he has never been, yesterday I stood on the beach and physically felt his absence.

I feel blessed to get to my late 50s and to not, as yet have suffered a major bereavement. It's a world I know nothing about, but will do. I suspect that when my time comes it will be devastating.

Im missing my dad and my auntie. My family is a bit shit right now and I would give anything to have their comforting presence with me

I will always regret not seeing my BIL one last time. I left my ex and came from London to Bristol to stay with my sister. He was in ICU. He had been begging me to leave my ex (he was abusive, and BIL was one of my best friends, I introducedhim to DSIS) but we decided to go in the morning after I arrived rather than that night. But there was no morning. I'll regret it forever 😔

I miss my mum every day even after 12 years. I loved her so much, and I totally trusted her. As a result, her love for me made me feel like I was a good person worthy of that love. Without her, I really struggle to feel like I'm good enough. I don't know how to be me without her being here to tell me that being myself is a good thing.

I miss my Grandad, my two Nan's and my Dad dearly. Every moment of every day I'm missing them. They took so much of me with them.

My other Grandad died when i was just 13 months old, but I'm sure had I memories of him I'd miss him too. Death of loved ones is never okay no matter how much we reason to ourselves that it is.

My great grandad, its been over 10 years now and recently I realised I couldn't remember what he sounded like and it sent me into a spiral

More recently my childhood dog, she was ancient and had every chronic condition under the sun but still loved life. Tearing up now thinking about hugging her tiny little body one last time and the smell of her fur

My mum (3 years next month) and my nan (coming up to 1 year). I could really do with some of their no nonsense advice about a couple of things