Tell me about the ones you miss, I miss mine too and here is a safe space.

[Cadela]

I’m having a really down day missing my dad. He died 4 years ago and I’m usually fine but today is one of those fucking hell I can’t days.

I miss him bringing random things to my house that he knew would help. My favourites being endless co2 detectors, fire extinguishers and first aid kits. Touch wood have never had to use/had alarms go off them but I’m better equipped than my local fire station. I hope he sleeps well because of that.

If you are grieving this is a safe space. Tell me about them.

My mum. She died suddenly 3 months ago and I’m just so done with the fact that she’s not around. I have so much to tell her and I miss her love, there is truly nothing that can replace it.

My incredible mum, forever 63. Way too young go, didn't get to meet any of my 3 children. She was an absolute powerhouse I know it's thanks to her and the way she raised me that I've survived her loss. It hasn't half turned my world upside down though

My son - 10 years since he died aged 18 from a brain tumour. I miss hearing his voice, his silly jokes, holding him. I miss what he would be but I don't know what he would be.

My mum - she died a year after my son. I have not grieved for her yet as I have not the emotional strength to grieve her yet.

My dad - dementia the next year, died 2 years ago. I grieve the father I wished he had been.

It's all too much at times and I grieve for me - I miss me before all the losses.

My lovely dad, he was 46. Here one day gone the next. He had me when he was 20 so I was 26 when he died. He worked so hard for us, he’s missed our weddings and his 5 gorgeous grandchildren. My mum was 44 when he died.

My son. He hasn't spoken to me or the rest of the family fir 10 years. I miss him. Sometimes my daughter smiles in a certain way and it literally breaks my heart as I can see him in her so clearly. Hugs to you all for your losses.

My parents . The family house is being remodeled and I sometimes drive past it . Hope the family is as happy there as I was. Also wish they were here to intervene in a family feud . I am sure they would have been able to bring all sides together.

My dad who died 10 weeks ago.
It's just so bloody unfair. He was the most hale and hearty 85 yr old. He walked 10 miles twice a week, and swam in the sea everyday all year round. He gardened and grew veg for most of our village and three months before he died he put up a new shed on his allotment on his own. He even volunteered at the "old people's lunch club " at the church despite most of them being younger than him.He was remarkable and all his old doddery frail friends are still alive and sitting watching day time tv waiting to die...yet he was the one to get leukemia and die.

My mother. It has been nearly 9m and I'm just going through all the photos now. I see her writing and run my fingers over the page knowing she held it once. Oh my heart, I am in pain but must put on the brave face I suppose.

My dad, but that's a long time ago now.

Love to you all x

I still miss my dad and he died nearly 50 years ago.

My gran who died nearly 30 years ago and I still think about her most days, a reason for being glad to have siblings is people to remember her with, I would hate to be the only person alive who remembers her. My parents weren't great (although I miss them too) but we all really loved our gran, without whom our childhood would have been pretty joyless.

My beautiful son and gorgeous daughter.

Unfortunately they weren't here long enough for many memories, so its more like missing all the things that we never had together and that should have been.

My first born baby, and my first daughter, gone but never forgotton and missed every day 💕

My mum, drove me insane with all her helping, would give anything to have her here, shrinking my best clothes in the wash. It’s been two years and the loss just seems to grow.

Nana.

She had healing hands, a cheeky smile and an unshakeable faith.

She'd been a nurse from 1940-1980...

She still feels near. Like a PP I still see her hands in my mind's eye ❤️

So many. My brother, my mum & my grandparents, especially my lovely nan who outlived her daughter and grandson. My auntie and cousin. A truly lovely friend. I'm only in my forties and it feels like a lot so far.

My Dad. It was the two year anniversary last week and I miss him so much. I’m over the shock now but I’m so sad, it’s like a grey cloud sitting over my head. I just wish I’d spent more time with him while he was here. He was a real character and such an honourable man, I knew I could always rely on him and I respected him hugely. Sending love to all of you on this thread. And thank you for starting it OP, I don’t get to talk about him in real life.

My very dear friend. She died a few weeks into lockdown so there was no funeral. Her sister held a wake in a pub a year later, but it was a long way away and I just couldn’t get there, although I really regret that now. We used to holiday together sometimes and we had theatre trips and lots of fun. She introduced me to a book series we both loved, and I wish I could t discuss the latest ones with her. She was a fabulous person and I miss her so much.

I miss my four closest friends. One by cancer, one by cirrhosis and the other two by suicide by hanging. All in their 30s. Lots of other losses (mostly suicide or OD) over the years but those are the ones I can't get over.

My best friend from university. She committed suicide 15 years ago.
I've just spent the weekend back in our old university city, and when out with a friend ended up walking past the house we shared with two others.
It hits me at random times, but for obvious reasons it's unavoidable back in that city.

I miss my dad terribly. I lost him suddenly and unexpectedly early this year. To make matters worse I was weeks away from giving birth - I watched the grinch the day I came home from hospital, I first watched it with my dad and I still love it now. It gives me a weird comfort. I miss him everyday.

My Gran and Grandad. I was so incredibly lucky to have them in my life until I turned 27 and 29. My Gran never got to meet either of my girls but she would have eaten them up! My Grandad met my eldest and would have adored my youngest.

They were two of the loveliest souls I've ever met, and I have so many memories of staying at their house on a weekend as a child. My Grandad was a retired policeman and amazing gardener who grew his signature leeks and everyone got one! And my Gran was a cake decorator who won many an award and made everyone's celebration cakes. On a Saturday my Grandad would go and put the lottery on, on a Saturday, and buy me and my Gran and Turkish Delight, and on the night we would sit and watch Blind Date, Gladiators and Casualty, then after me and my Gran would go to bed where I'd talk her head off asking about the Royal Family (of all things!) and we would hear the theme tune to match of the day starting downstairs. Thinking about that always makes me smile ❤️

My mum who died 10 months ago. I miss her so much. My dad who died 12 years ago and I still miss.

Sorry for everyone's losses.

It's all too much at times and I grieve for me - I miss me before all the losses.

@minmooch - I hear you. Sending hope.

Gosh. I saw a lady yesterday walking towards me with a zimmer frame, and her arms looked soft and wrinkly, just like my Nana’s were. I mean, I hadn’t been thinking of my nana at the time but it hit me like a ton of bricks how much I miss her, just by seeing a lovely old lady’s arms! That’s odd, right?!

What beautiful memories! I feel like I’m there ❤️

My Mum, died suddenly aged 51 when I was 20, 16 years ago now. Also my Granny, who died of cancer 15 months before that. The two most important women in my life at the time and I miss them every day. Especially since I became a mum nearly 6 months ago. There are things I'd want to ask my mum about motherhood and parenting that I just won't/can't ask anyone else because they aren't her. I'd love for her to have been able to cuddle my daughter.