Tell me about the ones you miss, I miss mine too and here is a safe space.

[Cadela]

I’m having a really down day missing my dad. He died 4 years ago and I’m usually fine but today is one of those fucking hell I can’t days.

I miss him bringing random things to my house that he knew would help. My favourites being endless co2 detectors, fire extinguishers and first aid kits. Touch wood have never had to use/had alarms go off them but I’m better equipped than my local fire station. I hope he sleeps well because of that.

If you are grieving this is a safe space. Tell me about them.

I miss my Mum so much. She died two years ago last Thursday. I had planned to visit the cemetery on Thursday to take her some flowers from one of her plants that I transplanted to my garden and some sweet peas, which her garden was always filled with at this time of year. But I got a cancellation for back surgery to fix my slipped disc last Monday and haven't been able to go yet. It's silly, but visiting on birthdays and anniversaries are really important to me and I've been so upset that I couldn't go, even though I know she would have been so happy for me to have had the surgery.

I’m wrapping you all in my love. I’m so sorry we all had to lose the ones that meant the most.

I’ve read every comment and I’m with you all.

My dear and loving husband, 1979-2016

If ever two were one, then surely we.
If ever man were loved by wife, then thee.
If ever wife was happy in a man,
Compare with me, ye women, if you can.
I prize thy love more than whole mines of gold,
Or all the riches that the East doth hold.
My love is such that rivers cannot quench,
Nor ought but love from thee give recompense.
Thy love is such I can no way repay;
The heavens reward thee manifold, I pray.
Then while we live, in love let’s so persever,
That when we live no more, we may live ever.

My husband, nothing’s the same anymore.

My Dad is slipping away. Cancer. It won’t be long now.
We’re a 6 hour round trip away and I grieve the fact my youngest DC won’t ever know him or have any memories with him.
History is repeating as my siblings didn't know our grandfather like I did and they’ve all said it’s had an impact on them all in some way.

I miss my Nanny so very much, she always made me feel wanted and loved. I wish she was here and could meet my son.

I miss my mum. We have just received an MS diagnosis for our 17 year old and I have no one to rant and rage to about the unfairness of this.

I miss my son 💔,he was diagnosed with Bowel cancer in 2018 aged 18,2 major surgeries to remove the cancer which spread to his liver,endless chemotherapy to be then told there's nothing more they can do.He passed away in November 2021,8 days after his 22nd Birthday.He fought so hard to stay with us and went through so much and the Cancer then spread to his lungs and his breathing was severely affected and it finally took him from us.
I miss him with every fiber of my being and I feel so much pain and anger that he lost the life he never got to have.He had so many dreams and aspirations for the future and Cancer ripped all that away from him,and from us.

My MIL. We have photos up of her I see them daily and every time I smile. She had been gone 5 years and is dearly missed.

She was a terrible cook but loved food when others cooked. Perfect grandma who had no favourites just thought the sun shone out of all 8 of them. Lovely sense of humour and abundance of love.

A good lady Friend, Mrs D, the adventures we could of had together if events had been different. ill always remember the one night watching the stars, and our omg moment.

Well if this is a safe space I’ll say that although I’m happy with a partner and we’ve been together for some time, at times I still miss the young version of my ex, my first love I guess.
Divorced now because too much knobbish behaviour over the years to ignore, and that’s my overriding memories unfortunately.

But when I occasionally reflect back a long way, on a good day simply one of the best human beings I ever met and probably ever will. Such a shame for our marriage and our family that over time the bad outweighted the good. In many ways though a real shame for them that they couldn’t live up to the potential within themselves, had all the qualities to have been a truly exceptional person if they wanted to.

But I guess we’re all flawed in our own ways and end up with the life we deserve, c'est la vie.

I can relate to this. It's not alcoholism for my mum but intense, life changing paranoia and anxiety. I remember her from when I was young and miss that mum but not the one I have now. Sounds strange but it's true.

My DH grieves his alcoholic dad who was quite a hands on dad for his time, but now he's a shell of who he once was.

My friend. A brain aneurysm took her aged 30. She was one of life's beautiful souls....inside and out. It's like a light went off in the world and it hasn't been as bright since.

My dad. It's almost fourteen years but my kids are just so much that he'd adore. He died before either was born.

We went to a museum this week that relates to his special interest and I missed him so much. He'd have loved it, and loved my kids.

I'm sad that my Mum wasn't at my wedding. She didn't get to buy her big feather hat.
I'm sad that she never got to see the beautiful house that we moved into and the lovely garden the kids enjoy.
I hate that I couldn't call her when our missing cat finally came home after a year.
I felt so lost and broken when I couldn't call her to tell her that I needed operation. I had DW for support and she was fantastic, but I wanted to call my Mum and hear her no-nonsense, everything will be fine attitude towards it.
But I also want to shout and cry at her for not going to the bloody doctors when I told her she needed to and ending up leaving me instead.

Sorry for everyone's losses, it's so hard 💐

Like so many of you it's my mum. She died 6 years ago after a sometimes very difficult journey with incurable cancer. 2024 has been the most difficult year of my life - escaping an abusive relationship that has left me reeling and reassessing everything in my life. And most of the time I try not to think too hard about how heartbroken my mum would be at what my life looks like now. And perhaps how proud she would be of me to have got out in the end. I miss her intensely, I wish for one more infuriating conversation, one more baffling birthday present, one more visit to the bookshop, just one more cup of tea, even. She drove me nuts but was warm, intelligent, funny and the hardest worker I've ever known. She loved me so very much and I never, ever doubted it. To all of you

My late husband. He died seven years ago, when my children were 2 and 5. I'm now married again with a toddler and we're very happy, but in August it would have been our 20th wedding anniversary. We'd been together 17 years when died and I miss him dearly. I'm lucky, I've met and married two wonderful men, but it still breaks my heart that I'll never see him again.

I miss my dad. I heard the song « wonderful world » today, it was one of his favourite.

I have a similar story. My daughter & grandchildren whom I miss terribly. Think about them everyday. 6 years.

Nothing I can say , the pain must be unbearable. I’m so sorry. X

I'm sorry, @Letsgetausername . And 💐for everyone.

I miss my Dad, he passed away 4 years ago. We were so similar and there is so much I want to talk to him about and so much I want him to be able to see, like how amazing my 21 yr old daughter is, how brilliantly she is doing at Uni and how she passed her test first time and has worse road rage than him! I have such a huge hole in my life without him and I still cry a lot over the loss.

Also our beautiful 5 month old puppy who died suddenly 3 years ago. It was so cruel and so unfair to cut her life so short, she was perfect. We have 2 dogs now, the same breed as her and I wonder often what she would be like if she had the chance to grow up.

My mum died in June from cancer. Still feel numb and can’t quite believe it. It’s like it hasn’t really happened.

So sorry for your loss.

I miss my mum and dad every single day and it has been many,many years.
My husband’s parents are still with us, 90 and 85 which is fantastic.
However, I hate every Mothering Sunday, Father’s Day, Christmas etc because I want to share it with MY parents. 😢 Sorry if that sounds selfish, but it’s how I feel.