Tell me about the ones you miss, I miss mine too and here is a safe space.

[Cadela]

I’m having a really down day missing my dad. He died 4 years ago and I’m usually fine but today is one of those fucking hell I can’t days.

I miss him bringing random things to my house that he knew would help. My favourites being endless co2 detectors, fire extinguishers and first aid kits. Touch wood have never had to use/had alarms go off them but I’m better equipped than my local fire station. I hope he sleeps well because of that.

If you are grieving this is a safe space. Tell me about them.

My Dad who died fairly unexpectedly in May. I loved him so much yet I haven't cried as much as I think I should have and I feel guilty about that. I thought I would have sobbed my heart out and I feel such a weirdo that I haven't.

I feel it's not the end and that I'll see him again and maybe that's why.

I’m so sorry 😢

I'm so sorry. I know so many people who've died by suicide I feel almost desensitised at this point. There is something wrong with mental health care in this country.

Oh god, I miss my grandparents every day, and it’s been over a decade since they died.

My mum was a single parent and an alcoholic, so they pretty raised me. Two kinder, cleverer, more compassionate people you couldn’t hope to meet.

I wish they could have met my kids. They’d have adored each other.

May isn’t that long ago. You are probably still in shock. Be kind to yourself 💐

I’m so sorry xx Few of us will know what that’s like. I wish I could help

My Dad died 25 Years ago, I struggle to miss someone I barely knew (I was 8 at the time) but I often really miss my Grandad who helped bring me up. I'm now the proud Mummy to 4 Beautiful Boys that he never got the chance to meet. I wish they could watch David Attenborough with him like I did, talk about current affairs and sneak them an extra fiver when my granny wasn't looking. He was so cheeky and so special 💔

Slightly different here but my son. He was born at 22 weeks and should be starting reception in 6 weeks.... not a day goes by where I don't wonder what he would look like now, what his personality would be. His brothers also talk about him and wish he could come to play.

My mum, I realised I didn’t appreciate he enough and just wish I called call her. I don’t have much close family now & it makes me feel vulnerable. I never know who to put as my next of kin.

My mum....twenty years ago now... suddenly died. I miss her every day although in different degrees. She thought the world of me and my family and was alway so encouraging. We all need a champion and she was mine.

When my Gran first died, I would see old ladies in the street. Same short, white hair. Same M&S coat. Same trousers and sensible shoes. At first it was disconcerting, then it became a comfort. Now they are fading out too, it’s like I lost my Gran and now I’m losing her ghosts.

My mate R. We met each other in work (as hospital porters). We immediately recognised the inner maelstrom that people with MH issues have. If either of us was off sick, the other would keep in touch. If we passed in the corridor, he would say "MFT?" which stood for Mother Fucking Tea 😅
I left due to ill health, and he was the only person to keep in touch. He eventually left too (our manager was a knob when it came to MH). He moved abroad, but we still kept in touch. If I was struggling, he would video call me... sat in just his shorts (he moved to Spain) with his beloved dog in the background.
He divorced his wife and remarried her in the time I knew him. Our friendship was just that... a friendship, but she was a very jealous lady. She used to give him grief for talking to female waitresses.
I found out he had died because a spanish rescue had his dog up for rehoming. I PMd them and asked if it was R.. and they confirmed it was. He had taken his own life. He had bipolar, and had led a very colourful life as a result... but it was what overwhelmed him in the end. His wife did call me in the end, and was shocked I already knew about his death. She explained the circumstances, and I felt bad as he had been there for me so many times... and I was not there this time for him.

His FB profile is a memorial one now, and his wife controls it. So I feel like I can't really post on it because she was convinced we were having an affair at some point.. and I don't want to risk her deleting me as a friend.

So, here it is.. I really miss you R.... am having a MFT in your memory.

My parents who died a month apart 4 years ago in lockdown - couldn't visit them (until they were at end of life and then only one person for limited time). They died basically alone (different wards), could only have very limited funerals (and Dad was a devoted church goer). I feel I haven't grieved and I don't know why.

My son who died at 6 months old 5 years ago now.
I don’t think about him as often as I should because I can’t function when I do. I have to stop and soak in the grief when I do. Sometimes I will put on his funeral songs and just sob when I need it.
his younger sister asks about him. We sobbed together the other night because she wanted him to play. It was so hard. It is so hard.

My best friend who committed suicide. It’s been a few years now but I still miss her and the fact that i don’t have anyone that I can tell absolutely anything to any more

@BrutusMcDogface thank you ❤️

My boyfriend from 30 years ago who died next to me in a car accident . Until last week I would have said time had healed this wound but another serious car crash has brought it all back . The accident was so similar it is a though he only died a few days ago . My own injuries are also very similar so the pain now is blurred with the pain I felt all those years ago and I have to remind myself he’s been gone a long time . People who didn’t know me back then repeatedly say at least no one died. To me he did all over again. He feels so real and so familiar to me again it’s like we were only in love just these last few days. I’m broken inside all over again.

My beautiful smiley baby ds2. He wa 7months and 2 days when he died 22years ago. You are loved and missed so much . My darling boy.

My darling adorable friend who died during lockdown in hospital and in pain, of something that was easily treatable if it had been diagnosed. I miss her loads, she was such fun.

Sending huge hugs this happened to me when I was 17 and my boyfriend at the time was 18 and there are still massive gaps in my memory around what happened in the days and weeks following, gaps I'm pleased I can't remember because the pain was unbearable. Sending you healing

My friend who died almost two years ago. One minute we were chatting on WhatsApp, the next he was gone. That suddenly. I found out the next day. He’s the one I’d turn to in times like that, but he’s the one who’s gone. There isn’t a day goes by where I don’t think about him and miss him.

My Dad. .He passed away 18 months ago and yet it seems like a lifetime ago. I miss his friendly smile to me and everyone else that he encountered as well as his strong hugs that at times took the wind out of me! There was never a day that went by with him that I didn't know how much he loved me. Just a very special man to me and so many others. His funeral was packed to the rafters with friends that he made during his 82 years in this world.

Also one of my Nannas. Despite a very difficult and sad childhood, she had so much love to give and she showered that on me and frequently told me how special I was to her. She always had a smile and she was always so pleased to see me whenever I visited her. She died 6 years ago aged 97 years old. She was lovely and people gravitated towards her kind and friendly face.

💐to all of you who have lost someone you loved.

My wonderful mum, she died in 2005 at 46, I was 15. It's a pretty bad age to lose your mum.
Now I'm 34 with two of my own children and it feels so much more raw not having that guidance and wisdom. She would have adored her grandchildren and it's so unfair, cancer is so unfair.

My mum. Died unexpectedly. I hadn’t appreciated just how hard she worked to manage dad’s behaviour. Without her, he’s been revealed as the narcissist he clearly always was. I can’t tell you the pain he’s caused me, and all of the terrible things he’s said and done since she died.

Id hoped he would go first so I could have more time with her, without his snarkiness and misery always in the background.
miss you mum

Oh goodness my aches for everyone on this thread.

I miss my grandparents terribly. It has been a ver, very long time since they died - between 12 & 32 years. I just wish they’d known my DC. They were such thoroughly brilliant grandparents. I wanted more time.

If I concentrate, I can hear my grandad say the phone number of his house when he answered the phone. I can recall his voice exactly. I wonder if I am the only person left alive who knows what his voice sounded like.