Anyone you know ever said anything to you that's made you change your opinion of them?

[TrustPenguins]

Kind of light-hearted but...

Two examples recently:

1. A friend admitted (rather sheepishly) that he voted Tory. He said it was because of Labour's intended VAT on private school fees (his children go to private school). That was his sole reason.

I feel this was selfish and he wasn't looking at the bigger picture. I've always been taught to vote with the most vulnerable person you know in mind and of what is in their best interests. I was also shocked that a good friend would vote Tory full stop!

1. Another friend said he was supporting Spain in the football last night. Apparently his Mum is Scottish and his Dad is Scouse so they've never supported England (friend is English). When England played Italy in the previous final, he was cheering on Italy. When Italy won, he was celebrating whilst his kids were crying (they were supporting England). Just seems strange to me.

Obviously anyone can vote for and support who they like but I just never expected these friends to say / do this, and rightly or wrongly, it has changed my opinion of them a bit.
Just when you think you know someone...! 🤣

Anyone got any other examples?

I am a teacher. In a new job, my HoD told me that he didn't care how much teachers get paid because he has an extra private income, so he doesn't need the salary.

Although I thought he was a bit of a prat before, this turned him into a total tosser in my eyes.

A colleague of mine was in a row with her grandparents because tradition dictated the family farm should go to the oldest grandchild. Her oldest cousin was adopted into the family, and he shouldn't count as, according to her, he wasn't blood.

Foul.

I think your examples are a bit harsh, but each to their own.

A colleague once rather preonisingly said, "we didn't vaccinated our children but of course, we don't mind that other people.made different choices for their children". Never saw him the same way again.

I removed someone from FB yesterday because they were being a twat over the football and making a big song and dance about being Scottish and hating the English. Clearly if the English are that bad, we shouldn't be friends. Bye.

I change my opinion of anyone who is goes off people when they find they vote Tory.

For me, finding out someone you like votes Tory (or whatever) is a chance to recognise your prejudice against Tory voters (or whatever), rather than an invitation to change your mind about someone you know and like.

People I know distantly have just used a foreign surrogate to have a child.

What's wrong with that?

Did they exploit her? If not, what's the issue?

I dumped a friend after she told me about a fire in a hostel that killed drug addicts and she said she was pleased they were dead.

Ohhhh, you sound quite intolerant. I don't vote Tory, never have never will but in a democracy, we want different parties and different options, blinkered of you to think you think you are voting the right party. We are privileged because we are able and entitled to express different political views.

Your friend who supported Italy is open minded, you should try it, it's great😆

I change my opinion of anyone who changes their opinion of someone who goes off people when they find they vote Tory. Also who voted for Brexit.

My BIL’s seemingly reasonable, educated and very friendly girlfriend chopped a worm in half with a spade to “see what would happen”.

I have a good friend who votes differently to me sometimes, we get along just fine. Our lives are different so obviously we come to vote with different perspectives.

A colleague who was well-liked and pleasant made a very racist comment at lunch. He clearly thought it was acceptable.

Sat with a friend having dinner and she started to tell me about her other friend who I have met on many occasions having an affair with her kids football coach like it was some kind of local tittle tattle, they were good friends as far as I could tell.

I then realised she probably gossiped about me and things I had told her in confidence. 😥

A friend from childhood who is intelligent and reasonable and who I thought was a feminist ally, told me he had slept with a prostitute ‘in a moment of weakness’. To be fair, he did say he was disgusted with himself. But his being disgusted with himself didn’t cancel out my disgust so that was that for the friendship really. I just couldn’t summon any affection for him after that.

I had a friend who basically said anyone who voted for Brexit was an ignorant, vile racist and deserved bad karma etc.

Now, I used to think this person was intelligent but it really changed my opinion of them. Also people who say Trump deserved to be shot.

I’m not some right winger and respect peoples
varying political views but those with such extreme views threaten to undermine our democracy by shutting down debate. It’s dangerous and possibly the most ignorant, shocking behaviour I’ve ever seen ….haven’t really been able to view them in the same light since.

I get on with DHs friends wife, always thought they were a lovely couple. They have 3 kids, one with physical and intellectual disabilities. She told me recently that when they go on holidays her DH makes sure he is booked into a seat far away from the rest of the family because he likes to relax on a flight. I can barely look him in the eye since.

Also people who say Trump deserved to be shot. IKR!?! These people think they are on the right side of history, so self righteous yet they are proactively undermining democracy, they are as bad as 'the right' and it's populist agenda. They are really the same kind of people, narrow minded and with a small horizon.

If someone has different political views to me I like to discuss issues with them, to find out their point of view. Chopping a worm in half would be the end of a friendship with me, though!

Chopping a worm in half is such a small thing but yes, just needlessly destructive and cruel. That would definitely change my view of someone.

Friend one is entitled to vote for whosoever he wishes, be it a single issue or not
Friend two, he does realise that Liverpool is in England?

Argh. Yes.

I can't remember but this is ringing bells. I feel like I had a similar moment with someone a few years ago - a sudden realisation that a man I thought was a perfectly nice man was actually a misogynist wanker and bad father to boot. It's going to drive me crazy now until I remember who and what and when....

I would happily no longer have anything to do with anyone who stated that they were vegan (unless this diet had been ordered by a doctor).

Do people in Liverpool not support England? Why?