Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Chat

Join the discussion and chat with other Mumsnetters about everyday life, relationships and parenting.

Missed speed awareness course

142 replies

labsarelife · 13/07/2024 09:46

I missed my speed awareness course by accident. Can I rebook it? Will I have to pay again? Anyone else done this? Thanks.

OP posts:
Unknownsecret · 13/07/2024 14:09

labsarelife · 13/07/2024 14:05

To turn up late when specifically requested NOT to do so, could have interrupted the training session and caused even more problems. That would have then been a missed session AND a case of ignoring their specific request of what to do if late, therefore making me incompetent and also rude!
No, I’m perfectly happy to be a complete no show, rather than balls up twice on the same day.

We’re all different. I would have still turned up at the correct venue, not expected to do the course, but to show I was actually there. Like I said earlier, I hope you get it sorted.

labsarelife · 13/07/2024 14:11

viques · 13/07/2024 12:10

Well, we will never know now if the golf club, which is being well paid for accommodating the speed awareness course, would have passed the message along.

I’d rather just admit to my mistake on Monday than hassle golf course employees and interrupt the trainers. I’m sure they could not care one jot about my whereabouts. I wasn’t there and they don’t want to hear my rambling excuses as to why not. Tough but true.

OP posts:
Isobel201 · 13/07/2024 14:14

I did the same mistake for a job interview, the prison recruitment team told me to go to the wrong location though, so it was their fault, not mine. It did unfortunately ruin the interview for me as I went completely silent on them when I had been signed in and taken to the room. I've decided never again.
I have also done a speed awareness course, I'd hold my hand up to that, but fortunately mine was done online so I had no issues. Its over 3 years now but I'll certainly never speed again. Some had just been caught for only going about 2 or 3 mph over the limit.

labsarelife · 13/07/2024 14:14

RivkaTheBold · 13/07/2024 12:25

They'll let you rebook and you'll have to pay again.

It's not a biggie. Certainly not a court matter Grin

Thank you. I would think it’s a court matter if you don’t attend and ignore the fact that you didn’t but I was asking as I really could not find a definitive answer online.

OP posts:
labsarelife · 13/07/2024 14:16

Coconutter24 · 13/07/2024 12:17

Court summons, then if guilty fine and points

I’ll update so you can find out what happened and then anyone in my position can get a definitive answer for future reference. Thank you.

OP posts:
Ihateboris · 13/07/2024 14:17

I failed to attend a Speed Awareness Course last year. I was really ill with a bad cold during the night so took (way too much Night Nurse) . Woke up at midday (the Course started at 830am on a Saturday). Tried to call, but the phone line only manned Monday to Friday. Called Monday morning and was completely honest about why I didn't attend. Had to reschedule and pay a fee.

JudgeJ · 13/07/2024 14:43

TheChippendenSpook · 13/07/2024 10:16

Another Mumsnet phrase that is passive aggressive and complety stupid.

Nothing aggressive about it, trying to make contact would have been my first course of action!

AMBOG · 13/07/2024 14:48

I missed mine. Just completely forgot- was supposed to go in person. They sent me an email to rebook , which I did and did the course by zoom. Had to pay again though.

labsarelife · 13/07/2024 14:56

Ihateboris · 13/07/2024 14:17

I failed to attend a Speed Awareness Course last year. I was really ill with a bad cold during the night so took (way too much Night Nurse) . Woke up at midday (the Course started at 830am on a Saturday). Tried to call, but the phone line only manned Monday to Friday. Called Monday morning and was completely honest about why I didn't attend. Had to reschedule and pay a fee.

Thanks. I could have lied and said I was ill but I’ve emailed them and just been honest. It was just a total mix up by me. I’ll phone them Monday and see what they say. Glad they were lenient on you. You can’t help being ill. It is tricky if it happens over the weekend, isn’t it?

OP posts:
labsarelife · 13/07/2024 14:58

AMBOG · 13/07/2024 14:48

I missed mine. Just completely forgot- was supposed to go in person. They sent me an email to rebook , which I did and did the course by zoom. Had to pay again though.

I’ve emailed them and told them the truth. That I turned up at the wrong golf course. I’m happy to pay again. If they want to give me penalty points instead, then that’s also fine. It was my mistake and I’m not excusing myself. Just wanted to know what happens when you miss one. Thanks for replying.

OP posts:
labsarelife · 13/07/2024 15:00

JudgeJ · 13/07/2024 14:43

Nothing aggressive about it, trying to make contact would have been my first course of action!

It was my first course of action but lines are Mon-Fri only. I’ve emailed them now and said I’ll call on Monday. Told them the truth. Could have lied and feigned illness or whatever but I’d rather just be honest about it all as I’m sure all of us here would be, as we obviously all like to stick to such scrupulous morals.

OP posts:
Ihateboris · 13/07/2024 15:05

labsarelife · 13/07/2024 14:56

Thanks. I could have lied and said I was ill but I’ve emailed them and just been honest. It was just a total mix up by me. I’ll phone them Monday and see what they say. Glad they were lenient on you. You can’t help being ill. It is tricky if it happens over the weekend, isn’t it?

I'm sure you'll be absolutely fine. Its a pain that you can't contact them at the weekend. Good luck and try not to worry x

labsarelife · 13/07/2024 15:13

I will update as to what the outcome is, on Monday. Some useful responses from people who have also missed a course; thank you for those. For those of you that have never muddled up anything in your life, well done on being so utterly fantastic and competent. Now go and seek out another thread to be judgemental to someone on, whilst simultaneously not answering their question.

OP posts:
HideousKinky · 13/07/2024 15:17

labsarelife · 13/07/2024 12:04

Someone else on here had the opposite experience when arriving late and was turned away. Two misdemeanours then - 1, turning up at the wrong venue and 2, interrupting everything by turning up late when asked not to. Can’t win.

But my point is you would not have interrupted because they would not even have got started - the basic admin required at the start takes longer than 10 minutes

LoobyDoop2 · 13/07/2024 15:22

Batgin · 13/07/2024 10:37

Why on earth would you sack it off for 10 minutes late? No lateness stated is to stop people turning up halfway through with a crap excuse..10 minutes everyone would still be getting settled and coffee...

Edited

Actually I doubt that. I did an online one a couple of years ago, and the woman was so breathtakingly dictatorial, unpleasant and patronising to everyone it could only have been a deliberate strategy to make it clear we were bad people and it was a punishment. They don’t intend to treat you like an intelligent adult who can make mistakes.

Coconutter24 · 13/07/2024 16:40

labsarelife · 13/07/2024 13:47

Thanks for your reply. It’s nice and concise, which is the sort of response I was after.

Your welcome, you don’t need judgement or unhelpful comments

labsarelife · 13/07/2024 19:01

HideousKinky · 13/07/2024 15:17

But my point is you would not have interrupted because they would not even have got started - the basic admin required at the start takes longer than 10 minutes

How on Earth can you be sure of that?!? Equally, I very well might have interrupted a session that had already started or delayed the start of the session and made even more of a nuisance of myself than just phoning up on Monday and telling them I went to the wrong venue.
Why should everyone else on the course who did arrive on time and in the correct place, potentially be made to wait for me?
No, I’m glad I didn’t turn up late. It would have been rudeness on top of my first faux pas. I’d rather face the consequences for myself on Monday. Maybe that’s just me? I’m pretty straight down the line. I’d rather just take the penalty points than run in late, faffing everyone else about.

OP posts:
labsarelife · 15/07/2024 09:26

I phoned up to sort it out. The woman said ‘it’s no problem, I’ll pop you on to another course.’ Didn’t ask me for a payment but that might pop up later, although she didn’t mention having to pay again.
I was apologetic and just told the truth. I could have feigned illness or whatever but I think it’s just best to admit what really happened.
i also asked if I should have turned up late to original course and she said no and that they definitely would not have allowed me in.
Please, if someone asks a direct question on Mumsnet and you have no experience or knowledge of the situation/issue that the poster is requiring info to; do not make up inaccurate and insulting responses to the person posing the question.
90% of the responses I received, were quite frankly rude, mean and passive aggressive and worse still, WRONG.

OP posts:
LyingWitchInTheWardrobe · 15/07/2024 09:31

That's great news, labsarelife. Even if you do have to pay again, you can avoid the points and that's the objective.

Quite honestly, this place is a bear pit sometimes, full of gnarly posters who just want somebody to lash out at - and they found your thread about speeding. Just ignore them, they have issues, that is their problem not yours.

It's human nature to focus on the nastier posts because you don't need to worry about the nice or supportive ones... don't give the spiteful posters any more of your headspace. Imagine what it must be like to be them, shudder to yourself and forget about them.

Confused19831983 · 15/07/2024 10:09

It really, really doesn't.
Who is that even written by?

Confused19831983 · 15/07/2024 10:10

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe · 15/07/2024 09:31

That's great news, labsarelife. Even if you do have to pay again, you can avoid the points and that's the objective.

Quite honestly, this place is a bear pit sometimes, full of gnarly posters who just want somebody to lash out at - and they found your thread about speeding. Just ignore them, they have issues, that is their problem not yours.

It's human nature to focus on the nastier posts because you don't need to worry about the nice or supportive ones... don't give the spiteful posters any more of your headspace. Imagine what it must be like to be them, shudder to yourself and forget about them.

Exactly. Pleased for you, OP. I suspected it would be OK.
And you've learnt a valuable lesson.
Never admit to making a mistake, no matter how small, on Mumsnet.

Ihateboris · 15/07/2024 11:10

Brilliant news! I knew you had nothing to worry about x

labsarelife · 15/07/2024 12:41

This really useful, should anyone else find themselves in the same situation. Thanks.

OP posts:
labsarelife · 15/07/2024 12:42

Confused19831983 · 15/07/2024 10:10

Exactly. Pleased for you, OP. I suspected it would be OK.
And you've learnt a valuable lesson.
Never admit to making a mistake, no matter how small, on Mumsnet.

Strangely, I raised 3 children without ever having been on Mumsnet once and now so glad I didn’t use it 😂

OP posts: