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Another child urinated on DS

105 replies

Gasbard · 10/07/2024 18:26

At pick up earlier on 7yo DS came out of school in a pair of shorts. The teacher said “his pants are in his bag, they have wee on them” I thought that’s strange for DS to have had an accident, but nope a boy in year 5 (DS is in year 3) had purposefully urinated all over his pants while DS was in the toilets. It took me a while to get it out of DS as he doesn’t like trouble but DS said the boy pointed his penis at him and then urinated on him. Apparently the boy then said “ooops sorry I can’t control where it goes” then started laughing.

Not only am I fuming that this has happened, but also that the teacher didn’t tell me what had happened. According to another parent this boy has form for bullying and name calling.

I need to go into school tomorrow don’t I?

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Vettrianofan · 10/07/2024 18:28

Definitely get this logged by your DC's school.

mycatsanutter · 10/07/2024 18:29

That's absolutely disgusting, yes straight to the teacher tomorrow.

Vettrianofan · 10/07/2024 18:29

Your poor DS having that happen to him. I hope he is okay.

Trixiefirecracker · 10/07/2024 18:29

Oh god! Yes! Make a huge noise about this. That’s awful and needs addressing big time. Your poor child.

CrotchetyQuaver · 10/07/2024 18:31

Yes you certainly do, that is absolutely disgusting behaviour from the older boy

catndogslife · 10/07/2024 18:32

You need to report this to the school. This is not normal behaviour for a 10 year old. It goes beyond bullying and is a safeguarding concern.

StillProcrastinating · 10/07/2024 18:33

I’d email school tonight. Quote your DS. And be cLear you’re coming in to discuss what will happen next.

year 5 I’d probably be after a written letter of apology and confirmation that his parents have been informed about what has happened.

you need to be calm and clear about what you want for your DS. Bearing in mind they can’t tell you about the year 5 child or any sanctions they might put in place (or not) for him.

however a letter to your DS might make him feel better. And he might not want a face to face apology (which you wouldn’t be able to witness).

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Gasbard · 10/07/2024 18:33

Thanks everyone. Deffo going to go in tomorrow. DS is fine I just feel so sorry for him

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notsureicandoitagain · 10/07/2024 18:34

Yes you need to say what you're DS has told you. If your DS had told the teacher what had happened then she should have explained that to you at pick up, but is it possible your DS didn't tell her and she doesn't know?

FloatingWoman · 10/07/2024 18:34

Did school know and not tell you? Or were they unaware? I wouldn’t be sending DS back in a hurry if they knew but didn’t tell you.

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Gasbard · 10/07/2024 18:35

@notsureicandoitagain that’s a good point. DS can be quite timid at times and I reckon he would be a little afraid of telling the teacher exactly what happened

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Clueless2024 · 10/07/2024 18:36

Gasbard · 10/07/2024 18:26

At pick up earlier on 7yo DS came out of school in a pair of shorts. The teacher said “his pants are in his bag, they have wee on them” I thought that’s strange for DS to have had an accident, but nope a boy in year 5 (DS is in year 3) had purposefully urinated all over his pants while DS was in the toilets. It took me a while to get it out of DS as he doesn’t like trouble but DS said the boy pointed his penis at him and then urinated on him. Apparently the boy then said “ooops sorry I can’t control where it goes” then started laughing.

Not only am I fuming that this has happened, but also that the teacher didn’t tell me what had happened. According to another parent this boy has form for bullying and name calling.

I need to go into school tomorrow don’t I?

That is disgusting and well out of order! Your poor son.

Angelsrose · 10/07/2024 18:36

This is utterly disgusting and needs to be addressed very urgently. I agree with pp that it's a Safeguarding concern. Your DS must be protected from this sickening behaviour.

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Gasbard · 10/07/2024 18:36

@FloatingWoman I presumed she knew because DS said he told her but now I’m wondering if he told her he did it himself

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Circumferences · 10/07/2024 18:37

Wow. That 10 year old is tomorrow's domestic violence abuser. Definitely go in and make sure the school take it seriously.

sassyduck · 10/07/2024 18:44

That is horrible. Your poor DS. Go to the school as raise hell for his sake. No excuse for that behaviour.

Chypre · 10/07/2024 18:44

There are some horrific topics on here lately, about children being bullied at school, scissors pointed into their eyes and now urinated on. I admit I am not British but I just don't understand HOW on earth parents keep composure to contemplate what is an appropriate course of action?… I would be already clawing at the headmaster's door I think, maybe a house door even, like an absolute harpy. Or sending a furious email to the school, outlining my absolute doubts concerning their ability to SAFEGUARD children, including MP in a copy as a recipient, and maybe a local paper.

Sherrystrull · 10/07/2024 18:47

Chypre · 10/07/2024 18:44

There are some horrific topics on here lately, about children being bullied at school, scissors pointed into their eyes and now urinated on. I admit I am not British but I just don't understand HOW on earth parents keep composure to contemplate what is an appropriate course of action?… I would be already clawing at the headmaster's door I think, maybe a house door even, like an absolute harpy. Or sending a furious email to the school, outlining my absolute doubts concerning their ability to SAFEGUARD children, including MP in a copy as a recipient, and maybe a local paper.

There is no need for this. Go and chat to the teacher tomorrow and find out if your ds told them. If not, then allow them a chance to properly sort it. If they did know then explain you are not happy with the consequences the other child faced.

Mynewnameis · 10/07/2024 18:48

I'd be going to the headteacher

Bibblebobblebibble · 10/07/2024 18:50

I'd report to the police via 111 tonight.

This is assault - if the child is age 10 then he is of the age of criminal responsibility for the UK.

I'd bag up the shorts for evidence.

notsureicandoitagain · 10/07/2024 18:51

Bibblebobblebibble · 10/07/2024 18:50

I'd report to the police via 111 tonight.

This is assault - if the child is age 10 then he is of the age of criminal responsibility for the UK.

I'd bag up the shorts for evidence.

That would just be referred back to the school to deal with.

greenpolarbear · 10/07/2024 18:51

Really bizarre that the teacher was so blase about it all.

Bettedaviseyes111 · 10/07/2024 18:53

Definitely inform the school and copy in the head teacher. I’m surprised they allow them all in the same toilets at our school there are split areas for KS1 and KS2 break times and loos.

This child sounds vile, I would blow my top.

notsureicandoitagain · 10/07/2024 18:54

Gasbard · 10/07/2024 18:36

@FloatingWoman I presumed she knew because DS said he told her but now I’m wondering if he told her he did it himself

If it's an older child with bullying behaviour then your DS may have felt unable to say at the time due to fear.

If the school did know and failed to inform you then I'd be making it clear that their communication at home times needs to improve!

cansu · 10/07/2024 18:56

No you don't need to go into school. The staff will be busy in the morning. Send an email reporting what your ds told you and ask them to look into it. They will need to talk to your ds and the other child. Many parents come marching in with complaints or to report things that could very easily be reported by phone or email.