What is the best excuse a friend has given you for not meeting up? I have a doozy.W

[CharlotteRumpling]

I have a friend who has told me she can't meet for a while because her 22 year old daughter has just started a Keto diet, and she needs to be at home to cook for her!

I feel slightly insulted that she could not come up with a better excuse not to meet! 😋

I had a friend bail on her friends wedding two weeks out because she finally looked at getting there and a hotel and realized it would cost money…? These people have no kids and at the time were making 80-100k each, money was not an issn

the bride was understandably livid and didn’t bother with her for years. It was only a 15 person wedding, and this was the only friend invited- they were considered family.

friend was so confused. She was also shitty about my wedding and lost me over it too.

yea it costs time and money, but look at that before you rsvp!

and I love that your friend had to cook keto for a grown ass adult! lol. Cheese and lunch meat and a salad always works in a pinch. Doesn’t take days.

YABU
please give her the benefit of the doubt and communicate with her OP.
Some people find cooking a completely different way difficult and if the diet is due to a cancer diagnosis, allergy or something important then embracing it full on might feel important to your friend.
a simple “hi, is everything okay with your daughter?
followed up perhaps with “take all the time you need and let me know as soon as you fancy catching up again” would be the kind thing to do.

I think it’s always best to not jump straight to a judgment if it’s a friendship you were in vested in?

I have a friend who's agreed to be maid of honour to another friends wedding before she said where it was ( asked over a year ago) only to send a link to the destination and it'll cost between 2.5K if she goes alone and 6k if she takes her partner and 2 kids

she's been debating what to do but has decided not to go which like it's a shame for the bride but you can't ask someone to be maid of honour and then tell them a year later it's a destination wedding and is gpinh to cost a fortune

I've got one that was from me:

What people at work interpreted it as: "I can't come to work this week, my cat bit me."

Reality: I had an allergic reaction to the antibiotics, and projectile vomiting isn't allowed if you work with food!

I used to know someone who's best friend's mother spoke no English (or said she didn't). Both were of Cypriot heritage. When they'd call for their best friend, if the mother thought they shouldn't go out, she'd say "No, is raining."
Even if it was a bright sunny day in the middle of summer.

Oh wow, this thread took off. Not RTFT but loving the girl who took a picture of the cat, and the Cypriot lady just above with the constant rain!

Just to reassure some posters, I do know my friend is ok because she has just posted a picture of her on a weekend break in Paris! Also, I am absolutely certain she does not use MN.

I think like many people, she prefers social media friendships and is busy with her familyor other friends in summer, so not all that keen on meeting. That's fine really. I have just put off someone else because I have friends visiting in the summer too. But i have told them that.

why couldn't you have just put them on the floor?

They chose to go to the game? So it was their team in the FA Cup Final? More fool her for arranging the wedding on Cup Final day.

@AnnieSnap

It had been planned for months, people travelling from all over. Some even flying. And the main event wasn't there.

The dog was ill, not on deaths door, and is alive and well.

Well, I think that says an awful lot about her so-called friends personally, if football is more important to them than she is. So what if 'it was their team in the FA Cup Final'? If they weren't willing to prioritise her above sport, those aren't people I would call friends.

Went on a work course and tutor told us of an excuse an attendee made the previous year. "Sorry I couldn't make it, something wrong with the car "What was wrong?" " I wasn't in it". He said it was the best excuse he'd heard.

We've all been at weddings on Cup Final day where half the guests keep sloping off to the bar to watch it on TV instead of sitting through the speeches. It's just daft to hold a wedding which clashes with FA Cup Final, World Cup Final etc.

June or July of an odd-numbered year are usually ok - but then you have to consider Wimbledon.

Some of the top teams are in the Cup Final most years. I'd agree that their fans could miss one because, for them, there will be another. My team won the FA Cup before I was born, but haven't reached the final in all the years I've been watching them. If they did, I would be going, because it's a once in a lifetime chance. I'd be sad to lose a friendship over it but I'd still be going.

@Ezekiela unless any of those sporting events have meaning to the bride and groom, it may not even be on their radar.

Football and tennis certainly formed no part of my planning (which was constrained by tide times on Saturdays!).

You only get one chance to see your friend get married, too. I'm gobsmacked you'd risk losing a friendship because of sport.

Rather than viewing a wedding that clashes with a sporting event as 'daft', I think if that had happened at my wedding I'd have seen it as an opportunity to reassess my friendships. And I know literally no one who has 'considered Wimbledon' when planning one of the biggest days of their life. I think that's really sad actually.

Actually, my best friend has been married three times so that's not true!

You may hate football, but millions of people love it. The Killers even interrupted their concert last night to show the end of the England game - and they're American, but they understand what it means to people.