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URGENT arrested but we can’t get any information - what can we do?

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Moonbag · 10/06/2024 17:02

DP was called last night by his son to say he’s been arrested, he wasn’t able to say why. He’s called several times today for updates but they can’t/ won’t tell him anything. What on Earth is he supposed to do? Son has previous so he is worried he will be kept in but without knowing what he’s charged with we’ve no real idea. Please can anyone advise?

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Moonbag · 10/06/2024 17:35

So what happens once it’s been 24 hours? I think it happened early evening last night. If it’s going to court will he be released till then or kept in and go to court tomorrow?

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Lemonade2011 · 10/06/2024 17:36

Usually held until earliest court date if not questioned and let go. They will not tell you anything until he can speak to you himself.
frustrating I’m sure but it’s just a waiting game.

HarrietofFire · 10/06/2024 17:48

Moonbag · 10/06/2024 17:35

So what happens once it’s been 24 hours? I think it happened early evening last night. If it’s going to court will he be released till then or kept in and go to court tomorrow?

It depends how serious it is. Either straight to Magistrates Court tomorrow where he can possibly be dealt with straight away or remanded or bailed, Magistrates tomorrow and then committed to Crown Court and remanded or bailed, released under further investigation, or released without charge. It really depends on evidence, seriousness and his previous behaviour.

HarrietofFire · 10/06/2024 17:51

They can also apply to a magistrate to extend the 24 hour period if it is particularly serious or there are exceptional circumstances

Moonbag · 10/06/2024 17:57

His name isn’t listed on that site as far as I can see but thanks a lot for the link @LimeandCourgette

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Moonbag · 10/06/2024 17:57

Googling him just brings up his previous incident

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sarahc336 · 10/06/2024 17:58

If it's serious enough and has previous form they might remand him in custody so it's straight to prison I assume tomorrow morning. Also if it was only last night I'm doubtful he'd have been in court today. Likely be in court Wednesday possibly though. That'll be to just agree his name and probably put a plea in. If he's still in now op I'm sorry it's not looking good. Have you seen any local news about anything that could be related?

inneedofaglowup · 10/06/2024 18:02

Hi OP. I have personal experience and professional in this. They have arrested him he knows why. He will be held in custody for 24 hours and if required it can be extended. The police cannot tell you why he is there or what it is for that's up to the person themselves to tell you once he is released. Once he is released it maybe on conditional bail or without charge. If it's a very serious offence he can be kept locked up. I'm sorry for what you're going through it is very traumatic and worrying time for families and closed ones. If he is saying he doesn't know why he's there it's a lie. They don't keep you in the unknown. A person will know full well why they are there.

Spirallingdownwards · 10/06/2024 18:02

Also depending on the type of crime they can apply to extend the 24 hours to a longer period

As others have said he knows full well what he has been arrested for (even if innocent and doesn't know anything about the incident they are referring).

They won't give you any info as he is an adult.

Carebearsonmybed · 10/06/2024 18:04

He's got a history of assault and a child.

I'm not apologising for not caring.

inneedofaglowup · 10/06/2024 18:08

Also if you know the solicitor who he has had it might be worth giving them a call. I know they won't be able to say much but it may be your partners son has asked for a msg to be passed on or just the piece of mind that he is ok.

fatphalange · 10/06/2024 18:13

Quitelikeit · 10/06/2024 17:13

Type his name into google or try to ring the court in the morning. It’s public record going to the courts so it’s not secret

Why say this? He hasn't been to court.

Sorry OP but your DP will only know what his son tells him and he's choosing not to reveal the nature of his arrest yet. There is no public record of arrests. If he's charged and is prosecuted that will be a different story but by the time that comes to pass, DP's son might well have shared what's gone on hopefully.

lynder · 10/06/2024 18:15

Carebearsonmybed · 10/06/2024 18:04

He's got a history of assault and a child.

I'm not apologising for not caring.

What do you mean by "and a child". OPs post just says assault I think? Has there been another thread?

BobbyBiscuits · 10/06/2024 18:25

The police won't say as he's not yet charged and also for data protection. He probably doesn't want to say in the hope they'll let him go and he won't need to tell his parents the full situation. It's upsetting but you just have to wait and see if he's being let go, tried or remanded or whatever. Once it's in court it will be public anyway. If it gets that far.

Moonbag · 10/06/2024 18:48

@Carebearsonmybed sorry if I’ve been misleading but he doesn’t have a child. His history of assault is before my time, he has a lot of issues but I lean towards not feeling that sympathetic because of how he hurts his dad, he’s the one I care about.

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Willmafrockfit · 10/06/2024 20:20

can he visit the police station?

Willmafrockfit · 10/06/2024 20:21

oh i have just read a post above,
at least he is, i presume, in the UK

Moonbag · 10/06/2024 20:35

Thank you for all the help, really appreciated. He has been released on bail, DP heard the officer tell him not to give any more details. He wasn’t where we thought so it’s no wonder nobody would give any information although I doubt they would anyway.

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JovialNickname · 10/06/2024 21:19

Glad to hear (for you and your partner) that he has been released, and that you are in a position to know more.

Just to echo others, we don't live in a society where you can be deprived of your liberty by the state, and not told why. Thank God. Please, to those reading, take a moment to remember this does actually happen in other parts of the world. As he's in the UK however, he absolutely will know what he was detained for.

Carebearsonmybed · 10/06/2024 21:42

Ok sorry misunderstood I thought you meant his son's mother.

Kinneddar · 10/06/2024 21:46

BellaVita · 10/06/2024 17:25

He probably isn’t allowed to say why he has been arrested as this could hamper their investigations.

He's perfectly entitled to tell his family why he's been arrested. Telling people isn't going to have any impact on an investigation

As others have said tho, course he knows why he's been arrested. He's lying if he says otherwise

Quitelikeit · 10/06/2024 22:09

more like him and his father don’t want to tell you

I can’t imagine an officer telling others to withhold that information! They don’t give a fig really!

Moonbag · 10/06/2024 22:13

It seems he was taken somewhere else - why would that be? Could it be that whatever he’s supposed to have done happened elsewhere so the police there deal with it?

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teatimeplease · 10/06/2024 22:16

Moonbag · 10/06/2024 22:13

It seems he was taken somewhere else - why would that be? Could it be that whatever he’s supposed to have done happened elsewhere so the police there deal with it?

How far away? Was it still within the force area? If so it's likely that the local custody is full

Nightowl1234 · 10/06/2024 22:16

I don’t think he is lying. I watched a programme recently (think it was 24 hours in police custody on channel 4) and when the arrested person was permitted a phone call, the custody sergeant standing next to them made clear that he was not allowed to tell his wife what he was arrested for. I think it’s so the person they are speaking to can’t do something to hamper the investigation.

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