3 month old at Christmas - would you travel 100 mins to stay over with family?

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It appears DH and I have somewhat differing views… if you had a 3 month old at Christmas, (born via CS), would you have (or been able to have) travelled 1 hr 45 min to stay over with family at Christmas?

Or, should they come to us rather than we go to them?

I wouldn't have been up for that with a three month old. I would have wanted to be at home.

I went for 3.5 hours to spend Christmas with my family when DS was 3 weeks old! It was fine.

Yeah, you love hosting now. But with a newborn and three Months post section, you’ll be changing your mind. Team travel here.

With DD1 we moved countries at 16 weeks.
With DD2, I went to my goddaughter 1st birthday party for the day a longer journey away.

Host Christmas? Trying to cook while dealing with naps and feeds and nappies? No way. Saying that, I still happily give Christmas dinner a miss and my youngest is 11yo... just other things I'd rather do on Christmas day, likecspend time with them.

At that age, my sister and I were flying between the UK and France to see Grandparent, so I would say yes.

DH very pleased he has won a MN debate 😅

I'd travel, that's hardly any length of journey. If you buy a lie flat car seat and she falls asleep you won't even need to stop.

Yes definitely, and I think the sooner you start getting used to travelling about with them the more you don’t feel like it’s a huge thing. Let me guess it’s his family?😉

Yes and we did with twins.
But just because it worked for us doesn't mean it will work for you.

No, it’s both sets of parents either way we do it. Both sets coming to us or we travel to stay with both sets. Family relations all very good!

We did a 500 mile trip including 2 ferry crossings spread over 2 days when DS was 4 weeks old to take him to see grandparents who were too infirm to leave the Scottish island they lived on. With hindsight it was the easiest time to travel. I remember pulling into the carpark in Glencoe and changing his nappy in the boot of the car surrounded by mountains.

While you're still recovering from birth/surgery it's entirely up to you!
But we travelled further (5-6 hours drive to my parents' and on to a wedding) when DD was 6 weeks. It wasn't ideal (lots of stops meaning more like 7.5 hours travel time each way) but under 2 hours to in laws we did quite a few times at that age, and for Christmas at 6 months old.
Had a big argument with DH that Christmas as he put the bednest right next to radiator and baby banged her head but wasn't really IL's fault 😆

Depends- to family where there’s lots of room, a comfortable bed and lots of willing helpers- certainly. To another set of family where there aren’t enough chairs for everyone, the bed is uncomfortable and it’s too hot- no.

To be honest I would set the precedent for Christmas by not travelling or having guests, and creating your own new family Christmas.

Was travelling long distance with DD from 6 weeks old. DH’s family are all 5 hours away. Her first Xmas she was 10 weeks old and we drove from South Wales to the north of Scotland for Xmas with friends.

We don’t ever do Xmas with family.

Lots of people take pleasure in spending Christmas with their families.

I would travel for sure and let everyone else look after you.
Final lot (or so) of travelling before you have an older child and want to stay home for Santa.

Not a chance, I'd stay at home and not have anyone for Christmas day either!

Yes. 3 months are a dream to travel with - try doing it with a toddler. Plus it’s not that long really. Some good play lists, car snacks, pit stop half way through. You’ll be absolutely fine

This!

Yes! Not an issue for is as we all live locally but I would not want to host if this were my situation. And I could then hand child over to excited, willing grandparents and get myself a large glass of wine. Cheers!

Need to work out what's best for you all. Our first Christmas with a 17 week old was horrendous (fortunately fairly local, so could come home).
Food was late, house too hot/stuffy and no quiet corner to easily feed little one.
We've been quite strict about Christmas' since then to ensure children don't get overwhelmed/can enjoy the day!

I took my 2 month old on a 2 hour flight and 2 1/2 hr drive for his first Christmas because I really wanted to go and it was fine.

I would plan on travelling but want to reserve the right to change your mind and go visit in eg Feb if it was all too much and you just wanted the three of you at home.