3 month old at Christmas - would you travel 100 mins to stay over with family?

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It appears DH and I have somewhat differing views… if you had a 3 month old at Christmas, (born via CS), would you have (or been able to have) travelled 1 hr 45 min to stay over with family at Christmas?

Or, should they come to us rather than we go to them?

Yes I would
At that age they’re very portable and would sleep some of the way
as long as you all had a proper bed and place for stay with no expectations on you other than eating a Xmas dinner someone else had made for you

God no.

Yes that would be fine for me, I would've been happy to travel.

Yes. And I did.

Far easier at that age than a child who can talk and constantly asks “How long” “Are we there yet” “I need a wee!”. With my kids I found the car was something of a sanctuary as it was guaranteed they’d sleep!

Im not sure who came up with the idea that babies are not transportable beyond the garden gate, it’s very OTT. Also at 3 months I’d expect a mother who’d given birth via c-section to be recovered, providing the birth and recovery were straightforward. 100 minutes really isn’t a long time.

I would want to stay in my own home tbh. Wouldn't want to be hosting either. A quiet holiday with baby.

I’d definitely travel. 1hr 45 minutes isn’t that far, and I’d rather pull my own pubes out one by one than host Christmas 3 months postpartum. I’d enjoy the post dinner naps and someone else doing the washing up.

Yeah I would and have. 3 months old are super portable. Under 2 hours in a car is easy peasy assuming no traffic problems

Presumably if you’re 3 months postpartum you’d have a partner? Get them to cook! I know for some the penis can be a hindrance to doing laydee jobs but for non-decides it’s fine.

This, well not the bit about the pubes. 1h45 mins is nothing, and it would be great to be pampered and looked after, and catch up on some sleep.

It's completely possible obviously!

The issue is whether you want to or not?

Personally, I'd find the travelling easier than the hosting so I'd definitely travel and be the guest than have them travel to me and be the host.

We did. And then the next year (so we’d done Xmas with both sides of the family). And then we said ‘no more, if anyone wishes they can come to us’. Travelling with a baby was a doddle compared to traveling with a toddler…

Yes. Far more tricky when they're a bit older

I think I'd rather travel than host but it depends if you and your partner enjoy hosting I suppose! Also, will you have a comfy bed/bedroom when you got there and do you like the people you'd potentially be staying with?!

Yes..... depending on the family in question!

Yes, much easier than hosting.

Yes I’ve done it (further and younger). It was fine and worth it I wanted to see my in laws for Christmas.

I've had two autumn babies by cs.

The first Christmas, I was fine, baby was fine and we did go away. DM lived 6 hrs away at the time, and we detoured to see DBro and PiL on the way home a week late. DS was 15 weeks old.

With my second CS, dd was about 10 weeks old at Christmas and I couldn't stand up straight or sit comfortably in a car until Christmas Eve.

Definitely possible. Whether you want to is another matter of course.

We travelled to UK from US when DC2 was 2 months for Christmas. DC2 was very easy to travel with. Toddler DC1 was a huge pain!

I would. At 8 weeks we did a 10 hr drive split over two days to join family for Christmas. Also csection. But you know yourself and what you’re comfortable with so don’t be pressured!

Ooh interesting, seems you are mostly team DH! 😁

I absolutely love hosting and would much rather stay in our own home at Christmas rather than travel with all the accoutrements of a baby and just not be able to fully relax…

I shall let DH know the verdict!

Depends if this meant next year you'd be expected to do the opposite. Christmas at someone else's house with a 3 month old would be far, far easier than with a 15 month old. So I'd put up with the hassle and discomfort this year.

Hahaha this! 😂

I did with 2 1/2 month old for nearer to four hours - otherwise my disabled father would never have been able to meet his first granddaughter. . We had stops along the way for feeds, changes and moving position. 1 3/4 hours is hardly anything.

I would and I did. Longer journeys as well.
Feed baby, put in a car seat, they will sleep all the way there 👌

Once there, family members fuss over baby and you can take it easy 😁