Partner "apologised " for me,would you be annoyed ?

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It's our anniversary night away.
I booked a nice restaurant and on the special request asked for a booth or a table with some privacy.
I specifically asked for this as they have form for having people practically sat on other tables knee.
We went for early dinner at 5pm
It was dead
One other couple
She walked us to the table next to the couple (a small two table )
So I said "sorry can we sit over there for some privacy please"
She looked and rolled her eyes and said yes
As we were walking over my partner said to her "sorry about this "

Sorry about what ? The place was dead
I was honestly fuming
Then other people started arriving and rather than spacing people out she sat them all next to each other (so had people on top of us anyway )

Would you be annoyed at partner ?
Why do restaurants do this ?

The waitress was very rude rolling her eyes

YANBU.

But the real question is: why were you having your romantic anniversary dinner at 5pm?

Yeah I'd be really cross, if he can 't back you up (cos he disagrees with you) he could at least keep quiet.

How is it ruined?

She sat them all together because that would have been her ‘section’ and she was probably the only one on at that time. Later when it got busier, there would have been better distribution. You weren’t wrong to ask for the seat you wanted, and she was rude to roll her eyes, and your husband was a dick for apologising when you’d done nothing wrong.

So long as you weren't rude - he had no need to apologise

You apologised first

Oh for heavens sake..can we not bring every bloody thread down to this. She hadn't said it was a Michelin star, the Ritz or similar. Yes she should be grateful they've scraped together enough for a 241 at Wetherspoons..anything else is just excessive and she should be grateful they didn't make her stand up to eat and wash up afterwards!

If I don't like the location of a table I'm happy to ask for another. But I do ask nicely.

Restaurants with tiny tables annoy me intensely and I tend not to go back if I can't get my plate properly on the table.

She rolled her eyes? Jesus! I'd have walked out.

Your husband is a lily livered twat, but your server? She needs a good talking to.

I think it would annoy me too. You made a reasonable request, for a reason and he cared more what they thought of that request than meeting your wishes!

I don't suppose he has to feel all requests are equally as reasonable/unreasonable. No two people are ever going to think everything is equally reasonable/unreasonable!

But he's not in your corner is he. He's in the corner of his own self-image or something. Can't have the waitress thinking he supports you as you make a reasonable request A big turn off yees.

Despicable?? He just sounds British to me.

I'd be momentarily irritated and probably tell him not to do that again in future but I wouldn't be annoyed enough to start a thread about it.

If only he had fleshed it out a bit and said you were both really messy eaters, and you like to take your dentures out, fart a lot etc

Did he say sorry as a reflex and more like a thank you to acknowledge you'd been moved or did he say sorry , pointing in your direction, making out you are a drama queen and always causing trouble? The first ,I wouldn't even notice. As far as being crammed in , I think they do it to make service easier and to create a bit of atmosphere maybe. It can be annoying ,yes.

I’m guessing it’s easier to sit people close together than for the waitress to have to run back and forth across the restaurant. I think they have staff covering different areas? Nonetheless it shouldn’t have been an issue and she was rude to roll her eyes.
Your husband sounds like the type to avoid any kind of conflict at all costs. I bet he never complains about bad service or anything like that. He was a bit of an idiot to apologise over something that shouldn’t have been an issue. ‘I’m sorry about this’ sounds like a conspiratorial ‘sorry about my irrational, contrary other half massive eye roll, can’t believe what I have to put up with’ so yes I’d have been a bit annoyed too.
Whats he saying about it now OP.
I probably would have said ‘what did you apologise for ? It was a perfectly reasonable request’ and left it at that.

It really depends on how you spoke to the waitress first. Did you explain to her nicely you had requested a booth on booking or with a bit of attitude? You state yourself the restaurant is known for sitting people on top of each other, so sounds like a popular, busy place. I don't really see a big issue to get so worked up about, unless there are other things going on.

I'd be very annoyed. The waitress was rude, I would have walked out when she rolled her eyes at me. I'd also give my partner an earful for apologising for me like I embarrass him or something.

Perhaps he 's worked in restaurants in the past and he knows that you're creating potential issues for the waiting staff. Perhaps he was already feeling self-conscious about dining in a restaurant at 5pm. Are we talking about a proper grown-up restaurant or a chain place?

Personally, I like a man who can say sorry and who acknowledges that waiting staff are human beings. Not to say you can't ask for what you want but perhaps more in a straightforward: 'Oh, we were hoping for some privacy. I'd prefer to sit over there' rather than 'I'm sorry but...' You're not sorry and everyone knows it.

I guess my question to you is why are you so easily undermined by something so minor? Did you then, instead of ignoring it, go on to turn it into a reason for a row?

Last week I parked in a pretty much empty car park, 2 car seats in the back for my young kids.

When I came back there was a car parked either side of me really close. There were SO many spaces. Like why do we need to be sandwiched together ? So yanbu

We had this happen to us. We then moved our caravan away for some privacy. Probably offended the other guy, but we came camping for some privacy and peace.

You were not unreasonable to ask to be moved. Your husband was probably trying to be polite to the waitress.

Your husband is doing that awful British thing of apologising for everything. It can get really annoying and yanbu to be pissed off. He should be backing his partner not being embarrassed at every perceived slight.

Ego kibbles -fantastic.

Why didn't you walk out when she rolled her eyes?

Honestly if it was so much trouble to seat you elsewhere-why stay?

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