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If you could say just one sentence to a person that you’ve never been able to…

253 replies

Arlanymor · 04/06/2024 19:51

… what would it be?

I’ll go first: “You didn’t make a noble sacrifice, you went back to a relationship where you are used and abused in front of your children who will see this dysfunction as the ‘model’ for their future relationships. Wake the fuck up.”

OP posts:
MrsApplepants · 04/06/2024 22:02

I certainly won’t be lifting a finger to help you in your old age, you selfish witch

Neveranynamesleft · 04/06/2024 22:03

I will if I want to and its nobody's business but mine.

Oneshoetwoshoe · 04/06/2024 22:03

That day, when you highlighted my ‘deception’ and ‘lying’ in front of our families and friends, you failed to grasp that both of those times I had been trying to protect my family and your boyfriend from the fallout of your own selfish actions.

travailtotravel · 04/06/2024 22:03

And also, dear beautiful friend, I have the biggest unhealthiest crush on you but I just cannot give up talking to you which would surely be the best thing. You're too funny, kind and lovely to not have on my life. I I just wish I knew how long it would take the crush to go away so I can get it over with and get back to not mooning over you!

Karmakamelion · 04/06/2024 22:04

I'm not to blame for everything I'm just a child

PrincessHoneysuckle · 04/06/2024 22:09

You're a shit mum and an even shitter grandparent.

WingSlutz · 04/06/2024 22:11

I've been in love with you since 2007.

oldmamascan · 04/06/2024 22:12

To a love from many years ago:
I am sorry I cut all online ties with you and the friend group without explaining. In my heart I still wished you all well. I just was struggling pretending not to still love you and trying to be happy for you and your new wife. I thought if I'd cut all connections I could get on with my new life, dating etc and get over you without feeling like my progress in life was going to be compared with yours. I shouldn't have been so proud and I should have been more honest that I was still struggling with having feelings for you. Even the disastrous whirlwind rebound relationship I got into, didn't make the feelings go away, it just pushed them down. When that relationship ended, the feelings of heartbreak came up again just as raw as ever. I wanted to be happy for you and I kind of was but gosh it was hard losing you to her,

HcbSS · 04/06/2024 22:13

I will also come out with a positive one!!

You are the first and only person who showed me compassion and respected me fully as gran’s nuclear family when she died, rather than ‘just’ a grandchild who is now surplus to requirement. I will never forget your care, kindness and compassion as long as I live and I hope we remain friends lifelong as I honestly believe dear gran sent you to help me in this difficult time. I hope one day to repay the favour.

Sorry, it’s more than one sentence.

Original poster
Arlanymor · 04/06/2024 22:15

HcbSS · 04/06/2024 22:13

I will also come out with a positive one!!

You are the first and only person who showed me compassion and respected me fully as gran’s nuclear family when she died, rather than ‘just’ a grandchild who is now surplus to requirement. I will never forget your care, kindness and compassion as long as I live and I hope we remain friends lifelong as I honestly believe dear gran sent you to help me in this difficult time. I hope one day to repay the favour.

Sorry, it’s more than one sentence.

Edited

That’s beautiful and don’t you dare apologise!

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Compash · 04/06/2024 22:16

You're over eighty years old now. Can you finally stop judging yourself and other women by how slim and how attractive to men you/they are? Can you stop seeing every single other woman - even your own little granddaughter - as 'the competition'? Start to appreciate people for their character and their inner qualities, even if you have none yourself.

Inspirationfailure · 04/06/2024 22:21

This isn’t working for me any more.

Opsiedaisy · 04/06/2024 22:23

I love you, please don’t go…….

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 04/06/2024 22:25

Maybe if you didn;t expect your husband to do everything for you he wouldn;t have ended up in a state of exhaustion .Accepting help that was available and taking your medications would've been a start .

momtoboys · 04/06/2024 22:25

You will always be the love of my life. I miss the person I was when I was with you.

moggerhanger · 04/06/2024 22:27

You're lazy and really didn't deserve that award you got.

Norauraborealis · 04/06/2024 22:27

You think you’re all such right-on, Guardian-reading Liberals, but you school mums were actually racists of the worst kind, insidious and exclusive - you made life hell for me and my poor children and acted as though we were invisible - with Black Lives Matter now, I don’t think you’d have dared to do it now. We are not worth less than you, and I wish I’d have told you exactly what I thought of you then. Money and privilege do not equal class.

LadyMuckk · 04/06/2024 22:30

Compash · 04/06/2024 22:16

You're over eighty years old now. Can you finally stop judging yourself and other women by how slim and how attractive to men you/they are? Can you stop seeing every single other woman - even your own little granddaughter - as 'the competition'? Start to appreciate people for their character and their inner qualities, even if you have none yourself.

sounds like my mum she'll look at some happy 7 year old irish dancers and tell us all which has ''big thighs''. Geez. But yet, although she feels everybody should be beautiful and as perfect as they can manage, she also judges women who know they're attractive and have some of the confidence that comes with that. Argh.

Thmssngvwlsrnd · 04/06/2024 22:31

Mrs McC you were a shit manager, a shit headteacher, and your jokes were not funny. You are a bully and a c*. I hope one day you will understand how wrong you were, you utter dickhead.

FuckTheClubUp · 04/06/2024 22:31

A thick dick will only get you so far prick!

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Arlanymor · 04/06/2024 22:33

FuckTheClubUp · 04/06/2024 22:31

A thick dick will only get you so far prick!

Was his name Oliver? Asking for a friend….

OP posts:
TheChosenTwo · 04/06/2024 22:36

”fuck off out of our lives for good you useless lying prick.”
DH did once tell this person the above but sadly this person has a very thick skin and thought it was just the drink talking at a very late night party 🫠

FuckTheClubUp · 04/06/2024 22:37

Arlanymor · 04/06/2024 22:33

Was his name Oliver? Asking for a friend….

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Michael actually but fuck Oliver too!!🤣

livelovelough24 · 04/06/2024 22:45

Churchview · 04/06/2024 21:11

I wish I'd never met you.

I apologize @Churchview but I am going to have to use your sentence.
I wish I never met you!!!

muggart · 04/06/2024 22:46

Norauraborealis · 04/06/2024 22:27

You think you’re all such right-on, Guardian-reading Liberals, but you school mums were actually racists of the worst kind, insidious and exclusive - you made life hell for me and my poor children and acted as though we were invisible - with Black Lives Matter now, I don’t think you’d have dared to do it now. We are not worth less than you, and I wish I’d have told you exactly what I thought of you then. Money and privilege do not equal class.

This made me really sad. I also wish you could say it to their faces! I hope your DC are not affected in the long term.