If you could say just one sentence to a person that you’ve never been able to…

[Arlanymor]

… what would it be?

I’ll go first: “You didn’t make a noble sacrifice, you went back to a relationship where you are used and abused in front of your children who will see this dysfunction as the ‘model’ for their future relationships. Wake the fuck up.”

Good for you, honestly, I think that’s great. Onwards and upwards!

You criticise the way I look, but I would rather be me than look like a jacket potato on legs like you!

I wish you had stepped up and helped poor gran at the end of her life rather than carrying merrily on with your fun plans, leaving mum and me to do everything. We are battered and exhausted, and FWIW I wish you hadn’t used me as an emotional punchbag when she died and actually checked in on me some time over the last year during intense grief.

I loved you so much - thanks to you I have always known what unconditional love feels like, and I have missed you every day of my life since you died.

😆
There’s someone I’d LOVE to say this to!

Oh why don’t you just fuck off…
To quite a few people, couldn’t pick just one.

Ha, I feel you!

You should have realised how much harm you’d do and stopped yourself, you spineless, manipulative jellyfish

You're a manipulative bully and, almost certainly underneath, a coward. If you have to bully and manipulate in order to get ahead at work, think about how crap at your job you really are. Look over your shoulder, because there are a lot of pissed off people wanting you to fail.

‘I didn’t feel loved as a child, I felt I was always in the way and never hugged and always an annoyance and never heard ‘I love you’ - and it’s fucked me up and is really holding me back in adulthood - don’t want to make you feel bad but also want to voice it!’

I want a second opinion - she has history of kidney infection, has just had chemo and is displaying several symptoms of sepsis.

Followed by

How the fuck did you miss it when it was staring you in the face. Your incompetence killed my mum

I fucking hate you for being a liar, do you really think that I believed all the bullshit? You literally are the smallest man who ever lived. But I love you and you are amazing in bed. But don't think all is fucking well for the future matey.

So much damage was done by ignorance to so many on the past to continue that ignorance on into a generation when there is more knowledge and awareness out there is something I want no part of

I think we could be talking about the same person!

Please just shut the fuck up!! Every meet-up the rest of us have to listen to your "hilarious" stories all evening.

I love you but I honestly think you are stupid - to my friend.

You are such a jealous, small minded person despite always pretending to be so progressive and open hearted - to my other friend.

I wish i could fix you, but you really should have done it for yourself. We are all at a loss now. In my heart you died, although you are still here - to my mother.

And to someone else
please get yourself the counselling you very much need especially as your husband is as much use to you as a chocolate teapot

How dare you blame me for my own rape and for telling you it happened you stupid little bitch.

You have taught me so much about how not to be a mother and grandmother. You screwed your son up by favouring your daughter, so much so he wasn't a fit husband and father. He tried to talk to you about the way you'd made him feel his whole life, but when it came to the crunch, he had no self esteem to address this with you. He blamed me for this, not you.

My poor children had no support from you at the toughest times of their lives. Or the happiest times of their lives. Or the ordinary times of their lives. You can't travel 100 miles to see my children in the last 4 years, but can travel to the US 4 times in the last 4 years to see your daughter and grandchildren.

You are a horrible selfish person and I'm so glad you're no longer in my life.

And I really hope you're a MN user who reads this and recognises herself.

Brush your children's teeth with toothpaste and get them vaccinated you idiot!

There.

You were terrible parents and totally failed me, how I loved and believed in you makes me feel ashamed, I deserved your love and interest but never got it.

I'd ask both my parents why they are unable to say they love me.

I say it to them at the end of any phonecalls & they completely dodge a response.

I tell DS I love him every day.

Your daughter caused a load of grief and shite in the family when she was 15 years old and you say that was teenage angst and behaviour!! If that's the case why is she still acting like that 17 years later??

My mother once asked me (after I'd left him) ''How did you ever end up with *Dave?''

I'd love to say to her

Because you trained me that I do not get to raise an issue that matters to me, and if I ever tried, I instantly got the silent treatment, and it turns out his verbal abuse and your silent treatment, they're two means to the same goal; silencing me, so that dear mother is the reason I ended up with *Dave.

I can't keep making myself smaller in order to avoid upsetting you. And I think that because i won't avoid saying difficult things anymore and want to unapologetically build my own life again, you will struggle with not being centre stage. And yes, I love you. But I don't think love alone is enough anymore.