This kind of attitude is the reason why victims so often don't speak up. People will go to any lengths necessary to cast blame on them; their parents; the stalking victim who 'encouraged' the offender; the rape victim who wore a short skirt. Anything not to direct blame where it really belongs: with the overwhelming majority of MALE perpetrators.
The reponses to #MeToo were telling. The number of victims telling their stories wasn't to be wondered at: the immediate backlash telling them to maintain their silence or stop 'jumping on the bandwagon (ie rugsweep their experiences and protect the abusers) is what was so depressing. But it was, unfortunately, predictable. Why? Everyone is to blame bar the male sex offenders. Our society is set up to protect the sexual proclivities of men. And when those men happen to be famous entertainers, eminent politicians, or in professions commanding respect or authority (cf. the abuse of position within the priesthood and the Met police), they are pretty much untouchable.
Incidentally, my sympathies, empathy (and anger toward their abusers) go to every member of this site who have bravely shared their experiences of CSA above. The way in which these people have been spoken to on this thread is nothing short of utterly fucking repugnant.
This site is lately full of MRAs, abuse apologists, would-be eroders of child safeguarding boundaries and victim discreditors.
We see you. And the view isn't pretty.