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How many cousins have you got and do you see them/keep in touch?

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NiceDayatlast · 20/04/2024 12:19

I have seven cousins. I see one occasionally via another family member. Other than that, I seem to have lost touch with them apart from a Facebook happy birthday message! I used to enjoy big family get togethers but there haven’t been any in recent years. Do you see your cousins regularly?

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OnehundredStars · 20/04/2024 13:51

36: my dm is estranged from her side of the family so I never really got to know them. I do know my df side but we live far apart.

FunnysInLaJardin · 20/04/2024 13:52

I have 5 and we keep in touch on Facebook and WhatsApp. Only see them at weddings and funerals etc as we all live in different parts of the country

PutOnYourRedShoesAndLetsDance · 20/04/2024 13:54

I'm 66.. think l have about 60..
My dad was one of 10.. my Mum one of five.
I keep in touch via FB with 12.. some l see out and about.
I don't know where most of them are.

chineapplepunks · 20/04/2024 13:57

One cousin. We always keep in touch because there's only 3 of us, including my sister

poppym12 · 20/04/2024 13:59

Around 18 I think. Only see each other at funerals.

TooraLoora · 20/04/2024 13:59

Ihave 10 cousins, 2 sadly passed away far too early, 1 appears to have cut all family contact, the rest I see a couple of times a year. We all get on.

NiceDayatlast · 20/04/2024 14:00

Wow some people have a lot of cousins! I think it must be nice to be part of a very big family!

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TeabySea · 20/04/2024 14:03
  1. I see one of them occasionally, and one of them a few times a year (both live in the same part of the country as me). One I last saw when I was about 14, the others I have never met.

I've a lot of second and third cousins. See some of the second cousins, who are significantly older than me, annually.

spanieleyes · 20/04/2024 14:05

Eight on my mother's side, they live across the world-America, Canada, Spain- but we meet up once a year minimum. Just 2 on my father's side, 1 I see fairly regularly, one I don't.

RuthW · 20/04/2024 14:05

I have 18 first cousins. I see 1 regularly

Bin85 · 20/04/2024 14:10

I had 8 first cousins but 2 have sadly died.
Keep in touch with most of the on social media and have a Whats App group for 6 of us.Used for serious and lighthearted stuff.

Iliketulips · 20/04/2024 14:11

I've got 7. I still see two when I visit my DA as she likes to get us all together, with the odd bit of texting inbetween. I used to stay with my DU and DA, so spent a lot of time with them growing up.

I had little in common with my other cousins, four came from a family that were rough, used bad language, always getting into trouble, even now (in our late 50s) two have never worked - I'm not perfect, but none of those were me.

fromaytobe · 20/04/2024 14:12

I have one cousin and he lives the other side of the Atlantic. We've not seen each other for 15 years, although we do keep in touch by email and the occasional phone call.

hattie43 · 20/04/2024 14:12

All mine live abroad and we've lost touch . I really only have my mum so when she's gone I'll be adrift from family but do have good friends

elp30 · 20/04/2024 14:12

I had 72 first cousins but six have died within the past 10 years.

They range in age from 77 to 42. I am 53.

When I was a child, I used to see my cousins on my mother's side every Sunday when we would visit my grandparents. I would visit my paternal cousins every other weekend because they lived further away. My grandparents (and mother) died by the time I turned 11 and it was more challenging to visit them all. I moved away from my hometown when I was 19 and would only see them sporadically on visits home. My sister would see them all often because she stayed in our hometown. When social media became a thing, I was able to connect with many of them. I'm very close to around 45 of them and their children and even their grandchildren. I discovered only recently that my father had two half-siblings so there's more cousins that I haven't met yet.

I grew up in the US and this is common in my hometown along the US/Mexico border to have many relatives. When we meet new people, we always ask who their family's are because we may have some in common.

My children only have seven cousins. Four live in the UK (my husband is English) and three live scattered around the US.

Spidey66 · 20/04/2024 14:13

I have about 40. Both my parents came from large families. I see one regularly. Some I'm Facebook friends with and/or see at family gatherings. Others I wouldn't know if they stood up in my soup.

IamaRevenant · 20/04/2024 14:13

Four cousins. Just FB messages on birthdays and likes tbh.

I also have two cousins once removed who are the same age as me (I'm a lot younger than my immediate cousins) who I do keep in touch with, sporadically.

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 20/04/2024 14:14

5 cousins.One has died, three I have no idea of the whereabouts of, and one I'm really close to, probably because she's very close in age to me and she was an only child who has now lost both parents, so I'm her nearest relative.

AffIt · 20/04/2024 14:18

Loads! My maternal grandmother was one of seven, so I have an enormous family.

We're very close to my first cousins (my mother's brother's children) - similar age / interests, so we socialise a lot, share silly memes on a WhatsApp group etc.

See my older cousins a little less, mostly due to different life stages / geography etc, but we are a close and interested family and we all put quite a lot of effort into communicating through social media, meeting up when we can etc.

Big family parties are quite spectacular! 😄

BaconCozzers · 20/04/2024 14:19

20 something. Never met one batch, haven't seen another batch for years nor would I like to, and another few I don't see because our paths never cross. Of the rest I see another 6-7 once in a blue moon at family things, and keep in touch with 3 as lovely friends (from two separate families).

nervousashell · 20/04/2024 14:20

5 first cousins on my mum's side, 5 on my dad's side.

If I include step families, its about 25 first cousins in all.

Second/third cousins (and beyond) - around about 70-100+ I think on mum's side alone (Catholic family, there are hundreds of us and all very close knit).

I'm mainly in contact with four of five first cousins on mum's side, two on my dad's side; have around about 40 on Facebook from wider family. Regularly speak to and see about five or six. Lots of cousins I have never met.

SiobhanSharpe · 20/04/2024 14:20

I have seven first cousins, all from my mother's side.
i keep more or less in touch with five of them but three of those live abroad.
So it's facebook only/big family news/funerals etc these days.
I am fond of the five of them, the other two I don't really know at all due to a family rift between our mothers.

nebulae · 20/04/2024 14:25

I have three first cousins. They are absolute arseholes so I have nothing to do with them. I have another cousin (first cousin once removed I think) who I'm in contact with but lives hours away so I only see her once or twice a year now. Lots of other more distant cousins who I've either never met or not seen for many years.

MissSookieStackhouse · 20/04/2024 14:25

I have around 25 cousins, I’m not even sure exactly how many as I’ve never even met about half of them. Of the ones I have met, I haven’t seen most of them in over 30 years. Randomly, one got in touch recently via social media, after not having seen each other since we were children and even then it was only about twice. We’re not exactly a close family!

Queencam · 20/04/2024 14:27

My dad’s one of 8 and mum is one of 5. I have over 50 first cousins and I’d struggle to name them all…

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