How many cousins have you got and do you see them/keep in touch?

[NiceDayatlast]

I have seven cousins. I see one occasionally via another family member. Other than that, I seem to have lost touch with them apart from a Facebook happy birthday message! I used to enjoy big family get togethers but there haven’t been any in recent years. Do you see your cousins regularly?

I think as time moves on, having huge numbers of cousins will become rarer and rarer. Very few people nowadays are having huge families like they did in the past.

I have four cousins but live hundreds of miles from them, I did see one last year. She is an artist and a positive delight. DH has a lot of first and second cousins once removed that he knows due to a family home kept for over 100 years that they kept as a holiday home, it had a few acres of land with its own woodland so we used to see them a lot.

The house was sold. So many get togethers over that 100 years and I was lucky enough to be there for 20 years of them. We visited one of his cousins yesterday, they are about 2 hours away.

Over 30, but two have died. They range in age from 20s to 55 and I'm one of the eldest.

I'm very close to one, he's like a brother to me and our kids are close too. Their are a couple more I'm friendly with but see less often.

Most of the others I'm fb friends with and see at family events, and we also have family facebook groups where we share news and old photoe. There are a couple I message occasionally as we have things in common. I feel like I know most of them quite well though as we grew up together visiting grandparents, we just drifted apart as adults. And of course now we don't have our grandparents we don't have that central place where we see each other. It's a shame, but we tend to see each other mainly at funerals nowadays.

I have one cousin. My narc parents made sure we were never close, and I grew up thinking that the cousin was very clever and my siblings and I would never be able to catch up/achieve similarly. At family gatherings, the cousin would boss us around and generally make me feel small, thick and inferior. As you might expect, we didn't have a very positive relationship!
Since adulthood I've made an effort to build a functional relationship with said cousin more than once, but they've not made the effort back. Which is sad, but given the way we grew up, it's not very surprising.

Still wow at all the cousins!

Good point that people won’t have so many relatives any more as families get smaller. I don’t know any big families amongst my peer group and I know lots of families with one child, including two of my siblings.