How many cousins have you got and do you see them/keep in touch?

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I have seven cousins. I see one occasionally via another family member. Other than that, I seem to have lost touch with them apart from a Facebook happy birthday message! I used to enjoy big family get togethers but there haven’t been any in recent years. Do you see your cousins regularly?

I've got loads, don't actually know the figure. I don't think I'd recognise any of them in the street.

6, I think.

I'm not in contact with any of them. I'm not from a close family background.

20, 285 - and more every day, according to Ancestry DNA.

I have 2 first cousins, but at least a dozen second cousins (our parents were cousins and our grandparents were siblings) and some of us meet up spasmodically. Last year we had a weekend away which involved about 20 of us including partners and it went so well we plan to do it again. The irony of it is that our grandparents had endless fallings out and feuds and tried to involve us but thankfully none of us could make any sense of their issues. We reminisce about our batty relatives who are no longer with us. Second cousins are kind of optional, more like friends but with a special link.

I have four cousins (used to be five, but one died) I don’t see any of them. Three of them live abroad and the one in England has made it clear he’s not interested in seeing me.

I've got 4 cousins
2 on my Mums side and 2 on my Dad's
I'm Facebook friends with 3 of them.
I don't really keep in touch with them. 1 on my Mums side I see more often than any of them, I last saw her at New Year, but the rest nothing from them
I see my DHs cousins more often than my own!

i have 17 on my mother's side and another 10 plus second cousins on her side that we'd have been close to growing up. I couldn't even count how many on my dad's side but I'd only have known 5 of them pretty well as he was the youngest of a big family. my mum's family have a get together every couple of years. they are a lot of fun. I'm very close to one cousin and we talk regularly. My sister is close to more of them. Even cousins I wouldn't text or chat to regularly would contact me if they were visiting where I live. I had a lovely dinner recently with a second cousin I last saw before that at a funeral in 2016.

My kids have 8 cousins in total.

I have 21 first cousins (on both sides) - more in touch with those on my maternal side as we all grew up together, whereas my dad's side are in multiple other countries.

We have a group chat for the maternal cousins, and we stay in touch and I see them as often as I can when I'm back in UK.

Id say we're closer than most, but we're a close family generally irrespective of our geographical distance.

One cousin. She lives in another country.

I've met her 6 times in my life including my wedding, my sister' wedding and a GP funeral.

5 cousins

My favourite one died.
One lives abroad but even if she lived here I'd have nothing to do with her.
One doesn't have anything to do with anyone in the family
The other two are twelve. I see them from time to time but we're different generations to be friends or meet up independently

About 25 first cousins on my dad's side, all much older, don't know them

9 first on my mums side. Never met one. The rest haven't seen since I was a teenager. Some live locally.

I have loads of cousins, my parents had 15 siblings between them. I don't have any direct contact with them. I see some of them at big family gatherings and when my parents have arranged smaller gatherings. Some live abroad. I don't have any contact details for them. When my parents die, I expect I won't have any further contact with them. There's been quite a bit of unfair distribution of family assets and responsibility for elders within the extended family so frankly I don't feel any sense of loyalty or obligation to keep in touch.

I have 15 cousins and between them they have 29 kids! And some of them have kids now too! So if you add the partners as well, our family can feel huge. The ages of my first cousins are between 60-30 so there’s a wide range.

I saw them frequently when I was a child but generally as we grew up it’s become fairly rare. I’ve moved away too so it’s really only weddings and sadly, funerals. I loved having loads of cousins growing up. My husband had one cousin and he even now has only met him once. No family really outside his immediate family and grandparents who all passed away when he was a small child.

My kids have 9 cousins and 4 are close in age. We really do try to foster friendship between them but we live in different cities. They love meeting up and I really hope that continues - it’s a lovely part of being in a family!

3 - I’m the eldest. One lives in the same city as my sister and I so we have regular cousin meet ups.

The other two live in a different country, I see one of them once a year and the other I’ve probably met less than 10 times.

1. I haven't seen any of them in 25 years at least, haven't seen any aunts or uncles in 10.

19 and not really

3 first cousins 2 second cousins all pretty much weddings and funerals only

Have 20 first cousins. Friends with most of them on Facebook, see one of them for lunch and theatre trips.

Loads. No.

Never met the ones on my dad's side. 16 on my mum's side and I don't think I've seen any since my nan died 20 years ago. That is when the family parties tailed off. I have a few of them on Facebook but don't really interact.

6 cousins with them all being 20 and under while I am in my 30s. 2 of them are less than 2 years older than my eldest son while one of them is a year younger than him. It's a very different relationship than having cousins who are a similar age and grew up with you. I never struggled though to earn some money for babysitting as a teen!

I see the cousins when I see family, usually when I see/saw one of my nans. A couple of times a year. One we see less because she has been a right madam to my son and he absolutely hates her so that's a bit awkward to get them together!

I have 22 on both my parents side ranging in age from 65 to 30. We used to be very close and see each other regularly but as adults we now live all over the world and I never see them.

I don't even know how many I have. I lost count somewhere (dad is one of 12, with many, many kids between them)!

Some I'm in occasional touch with, via Facebook or WhatsApp, some I wouldn't even recognise if I walked past them in the street! And some I wouldn't piss on if they were on fire, with their criminal history.

Short version:
I've got 17 cousins but have no real contact with any
DS has got 3 full and 4 half cousins but no real contact for years
DH has 3 cousins - has social media contact with one and they message occasionally over a shared hobby

If the family doesn't have people who are prepared to organise bringing the family together or there is any kind of dysfunction then I think cousin relationships suffer.

I had 20 cousins - all on my dad's side. He is one of six (who had 4, 8, (dad -3), 3, 2, 3, children each). It is now 17 as three died early (one as a child, and two as fairly young adults). My mum was an only child. We lived in England and most of them lived in Scotland or further away in England so only ever saw them very occasionally - most were adults/teens when I was born, only three are around the same age. I was facebook friends with three of them but I've come off facebook now so that is that.

My son has three cousins from my husband's side (but hasn't seem them for 8+ years due to dysfunctional family dynamics) and four half cousins from my side (I barely know the half siblings and would have to look up their names, and the cousins are more my generation than my son's).

DH's saw his cousins a bit growing up but only sees them at funerals now but does have some social media contact with one as they share a hobby (doesn't live that close either and almost old enough to be generation above).

34. They all have at Kelsey 3 kids so there are a lots of us, all on my mums side. Two on my dad's side.

In touch with most of them, do t see each other often, different countries.