I have a date and I can't get my wedding and engagement rings off...

[styleitoutttt]

What should I do?

Split from H last year. My fingers (and the rest of me) have grown significantly in the 20 years since my rings went on and there is no way of getting them off without intervention (I've tried all the washing up liquid and dental floss interventions).

Options are:

• front up with the date before I go and explain the situation in advance
• find out if I can get them cut off somehow which I don't really want to do because they were expensive
• chop off hand
• brazen it out and say nothing.

WWYD?

There's a trick with thread I saw on YouTube. You basically put the thread under the ring and then wrap it around your finger until the ring comes pushes off. Looked really straight forward.

Good luck on the date.

https://youtube.com/shorts/gI95I2f2jJM?si=LOb0qm7cnGpp1k80

This should hopefully help ;)

Just to say your Tiffany ring would in theory be quite valuable IF you have the original receipt or similar proof of provenance. Without that it would just be valued as a diamond solitaire of relevant quality. However, as the band has worn very thin it would probably have to be replaced. (I had the same issue fromwearing two rings together for decades.) That is about £400 so would devalue it accordingly anyway

Use butter

Go to a jeweller, they can get rings off without cutting. I injured my hand and my finger swelled up & my rings wouldn’t budge. Tried all the advice, soap, etc. The jeweller got the ring off in seconds.

I had the same problem of stuck rings. I went to an independent jeweller who managed to get my engagement ring off. He then carefully & safely sawed through my wedding band with tools for the job.
I was so relieved & done!

In the short term, leave them be. Longer term, have them removed. It’s not worth going for a date, to be honest

If you are sure your marriage is over why hang on to them? Get them cut off , sell the gold and diamonds and by a ring that you like. Or get them remodelled . Otherwise I would question whether you were ready for another relationship ?

Pull some thread through wrap it around your finger on the tip end and then pull the other end. It should pull the thread through and pull the ring slowly with it

I mean I could be widowed at still want to wear them. If they ask just be honest

It seems as though they are comfortable to wear so leave them on . Rings should be tight and many of us cannot get them off. But as others suggest, wear other rings as well so they dont stand out so much. If you get them cut off you will just have a groove in your finger left which will make your date feel suspicious. If he asks about your rings just explain that they wont come off and he should understand.

@styleitoutttt I'm a jeweller, we don't charge to cut rings off and I don't know any other jewellers that do, we just charge if you then want it to be repaired. Better a jeweller than emergency services, as they tell me that their cutting tools for it are often quite blunt. Pop to a jewellers and see (sounds like from other threads on here you'd be better with an independent than a chain, chains seem to charge for everything). I re-sell Tiffany items, you're right that it probably does hold value, and if they're cut off correctly they would be easy to repair if you wanted. However, just to warn you most fingers take about 4 weeks to go back to normal anyway - may want to put a different ring on for your date if you're conscious about it. Definitely get them cut off though for your finger health, the engagement ring in particular looks very constrictive

*if your date is imminent, pop some rings on other fingers, maybe add a couple of bracelets - this will help them to blend in and not be as noticeable. This will buy you some time to see about either having then cut off or trying again to remove them. Try 1st thing in the morning - your hands won't be as swollen, and try again with neat washing up liquid.

I mean, just explain? Unless you planned on lying about being married I don't see this as a big deal?

@burnttoad Same- I’d go mad with a ring constricted finger it looks so painful, even if it isn’t.
It looks as if the rings themselves are causing the finger to swell - the circulation being impeded-
Rather like how a “ Cock ring” is meant to work in men to keep an erection going for longer than usual.

WHY ARE YOU ASKING THEN?

🤣

Could you not just fake a broken finger? 😂 Loads of bandages you can buy off Amazon for your “poor finger”. And it will be a talking point. Just don’t get pissed and forget how you broke it.

Id maybe put a plaster over it and not mention anything but you'll need to take them off at some point so I would probably get them cut off at some point but not just for a date

Hold an ice pack in your hand and hold your hand above your head as long as you can stand.

See earlier advice from Bobbyy11 with the thread. There's a You Tube video showing this. My rings were really tight and hurting me. Tried this and it worked.

Sounds like you need a fireman/woman takes a minute!

If you want to move on you’ll get them cut off at a jeweller.

Wearing lots of rings is the easiest solution for now.

Is the ring off, OP?

Makes me all sorts of unsettled just thinking about it.
I can't imagine wearing anything just because it's stuck - a ring, an earring, or anything else.
And it would stand out to me as odd behaviour on a date.