Daughter has Reverted to Islam and wants to celebrate EID - Clueless please help

[Frenchy163]

She’s home from Uni and would like to celebrate EID, (we live in a really white area, the closest authentic restaurant is 40 miles away) I’ve done a google search and there’s so much choice I’m not sure where to begin.

Could anyone help me please, are there some strict No’s as to what I shouldn’t cook (I know about Pork) is there anything that absolutely signifies EID (apologies if that isn’t the right terminology) that I should absolutely make?

If anyone has a little meal plan to share that would be awesome please.

Thanks in advance

maybe it's a man thing... but I am a woman and am strongly allergic to wrapping presents. I just give them as is.

I'm sorry but this isn't specific to Muslims. It's a whole world global thing that it's a woman (more than a man) who tends to cook in the home. It's of course entirely dependable on the kind of household you live in. But don't be saying it's only Muslim men who don't cook that's absolutely ridiculous. There are men out there who help their partners and love to cook and do this in their home. There are also Muslim men who help in the household, cook and clean and like to do it. I cannot believe in this day and age there are still people so shallow minded.

Seeing as revert only applies to those who convert to Islam, I'm not sure why it bothers anyone. Those who are bothered would never be called reverts.
It's simply seen as the opposite of being born of original sin - being born of innocence and then coming back to it.

I'm not religious myself and I'm no more offended by that than by people telling me I'll burn in hell for not accepting Jesus Christ.

Definitely a man thing. My dad's the same. "Here's a supermarket carrier bag with a gift tag on it..." 🤦🏻‍♀️

Your daughter is so lucky to have a supportive mum. I hope you have a lovely Eid together.

if your daughter became a Muslim to fit in with her uni friend's, how come she's not celebrating eid with them, rather than involving her atheist family. Do your beliefs not count.

I come from a family where all us sisters have husbands who cook for us. My dad cooks, my brothers cook. My husband wraps gifts very well too. And big shocker to the ignorant people he also helps tidy and maintain the house as well a provide for it

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They just have to read the posts from mnetters complaining about organising everything for Christmas & Easter. It's not just Muslim men who don't organise their family celebrations, it's British men as well. Although some mnetters are too blinded by their racism to notice their own lazy partners because they're not Muslim it doesn't count. 🤔

I thought the whole point of being an atheist was that you don't have any beliefs when it comes to religion? Celebrations are fun, I'm atheist and ate my weight in chocolate a few days ago to celebrate Easter, I'm sure the OP is more than happy to add another celebration into her life.

How on earth does another religion’s beliefs and terms used affect you? No one is asking you to use the term.

I’m a Muslim - my dad and brothers all cook.

My white British Christian father in law has never cooked or cleaned.

Male laziness is not exclusive to Islam.

Absolutely, Im an atheist who has eaten my body weight in chocolate this easter, enjoys Christmas, and also enjoys Eid when normally someone I work with brings in samosas or sweet treats for the team. the more festivals I can help people celebrate the better!

Gosh between the weird anti Arab rant and this you sure do have a lot of negative things to say for someone who has only "observed their friends", don't you.

Gosh, sometimes you forget how prevalent Islamophobia is, and sometimes you read a thread like this.

OP: For Eid, my (Arab, Palestinian) extended family go out for a lovely brunch together at an Arab or Australian cafe, no preference. After month fasting, it's lovely to enjoy a leisurely brunch and coffee!

Then we go home and a lot of people have a nap, to be honest.

For the main meal- the food doesn't really matter all that much. We eat obviously traditional Palestinian food. Then sweets! You could make a lovely cake, whatever your daughter's favourite is. If you want to cook something from the culture of your daughter's friends, maybe you could reach out to one of them and ask for a recipe, or for them to put you in touch with their parents for a recipe?

On Eid morning before all of this, we go to pray together. Because it's everyone at once, it's not in a mosque but a community hall or park (weather dependent). Maybe you could look up local Eid prayers and take her? You would be very welcome to come and hang at the back or in the car. You don't need to wear a headscarf. (ETA- I'm not saying this to try and stealth convert you lol. Just that it's the main religious event on Eid really)

We also put on the local Muslim radio show as soon as we get up, because it is live streaming the traditional pre- Eid prayers chant (takbir) which really starts the day in a very Eid mood.

I hope you and your daughter have a beautiful Eid. She is very blessed to have you.

It's really sad to see such blatant islamaphobia.
An essential part of Ramadan is giving to charity. Uk Muslims are really generous givers to charity. They help feed the homeless, give to the foodbank and donate money for local and global causes.
They do a lot of good as a community but unfortunately, only negative aspects are pointed out. Often those that are present in all cultures yet somehow become a Muslim issue, as illustrated by this thread.

The OP.
WANTS to cook a meal for Eid to support of daughter
Her daughter isn't asking to convert or revert to Islam !

There's no specific 'eid food', people generally just cook special foods from their cultures. Perhaps you could give her a little eid present and card as a nice gesture? Also you said you live in an area without Muslims? Perhaps you can research where the local mosque is? Or their Facebook page. Sometimes places hold community celebratory gatherings which she would be welcomed at and could meet new people which would be really lovely.

I think that you sound like a lovely and caring mum and I hope you get some great advice about food on here.

I have never met a Muslim who hasn't been a warm and caring person. I admire their strong faith. However I would never be able to use the word 'reverted'. I wasn't born a Muslim.

exactly

I am a Conservative Muslim and normally start my Xmas eating around the beginning of November with mince view progressing onto criminal quantities of cheese, roast goose on Xmas day and munching on left overs until New years day when the guilt hits me. should I stop doing this now as per @Zwellers ?

festivals and eating are not limited to people of that faith, otherwise what a boring world it would be!

@Frenchy163 Hi OP, I havent managed to read all replies but I just wantedto say you sound like such a lovely mum! If you can, decorate the house and get her a small gift- my younger girls hsve wrapped presents and the older kids have money in a nice envelope!

Turkish food is very easy to cook- think lentil soup with parsley and lemon
Hummus, baba ganoush with toasted pitta
Grilled chicken or minced meat kebabs and a big salad.

Hope it all goes well

Sew goose is interesting. I make goose and all my muslim friend's and family happily enjoy. They even sell (bloody expensive) halal geese and ducks.
BUT. I have met few NA muslims who told us that goose/ruck etc are haram actually. Animals and birds which have membranes between fingers (for swimming while also being land/air).
I find the variations fascinating

that's interesting... never heard of that before. but there is a lot of variation and differences of opinion which is quite fascinating.

yes it's bloody expensive. I buy mine from willow brook farm and its utterly delicious.

Hi Op I read your thread yesterday and got disheartened by all the Islamophobic comments which derailed the thread. What a lovely thing you are doing as a mum for your daughter. Eid is a celebration just like Christmas. Make your own traditions with her. Buy her a present, she might want to wear new outfit on the day, spend time together as a family, go for a walk, eat delicious food together. Desserts are a big thing for my family. If there is a mosque nearby, she might want to go pray there. Additionally the local muslim community might be having an eid party on the day or the days after. She might want to donate to charity on Eid. There is no hard rules. We all celebrate differently.

Is there a mosque locally she could attend?

Hi, I literally made an account on this website to reply to this post. First of, I’m a revert of 5 years and I would’ve been so happy if my family were this concerned about making sure I had a good eid. You are an amazing mother for this, there’s so many parents who make their children feel like strangers for becoming Muslim so thank you so much for being such a caring mother. Please ignore the harsh comments regarding your daughter making her own food, it’s such an amazing thing you’re doing making food for your daughter to please her. In regards to the food, any food she likes would be suitable for Eid, because it’s a celebration, for example I made a lasagne for Eid.
You’re a lovely mother, please keep being you :)