Daughter has Reverted to Islam and wants to celebrate EID - Clueless please help

[Frenchy163]

She’s home from Uni and would like to celebrate EID, (we live in a really white area, the closest authentic restaurant is 40 miles away) I’ve done a google search and there’s so much choice I’m not sure where to begin.

Could anyone help me please, are there some strict No’s as to what I shouldn’t cook (I know about Pork) is there anything that absolutely signifies EID (apologies if that isn’t the right terminology) that I should absolutely make?

If anyone has a little meal plan to share that would be awesome please.

Thanks in advance

Having googled it, yep they’ll lose their minds lol

The thing is there's no one way to celebrate Eid. Just as different Christian countries have different Christmas traditions, different Muslim countries have different traditions. In my husband's home country, children get new clothes and Eid money. People eat special biscuits call kahk and visit family. As we now live in the UK, we created our own tradition that we would go out for brunch when my husband and sons came back from prayer. The kids would then have kfc for dinner as it's too spicy for them during Ramadan. Don't overthink it, just do something nice. There's no right or wrong way.

Break the fast with dates - they're just under a fiver at Asda. Eid Mubarak!

They won't have time to mention it amongst all the Islam hate spewing....

You sound like a lovely mum, OP

Did you just go out of your way to be nasty? Maybe if you had actually read the OPs posts instead if being so fast to try and put the boot in you wouldn't have made yourself looks so daft.

I do find reverted unacceptable, as if it is our natural state.

Converted would be much more acceptable.

ok. But you didn’t answer the ops question about food.

Then don’t accept it. As muslims thats what we say. We will continue to say it.

I don’t think that people who are questioning the term “reverted” in this context are necessarily “spewing hate”.
It’s just a bit of an odd concept, in the same way “original sin” is, I suppose.

BBC Sounds did a good, accessible podcast about Modern Islam and Ramadan, called "Not Even Water" which answers a lot of questions about the practice, traditions and faith from young Muslims' viewpoints.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/sounds/brand/p0f5xdf3?partner=uk.co.bbc

Plus I never saw a Muslim man cook! It frustrated me how with my friends the pressure always fell to them to organise everything over Ramadan and Eid.

This totally and also you sound like a lovely mother OP x

My DH is a much better cook than I am. He loves it, too, while for me it's more of a chore.

He does not, however, understand the importance of wrapping presents and would happily give things in the carrier bag from the shop.

I could record you my DH and inlaws if you want to see Muslim men cook for Eid....
The only time women do all prep in his family is when they are housewifes or taken off work. Nowadays they also work so it's split.
Though there is one SIL who is exception whet she works or not, because no one else can make that nice makdoush, wine leaves and kousa. We tried...

If you don't believe in Islam/religion then please know you don't have to accept anything or agree with it. It's fine for you to not agree. We're not forcing our beliefs on anyone else. It's for us only to believe in those concepts. You are absolutely able to reject it. It doesn't have to make any sense to you.

What an odd comment!
All the men in my family cooks including my grandfather who cooked till he was in his 90s before he died.
The burden of cooking naturally and unfairly falls to women due to social constructs (I don't agree with this). But if we go by your logic then within my non Muslim circles, it's always the women who are also burdened with the cooking while they also work full time for example my White female friends, or my Jamaican female friends, and my Hindu female friends. So it's a bit odd to say only Muslim men don't cook.

@KennaThomas never mind the endless Xmas threads with women exhausted hosting the meal

DH cooks at least as often as I do.

OP don’t overthink it. I am not Muslim but DH and the DC are. I am British by birth DH is a North African immigrant.

For Eid we will cook what people enjoy eating rather than a specific food. Some North Africans will cook couscous as that is a celebration food. I wouldn’t be surprised if we end up with chicken katsu curry for the DC 🤣
I would consider a vegetable tagine with couscous and things on the side like falafel, hummus, baba ganoush (most supermarkets will have these) nice bread and possibly some baklava for dessert.

If your DD has fasted for the month she may not be able to eat a huge meal for Eid. We invariably overcook.

@WitchyWay

"I'd never heard of that before. That seems a terribly arrogant stance, to assert that everyone was born Muslim. Nonsense.

I think it's lovely you're supporting your daughter OP. I would also support mine, although I would also ask them to take it slowly and to remember that religion is a social construct. Your daughter sounds impressionable, I hope she's got some critical thinking skills too. Is she intending on staying in her uni town once graduated?"

Well actually, @Waffleson is right. We Muslims believe that we are all born as a Muslim and the term revert is used when you do choose to believe in Islam. Maybe do some research before calling it nonsense as this is highly offensive.

Again, saying that religion is a social construct and then going on to hoping OPs daughter has some critical thinking is also offensive. What we believe in isn't created by man.

gosh the irony!

being rude and offensive to others and their beliefs all the while calling them arrogant and rude and offensive?

everyone is allowed to believe whatever they want

I don't agree with atheism as an ideology but I would never go round calling atheists names or say I have x problem with atheists

also the starting point should always be trying to understand and learn about other beliefs/ideas rather than throw around random accusations based on no real study

Muslims believe that every child is born innocent and knowing God. Muslim means one who knows God and submits themselves to His Will. As children grow up they forget their original knowledge of God. When as adults they accept Islam, they revert to their original state of knowing God. You don't have to agree with this or even like it. That is completely fine. Every believer or non believer out there believes there position to be the correct one (except agnostics I suppose). otherwise they wouldn't subscribe to that ideology. the only way polite society works is if we are tolerant of each others beliefs.

You sound like an amazing mum – she’s very lucky to have you.
no special food that I’m aware of for Eid – you can literally whatever you want. This is the Eid that is celebrated after having fasted for 30 days. So in all honesty, most people don’t eat very much anyway so light food, that’s easy to digest is best!

I think that’s more of a man thing as my husband is the same