Sex/gender disappointment- why is it always boys?

[Beautifulsunflowers]

I’m just interested- I don’t think I’ve ever seen a thread where the poster is disappointed at having a girl.

Surely there’s always a 50/50 chance of either sex.

I post this as the mother of two boys so maybe there’s something I’m missing. Im not trying to be goady - I’m genuinely curious.

i struggled with infertility and after successful ivf I was just so thrilled to be having a baby I really didn’t mind what sex I had.
Further ivf attempts failed so we went through the adoption process and the social worker asked us if we would like a girl as we already had a boy - she thought a girl would make our family complete - I told her that I just wanted a second child to complete our family, to be a sibling to our son. I couldn’t understand deciding on a second child but only wanting a particular sex.
In the event I discovered I was pregnant just before facing panel. I got my second child to complete my family - a second boy. I was delighted! I’d have been delighted either way.

So I’m just really interested in what makes people disappointed in having a boy? It does make me feel upset when I read those posts, as though boys are second best and not as valued as girls.

Oh no idea, I saw it mentioned upthread and was intrigued myself!

@TheBirdintheCave

Thank you for explaining, that makes sense.

Well let's face it, men can be very problematic. And the responsibility of raising a good man in this society can be crushing. Despite a boy also being influenced by his peers, the media, his father and other relatives, if he ends up selfish, emotionally illiterate, entitled or abusive the blame will be assigned to you, as his mother.

I was glad to have two boys.

I was a tomboy and worried a bit what it would be like if I had a girl and she was into pink and dresses and make up.

I'm sure it would have been ok, but it felt easier having boys

I didn't mind whether I had girls or boys and ended up with both, but I will say that I would rather live in a house full of females than a house full of males, because as a pp said, its familiar to me. I am from a very large family, boys and girls, and I hardly ever see my brothers, they just aren't bothered, while I see a lot of my sisters.

I have one of each. I didn’t have any preference - I just wanted 2 and we didn’t find out the sex before birth either. Ask me now and I would say I can’t imagine life without a daughter but that’s because I have DD and I couldn’t imagine my life without her. I’m sure if I had 2 boys I would be equally as happy.

DH’s cousin cries at the 20 week scan of his third child. He had 2 boys and the third pregnancy was to try for a girl and he was a boy. Wtf?