Does shortening of names annoy you?

[JoanThursday1972]

It happens at work where Matthew gets incensed at being called Matt by people not being invited to do so.

My real irritant is when a name is shortened to one syllable and an s added to the end of it. Nats, Debs, Sophs, Ems, etc. And Daz, Baz, Gaz and Haz.

I wish...I've been asked countless times if I go by a nickname. It can be a way people build rapport though, not always laziness.

I only use the shortened version of my name, my email address/signature etc is all set up as the shortened version.
Some people still insist on typing the long version of my name, most often spelling it incorrectly.
Take the hint people, if you can't find the long version to check how to spell it maybe go with the obvious and shorten it!

I think this is out of politeness. I have a few people that have short names in their email - [email protected] and then Johnathan on their signature for example and I start the email with either no name or Johnathan because I only know him professionally so don't know if I should be using the shorter version.

It's a real treacherous area!

I know some David's (example) who are most offended if you call them Dave!

I also had a colleague who signed off emails "Debs" but only some people were allowed to call her this!

I tend to use what people introduce themselves to me as but I would feel weird introducing myself as anything other than Deborah / Amy. How do you tell people you have a nickname? That's for others to use, not you?!

I find the people who shorten my name are warmer on the whole but it tends to be a false narrative. They want you to think they are your mate.

I'm a Deborah/amy and used to be debs/aims but my mum used it and then it just felt cringe so then I was a deb/aim but as a mature adult (lol) people have started calling me Deborah/amy again. Even DH

It doesn't bother me. Someone calls me a word that rhymes with my name. So it's not my name at all. It's fine. If you have a really long name people are not going to bother to say the whole thing.

This is why I prefer names that don’t have obvious short versions, unless you really like the short version. If you have a name that is typically shortened (e.g. Victoria - Vicky) but don’t like the shortening, then you have to go through life saying, no I’m not Vicky, I’m Victoria, which must be annoying (and could make you seem quite formal to some people).

Oh god I've just realised I have friends with all of the names you posted! I'm not bothered by that - more annoying is having an unusual name and repeatedly being called something that sounds a bit like it (my auntie still calls me Josh, she's known me since I was born and I am not a man 😅).

Someone in my company is called Sarah-Jane, and has a double barrelled surname as well. She is called SJ all the time, in official documents, on email, everything, nobody calls her by her name (or their, as she goes by they/them but is a Mrs).

The worst one I've come across at work is a man called BJ.

You're literally called blowjob 😅

And if you can't shorten it you add an 'o' hence 'Johno'

I tell people what my name is and then they decide to take it upon themselves to shorten it, to make themselves feel like we are "familiar".

I don't like it.

Sometimes people call me by a shortened version of my name that I really hate. They usually do stop doing it if I say I don't like it, but I wish they wouldn't act as though I'd strangled their cat if I politely ask them to use my name (which is only two syllables). And the ones that keep doing it and pretend they keep forgetting are just dicks.
I do think it's rude to shorten people's names without asking. I have a colleague at work called Jonathan and he signs his name as Jonathan, but some people just assume they can call him Jon.

Doesn’t bother me. My name is one that regularly gets shortened and an added s on the end (think Debs for example) and I just see it as people feel comfortable enough with me to shorten it.

I’m Jen or Jennifer, not Jenny.
Jenny is a lovely name it’s just not quite me.
I do often get random strangers just deciding to call me that when I’ve said Jen.

I absolutely hate it, I think people should be called by their name unless otherwise specified. I purposely chose a name for my daughter that couldn’t be shortened

I hate it unless you've been specifically asked to. To do it to someone else's name because YOU like the abbreviated version is just rude. Some people don't feel confident to correct others, and are then forced to accept being called something that they are not comfortable with. Personally I prefer the shortened version of my name, and that's how I introduce myself, but I would never call anyone else by any name other than how they introduced themselves.

I call people by the name they introduce themselves as. Doesn’t bother me what other people call anyone.

I don't like my name being shortened When people ask if they can call me a shortened version, I say 'Not if you want me to answer'. Then they get 'the look'!

I love it myself. I have never instigated it or do it to others but some workmates do it to me. I feel that it implies a closeness and I like it.

Re `PP my father is called David , he is now in his 80s and has never been known as Dave. If people said it , he just said , David.

Not at all, It actually makes me warm to people when they do it to me and can't really articulate why. I never do it to others though

It’s annoying if that is not the name the person goes by.

if Matthew refers to himself as Matt or signs his email that way then I would call him Matt, otherwise I’d stick to the name he uses.

if someone introduces themself as Debs I’d use that even though I hate it. I can’t bring myself to use the blokey names (a Y on the end of the surname) though.

edit: IRL I use a shortened form of my first name, people usually make incorrect assumptions about what my full name is. It’s annoying & I always correct them.

I find it endearing when people do it. You sound incredibly uptight.

my name is Victoria. People often say Vicky, which isn’t my name. I couldn’t get worked up about it though.

I started a new job. Everyone was friendly, from partners to paralegals. I was introduced as Victoria as that is my name and I like it. Unless you were a school friend or family, in which case I was called Vic, I’m Victoria to everyone, including my husband. One chap, Richard, persisted in calling me Vic, despite my correcting him daily. One day he said, yet again “Good morning Vic”, to which I replied, “If you call me Vic, I will call you Dick!” He never called me Vic again