Does shortening of names annoy you?

[JoanThursday1972]

It happens at work where Matthew gets incensed at being called Matt by people not being invited to do so.

My real irritant is when a name is shortened to one syllable and an s added to the end of it. Nats, Debs, Sophs, Ems, etc. And Daz, Baz, Gaz and Haz.

Funny how a few posters here are calling women uptight for simply wanting people to use their names, not some abbreviated version others have decided on.

Agree. My brother is a Nathan.
couldn’t understand when we were teenagers my mum started suddenly calling him Nate.
still don’t get it

In Birmingham, every name is shortened wherever possible to do so!

My late mum used to say to my brothers friends and my friends on the phone: no one by that name lives here and hang up !

Easier, quicker, jokey - that's what everyone wants, it appears. More than one syllable is a challenge mentally I guess 😂. I like to use the name people introduce themselves by BUT..my daughters are their full names of 3 syllables. I chose them, I like them, I use them.

It only bothers me when my husband does it with celebrity names - he'll be talking about someone like David Cameron and refer to him as Dave so I don't have a clue wtf he's on about!

Other than that, no.

Shortening your name denotes an informality or closeness / familiarity to the person that may not be justified.
So, in my view, it is wrong to do so, unless given permission, similar to the informal / personal way of talking in other languages (French tu / vous).
I especially dislike it when a teacher does it to a child, unless the parent has given permission. They are using an informa version of your name, but the child is still expected to say Sir/Miss, etc.

Yes, it does.
Since I was a child.
It took me to become about 35yo to come to terms to call cousin Nicholas Nick.
😁

I've annoyed a few people with DD's name. Her full name is after my Nana who passed away during my pregnancy, but it's long and a bit of a mouthful for little ones, so we wanted to choose a diminutive for day to day use. Ex and I both liked different common English diminutives, but couldn't agree on one, so we chose an Italian one. The name we chose is a common shortening of two other popular names. I'm often asked if it's short for name A or name B, and am often met with bewilderment when I tell them it's actually name C. Some people have taken real offence. 😬

Absolutely! And even more so if your name is from a different culture. Very rude to ask for nicknames or, worse, “English-versions” of names 😝

My name is 4 letters... which you would think is short enough, however it goes to three with some people, bizarrely not my closest friends.
I don't mind with people I am friendly with but one man at work does it and it absolutely boils my blood because he hardly knows me. Irrational probably ha ha

I think that if you have a three-syllable name, it’s wildly unrealistic to expect people to say the whole thing every time.

I also can’t understand people who pick names because they can’t be shortened. Why not just pick names because you like them?!

Probably choosing short names for their kids because of all the dickheads who shorten theirs however often they're told not to.

I think that if you have a three-syllable name, it’s wildly unrealistic to expect people to say the whole thing every time.

I don't. We're talking a fraction of a second longer. Do you only use words that are under 3 syllables? It's just laziness.

I think adults are capable of saying that they prefer "name" and it is only if someone continues that it is a problem. I have worked with a Steph and a Stephanie and am perfectly capable of remembering which one to use the full name for.

My ds has a longer name that I always use and people often shorten. He is autistic and finds this very confusing, so I do correct people.

No it really isn't unrealistic. It takes a few milliseconds to say the correct full name.

Saw a fab post about the English version of names recently.

'if they can learn to say tchaikovsky they can learn to say "x"'.

Bravo!

I love my beautiful four syllable name and can't bear people shortening it.

You just have to correct people immediately. They soon get the message.

I think people imagine they are being friendly, but it's actually quite presumptuous.