Does shortening of names annoy you?

[JoanThursday1972]

It happens at work where Matthew gets incensed at being called Matt by people not being invited to do so.

My real irritant is when a name is shortened to one syllable and an s added to the end of it. Nats, Debs, Sophs, Ems, etc. And Daz, Baz, Gaz and Haz.

So, new person starts and it's simple. "do you prefer Steven or Steve/Deborah or Debbie or deb etc.

Don't people usually introduce themselves with the name that they prefer to go by, though?

If somebody says "Hi, I'm Steve", why would you need to follow that up with "Do you prefer Steve or Steven/Stephen?" - he's already clearly told you?!

both mine and my husbands names can be shortened.

I shorten his and he shortens mine. For some reason it annoys me when other people shorten his name though 🤷🏼‍♀️😂

I can't get excited about it, bizarrely people rarely shorten my name though it would be an easy and obvious common abbreviation. Only my DH does, so if course I love it.

I did 'weaponise' the reverse though... I had a neighbour I was on friendly terms with and he invited me to stop calling him Peter and call him Pete, only friends are allowed this privilege he explained.
Then a while later he behaved like an absolute arse over an extended period of time, and I decided I didn't like him at all anymore... so I now address him as Peter, subtly but clearly making the point I don't wish to be considered his friend. 🤣

I've got a name that can't be shortened, and I always wished I did. I think shortening of names is friendly.

Nate.

Why is is it Nate?

Nathaniel should be Nat imo.

I knew a Nathaniel -Nat sometime ago. Lovely chap. Definitely not a Nate. It's weird

It drives me mad. I have a five letter name. It not difficult. Why shorten it and particularly at work when I've never even met the person. Urgh.

I think if someone doesn't like having their name shortened, it's very rude to continue to do so.

My name cannot be shortened so it's never been an issue I've experienced. But I don't find shortened versions of names generally annoying.

I have a name which I have only ever used the shortened version. I always found it jarring hearing my full name, it was never on the registers at schools or in my email signature or even on my driving licence until I changed jobs and they automatically used it. I've grown to like it as it feels more grown up but I still sign off with my shortened name.
Those really close to me shorten my shortened name even further to the dreaded one syllable with an 's' at the end that lot's have complained about above. I actually quite like it but it would feel a bit weird if people at work started using it, it wouldn't bother me enough to correct them though.
On the other side of things my husband is known by his nickname by everyone which is a playful variant of his shortened name, which he was given at boarding school by a teacher. I have never used it and always call him by his full name, he'd probably find it weird if I started using it now.

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my name is similar to Deborah and I didn’t invite people to call me anything else. Still people at work think they cna call me Debs or Debbie. Not ok.

I’m the opposite. I don’t like the long version of my name so I only go by the shortened version and flinch if people use the long version. Think Penelope but going by Penny on everything.

I do tend to ask when I meet someone new how to pronounce their name if I’m not sure and whether they prefer to go by Stephen or Steve. If they have a preference I respect that.

I hate it. People often shorten my name because it’s a common one to do that with - think Sam for Samantha.

I always say very bluntly ‘it’s Samantha actually, not Sam’.

My nearest and dearest might call me Sam, but someone I’ve just met assuming that level of familiarity is irksome and presumptuous.

I hate it. Someone I was at uni with just contacted me and wants to meet up. Except she keeps calling me by a shortened version of my name. She never did this at uni. It’s making me twitch.

I dislike people that won't allow shortening of their commonly shortened names. The Davids and Stevens of the world. I find them too uptight

I only shorten if they have told me that's what they are called. I do shorten my kids names though!

My name is similar to Amanda in that it's not too long but there are still some obvious nicknames you can use.

Everyone assumes my nickname is (for example) Mandy when I actually prefer Andi. I've never had an issue once I've corrected them though.

It's not "uptight" to not want to be called by a name that you don't associate with yourself, FFS!

I find it really strange on here, because I had my babies in the 90s we always chose names that couldn't be shortened .But on here people (baby names ) they want to choose names with nicknames . 🤔I didn't choose names and call them something else

I have a 4 syllable Henrietta genre name.

It is never shortened and never has been. I do not engage with those who shorten it.

If people do not have the courtesy to ask if they may shorten another's name, that speaks volumes about them. If they persist when being asked not to, they are exquisitely rude imo.

My MIL shortened my first name once. And only once. I simply responded "my name is xxxxxxx, it is never shortened". She didn't like it. I didn't care. My name is my name and it is up to nobody to decide they may call me something else. She is the only person who has ever tried it. I always introduce myself with my full name.

I tend to call people whatever they introduce themselves to me as.

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I find it weird on here how many people have a name they like and then ask for what longer name you can put on the birth certificate that might stretch to the name you want.
Or worse, they think they can control their children's nicknames so there's threads like "We love Binky or Tibby as a nickname. Do you think that Tabitha would work as their birth certificate name? We'd obviously be introducing baby as either Binky or Tibby to friends and family but it gives them options to have a formal name".

We ruled out some names because we didn't like the likely shortenings and know that you can't police your child and their friends. Trying to control nicknames by allocating them seems weirdly uptight to me.

I don’t do it to other people but really don’t care if my name is shortened, which it often is, sometimes to my initial. Far worse things to worry about tbh.

I use someone's full name unless they refer to themselves in the shortened version or sign their email Matt instead of Matthew for example.

No, my name has been shortened since birth. My full name is on my birth certificate.

Dh doesn't like his name shortened. While in USA they called him Larry instead of Laurence. He had to tell them it's Laurence.

I have a name that has a really common short version. I absolutely hate it, I will only let my grandad call me it.
It also put me off so many baby names, I love Joshua but hate Josh. The same for Samuel, Joseph, Matthew, Daniel etc.

Do like Johnny did to Janet's dad, when they had an 'issue' in Two Pints of Lager, and call him Petie McPetiePops