Does shortening of names annoy you?

[JoanThursday1972]

It happens at work where Matthew gets incensed at being called Matt by people not being invited to do so.

My real irritant is when a name is shortened to one syllable and an s added to the end of it. Nats, Debs, Sophs, Ems, etc. And Daz, Baz, Gaz and Haz.

YES ugh I can't stand it when people do this 😭like even about other people. I can't even explain why. It just sends my skin crawling.

I do think it works for names starting with G or B. But any other initial is a hard no from me. I know someone who refers to her husband named Ashley as 'A' and I just think it's so cringeworthy. Sorry.

My name is elongated as it is a short name. People add an I on. Mum hates it but I don't mind it.

I don't respond to the shortening of my name. I've got a standard/easily pronounceable name and I don't like the shortened version. I introduce myself by the name I wish to be referred to as. Anyone who then automatically shortens it, I assume wasn't listening properly, and gets corrected.

That's the thing though. A lot of people DON'T ask. They just decide that they're going to shorten your name. I find that rude because it's presumptuous.

I absolutely hate my name being shortened, the first time anyone shortens it I tell them politely my name is . It's just pure arrogance on their part if they continue after that.

I never allowed anyone to shorten my DDs names either. They are both adults now, and they hate their names being shortened.

If someone asks me to call them by their shortened name, then of course I'll do that, but I just detest it for myself.

It reminds me of a bit in the Durrells-

someone calls Geoffrey Geoff and Prue says very sniffily
"we don't foreshorten"

the irony of course is that Prue is shortened....😂

Not usually, what annoys me is unconventional spelling, so a child spends a lifetime correcting it. Not a loving thing to do in my opinion.

as of my username i go by my nickname as opposed to my proper name i prefer it

Don’t like it. If that’s how I wanted to be addressed, that’s how I’d introduce myself, and I don’t. Family and friends of family shorten mine, which I dislike and accept. Some old friends do it, and again I dislike but accept it because it doesn’t seem worth making a fuss about it. But I also like that nobody I’ve met in the last 15 years does it.

My name is only 3 letters. I hate having the s added on the end.
I’ll only shorten a name if invited to do so.

My 6yo son is Andrew which I've never shortened and if anyone does try to ge tells them off

Same. There are two short versions of my name, and I don’t like either. My name is only two syllables to start with!

Someone asked the other day if I minded either version and I said no, please use my full name. Next time I saw her she promptly called me by the short version again. 🙄

I don't mind my name being shortened but I hate being called a different version of my name. So if I was called Samantha, I wouldn't mind Sam but would object to Sammy.

I've got a Matthew and Daniel....and I'm the only one who calls them by their given name...they're Matt and Dan to EVERYONE!!
It doesn't bother me TBH as it's their choice... but I do love their full names...

My youngest I gave a one syllable name to make sure this didn't happen however !!!!

Yes and I correct people every time.

It's very rude.

I hate it. As soon as I moved to England I had to keep correcting people on my name. I strangely find that English also tend to choose a nickname along with a registered name for a baby.
Sometimes I hear people with longer nicknames than their actual name
The English just seems to be allergic to calling someone by their given name.

I have a name that is often shortened to one syllable and then an S put on the end of it (not one you have mentioned) and I like it, I don't necessarily like the name but I like that people close to me have a nickname for me. Not sure why I like it really I think it's just endearing in some way. Although people at work that I'm not close to or acquaintances have never called me by that name and use my full name - I think I would be a bit weirded out if they shortened it.

I actually think it is quite rude.

I introduce myself as eg Katherine and they just call me Kat or Kate.

If I wanted to be called Kat or Kate I would have introduced myself as Kate??

I find it quite intrusive, sort of like - I'm wanting to be all nice to you and your best buddy -

Just call me by the name I told you.
Or at least ask - do you go by Katherine or do you prefer Kat, Kathy, Kate???

Not something which upsets me but it was something I considered a lot when naming my children. For example I like the name Peter but personally not a fan of Pete, so we vetoed Peter as there was. I guarantee it wouldn't be shortened at some point by someone. It's part of life I think and usually a sign of affection or kindness.

Its not your name its your childs name. Surely it would be up to him if he wanted to go by Pete.
This thread seems to be full of very controlling parents.

There was a thread on this recently. The gist of it was - the people who have their name shortened without their say so, find it rude and annoying. And the people who shorten people's names without being invited to do so, say "get over it, it's no big deal".

I've never known anyone to put up with it if they don't like it. Nor should they. Don't most people get asked their name or introduced as xxx, or say - I'm Kathryn call me Katie. Or if they introduce themselves as Kathryn, isn't it just polite to ask what they prefer. DS2 has a name with a couple of very common diminutives which we didn't like so it almost put us off choosing it, but we loved the full name we did choose it, he loves his full name tooand everyone calls him that.

I don’t mind it. My name doesn’t have a short form (ie Joanna -> Jo) but some people do shorten it to the first syllable when they’re talking to me in a friendly way. They wouldn’t address an email to me like that unless it was an informal one. It really doesn’t offend me and I like that they’re comfortable enough with me to do it.

I think I would usually wait for someone to be introduced as “Maz” or “Debs” before I did it, or I would ask but that’s me personally not wanting to overstep.

I work with someone who shortens names to make others feel excluded, like a dog pissing on their territory, particularly new members of staff who aren't aware of how much of a dick he is. I can't stand it.

@TakingTheLowRoad Can you explain, who is he upsetting and how? He definitely sounds like a dick, I just don't get how that works. Does he give new colleagues shortened names without checking they are ok with it, or tell them existing colleague Deborah is called Debs so they mess up?