I am actually in floods over PoW news

[LindaPen]

But not the way you think.

DH was diagnosed with kidney cancer during lockdown. Had the kidney removed and there was talk of preventative chemotherapy. They decided he didn't need it. A year later he was dead.

I have often wondered (but tried not to think too hard about it) whether that decision would have been different if he'd been someone important, or treated privately and somehow this news has "proved" that. I should have fought for him.

Obviously wish PoW well, but this is hard 😪

Big love to you xxxxx 💕

Oh OP, that’s an awful thing to have endured. I’m so sorry.

💛 so sorry for your loss OP. I'm sure you did your very, very best and supported him as much as you could, in the right way for him.

Its so hard isn't it.

My daughter was on life support, and then she died, and it really hits hard when I see parents going through the courts refusing to take their child off theirs and the ensuing crowds of people with banners and chanting.

I think it's a really common feeling.

My advice would be to take a step back from the news for a few days, just until this initial hit of pain has passed. Allow yourself to feel your feelings for a day or two.

I'm so sorry about your husband, life is so shit and unfair sometimes 💐

I was ready to be a bit judgey based on your title. But OP that sounds really tough. I can absolutely understand why you feel that way.

I'm sorry for your loss You shouldn't blame yourself for not fighting for him - Kate's treatment might not have been effective for your husband; quite rightly, we don't know any details of her type of cancer.

@LindaPen 💐

So sorry for your loss. It does feel unfair when you lose someone who was the centre of your world & the world doesn’t go out of its way to help them:you. I’m sorry he didn’t get every chance to stay a little longer.

The main enemy here of course is cancer. It’s an absolute fucker.

I'm so sorry for you, OP, and I completely agree. I've just posted something similar on WhatsApp group with my friends.

Having seen a parent struggle to get an even a diagnosis (with me supporting, and I'm very tenacious), it's hard to ignore the disparity.

I am sorry op for your loss.

Cancer is shitty.

My friend died this year from kidney cancer a year after her diagnosis. She had lots of treatment but it sadly wasn't enough.
What I mean is don't beat your self up as it can go either way.

Be kind to yourself.

Sorry for your loss. I am in a lucky position to have private healthcare, but only in the past decade. It is definitely eye-opening just how big the difference is between private and NHS care (and probably even bigger now that the NHS is much worse). I had some awful NHS care in the past and it's sobering when I read about someone who had the equivalent treatment from a private provider, so unfair.

I am so sad for you to read your very recent experience. I can understand why today's announcement has touched you deeply.

I'm so sorry. I totally understand those thoughts. My DH died during the pandemic (not of covid) and I have been tormented by all the "what ifs". It is agony.

I don't have an answer to it other than try to be kind to yourself. Huge hug if you'd like one xxx

I'm very sorry for what happened to your husband. Sadly I think lots of people will also be re-experiencing similar traumas and going through tough emotions right now.

I’m so sorry. I lost my mum in similar circumstances and I really feel that too.

Wish I'd seen this thread before the other ones.

I definitely feel the same.

So sorry for your loss.

My DH’s friend had cancer, had treatment and check ups and was told he was clear and didn’t need any more check ups for another 2 years. 12 months later he was told the cancer had spread to his bones because he didn’t get it checked. He died 2 months later.

I hope POW and everyone with cancer will recover.

I'm sorry OP

It seems like it's everywhere
My died from cancer in January
I try not to think about it

💐 Do whatever it takes to look after your well-being OP. Sorry for your loss.

I'm sorry op :(
It's must be devastating news receiving a cancer diagnosis and I can't imagine how you must have felt.
A friend of ours was diagnosed with cancer last year and within 12 weeks he sadly passed away.
Such a shock and he wasn't very old.
It's an awful disease.

I am so sorry for your loss. I too felt very sad when I saw the video. My DP of 20 years was diagnosed with cancer on the Wednesday and died on the Friday morning before he was due to have chemo. This was during Covid time so I hardly had any time with him.

I am so sorry for your loss, Op, and everyone else on this thread who has lost loved ones prematurely.

I'm sorry for your loss OP but please remember rich people die of cancer too. Sometimes all the money in the world can't cure someone.

Sorry for your loss

That is horrendous, I'm so sorry for your loss @LindaPen 😢💔

Yes also in tears after watching the POW's video, to think she had to plead so publicly for some privacy is a sad sign of our times.
She was so stoic & eloquent in the video, what a wonderful brave woman. I really hope she makes a full recovery & is left alone to recuperate.

Also thinking of Prince William who's father & wife are both undergoing chemo & the Wales children whose Mum & Grandad are unwell.